Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

I'm reading the last page and the thing with being generous is that it become the expected behavior. It's already hard with family and friends to be generous once because of specifics circumstances without future expectation. I can't imagine dealing with giving something extra in a service oriented context.

I had written a comment along those lines but I deleted it.. I'm a generous person by nature, in my personal life and as a SP, but I've realized that while some are appreciative, some people take advantage of it or start expecting it.

I have to take responsibility for my own actions too.. I can't really blame a client I've given a bunch of extra time for free to start expecting it, specially if he really enjoys seeing me. It can become hard setting that boundary without fearing losing the client.. I don't think I'm alone in this. Other SP, both indies and agency girls, have confided in me that they felt the same.

This doesn't mean clients should refuse a SP's generosity. I'm glad when I can make someone feel special I just want it to be understood that this may not always be possible....

 

[Enjoying life]

Fun

Thanks Luna!

 

[Enjoying life]

I had written a comment along those lines but I deleted it.. I'm a generous person by nature, in my personal life and as a SP, but I've realized that while some are appreciative, some people take advantage of it or start expecting it.

I have to take responsibility for my own actions too.. I can't really blame a client I've given a bunch of extra time for free to start expecting it, specially if he really enjoys seeing me. It can become hard setting that boundary without fearing losing the client.. I don't think I'm alone in this. Other SP, both indies and agency girls, have confided in me that they felt the same.

This doesn't mean clients should refuse a SP's generosity. I'm glad when I can make someone feel special I just want it to be understood that this may not always be possible....

The sp wants to make sure you are happy with responding to your requests in a timely manner and if it goes over an hour cool if not no big deal!

 

[mtremblay]

Pour les cadeaux, si c'est pour tenter d'obtenir quelque chose d'extra un jour. À la place, il est mieux de mettre l'argent (destiné aux cadeaux) de côté in a piggy bank et lorsqu'il y en a assez, de payer un 30-60 min. de plus. Une des raisons que je prends goût à rencontrer des professionnelles, c'est que je n'ai pas à me soucier de ce genre de game. J'apporte argent et respect (étiquette, hygiene, consentement, savoir vivre, limites, etc.) en échange des services offerts. C'est simple et aussi éphémère que soient ces rencontres, ça m'apporte une plénitude qui me comble.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Pour les cadeaux, si c'est pour tenter d'obtenir quelque chose d'extra un jour. À la place, il est mieux de mettre l'argent (destiné aux cadeaux) de côté in a piggy bank et lorsqu'il y en a assez, de payer un 30-60 min. de plus. Une des raisons que je prends goût à rencontrer des professionnelles, c'est que je n'ai pas à me soucier de ce genre de game. J'apporte argent et respect (étiquette, hygiene, consentement, savoir vivre, limites, etc.) en échange des services offerts. C'est simple et aussi éphémère que soient ces rencontres, ça m'apporte une plénitude qui me comble.

Juste pour clarifier, je ne pense pas que les clients qui offrent des cadeaux ont une idée de ce genre derrière la tête en général. Mais si c'est le cas, je suis d'accord avec ce que tu dis. C'est clair que si un client est très généreux (book des rdv de 2 à 4 heures très souvent, comme la question initiale le demandait, etc) c'est un peu normal d'offrir quelque chose en extra selon moi. Le respect que tu mentionne est très important par contre.. Il y a des limites que j'ai qui ne peuvent pas être achetées. Sur ce, bonne nuit à tous. Je ne pense pas répondre à une autre question avant un bout de temps car je veux conserver mon énergie pour mes clients et ma vie personnelle.

 

[LC18]

I'm reading the last page and the thing with being generous is that it become the expected behavior. It's already hard with family and friends to be generous once because of specifics circumstances without future expectation. I can't imagine dealing with giving something extra in a service oriented context.

Same with us with clients. If I extend once for free because I’m in a good mood, is the client going to expect me to do it everytime?

 

[LeDodo]

Same with us with clients. If I extend once for free because I’m in a good mood, is the client going to expect me to do it everytime?

I think it's a common question shared between clients and SPs. Like if you tip once, does it have to be each time?

I think it's natural to have expectations after having it once. It's a work on selves to manage our emotions regarding that and just be grateful when receiving it but to just not think about before when receiving it.

There is actually a Chinese idiom that exactly describes such mindset: 知足常樂

someone should be grateful for what they have or have been offered, and not demand something better

 

[LC18]

Since most of us have blurred face, finally seeing our face is a surprise.

