Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

This makes no sense whatsoever.
I agree whole heartedly that anybody hurting any woman physically or crossing their boundaries should be punished SP or civilian.

Just how exactly do opinions do that ( pretty hard to harm someone physically with an opinion). Everybody has one and is entitled to one there is no prerequisite to agree with it. Some may just consider yours harmful lol.

There are people who harm people in various ways whether or not they are conscious of it, one of them being slander and insults which can be considered ''opinions'' and in certain spaces these comments can actually have repercussions in other's real lives. Hateful people's opinions do have negative consequences. I've seen people here say that if they get a bad service from a provider they should be able to take the money back or not pay. If a bunch of people start saying that, some will feel emboldened by it and actually steal from providers. Do you see what I mean? That's just an example. Bad reviews as well. They can actually have a really negative impact on someone's life.

I'm not talking about someone saying ''I prefer women with big boobs'' lol obviously that is upsetting for us who have small breasts but it's a personal preference and quite neutral.

 

[philonius]

I've seen people do this before. some of us are okay with it, some are not. I've often had clients refuse to match my donation to my duo partner, and I accepted it because I didn't want to lose the opportunity to do a duo since I really enjoy them.. but it's really ideal to match the rates. you are also mentioning different options. Once, I had a duo with a provider who had a PSE option. I assume the client saw that because he treated her very differently from me, he matched our rates (her GFE rate was higher than mine) but he did not pay