Have you ever met a SP that looked like someone you know? How did you feel about it?

 

[philonius]

Since most of us have blurred face, finally seeing our face is a surprise.

Have you ever met a SP that looked like someone you know? How did you feel about it?

Only once, they looked like a girl in high school that I almost dated and I look back on with just a tinge of regret. I told her that and we kinda flowed right into a mini-roleplay/one-that-got-away wish-fulfillment thing that was crazy hot and I think gave me a little closure. Wait.. this is ask US (you) anything!

 

[philonius]

I think this was answered in a previous thread but I always find the pre-sex shower a funny transition point. Do you like to start kissing, getting it on over clothes before the shower is had, or would you rather have someone shower early on THEN get into it? If it's the former, do you disrobe in advance in case they come out fully nude/toweled or do you hope they partially re-dress so you can resume where you left off?

I have a preference but I can't remember what most sps said they liked.

 

[LC18]

If it's the former, do you disrobe in advance in case they come out fully nude/toweled or do you hope they partially re-dress so you can resume where you left off?

I don’t like waiting there naked so I put a robe on

 

[kabukicho]

Here's a question: Are there times you consciously try not to cum, when with a client? I know everyone has different post-orgasm refractory periods so I'm wondering if there's scenarios where you deliberately hold out, like if the session is a long one or if it becomes too sensitive immediately following or you know your horniness might wane afterwards? I wonder genuinely bc I do this sometimes, mainly just to stay on the razors edge of climax, and I'm curious if there's more reasons to do it since continued/prolonged intimacy may be expected.

have definitely seen sp hold out or cut short and basically say, your turn. also have repeated w/ a sp who when she does allow herself to,, she'll come in minutes and its vocal.

 

[philonius]

have definitely seen sp hold out or cut short and basically say, your turn. also have repeated w/ a sp who when she does allow herself to,, she'll come in minutes and its vocal.

Yeah, it's happened to me too and they said they wanted me to cum first. After I did and cleaned up we snuggled and then she asked me to finger her and she came. I'm not upset about it but it made me think about the logistics of an sp not cumming on purpose to make sure they're present/able to keep fucking through the whole session.

 

[LeDodo]

Question for both clients and SPs: do you go more often (or maybe all the time?) to "nice" restaurants with a client/SP? The quotes are here to cater for the wide spectrum of good restaurants.

When you are a civilian I assume you have to eat at least 3 meals a day and you won't eat all your meal at nice restaurants all the time.

So for clients and SPs these social dates encounter are kind of being able to enjoy special occasions most the time. Which (sadly) puts civilian a bit in the shadow ...

 

[philonius]

Question for both clients and SPs: do you go more often (or maybe all the time?) to "nice" restaurants with a client/SP? The quotes are here to cater for the wide spectrum of good restaurants.

When you are a civilian I assume you have to eat at least 3 meals a day and you won't eat all your meal at nice restaurants all the time.

So for clients and SPs these social dates encounter are kind of being able to enjoy special occasions most the time. Which (sadly) puts civilian a bit in the shadow ...

Of the last 5 times I went to a "nice restaurant" all 5 were with an sp. Haute cuisine is not really my style but I enjoy it every once in a while or when the situation requires it (ie. when the sp chooses it or I think is too hot to eat at a normal restaurant without being out of place lol).

 

[Rebaynia]

Question for both clients and SPs: do you go more often (or maybe all the time?) to "nice" restaurants with a client/SP? The quotes are here to cater for the wide spectrum of good restaurants.

I haven't been to restaurants with others in this line of work. I have had someone cook me really amazing exotic food before though.

When you are a civilian I assume you have to eat at least 3 meals a day and you won't eat all your meal at nice restaurants all the time.

I tend to eat 1 meal a day, and often just something cheap and easy to prepare. Or off the value menu at McD's, or Timmy's.

So for clients and SPs these social dates encounter are kind of being able to enjoy special occasions most the time. Which (sadly) puts civilian a bit in the shadow ...

I haven't really been on that many dates in my life, in civi or work. Though I find it charming when someone I see for a visit, makes part of our time together, like a mini date.

 

[Nachoy]

Do you ever use vibrators or dildos upon clientele request?

 

[LC18]

Do you ever use vibrators or dildos upon clientele request?

Again

 

[Zero_Six]

 

[philonius]

Here's an honest question: How often do you freestyle (just go to bars/clubs and hit on dudes before transitioning to a paid proposition)? I guess I never thought it happened IRL but an sp told me that they do it infrequently but it sometimes results in clients.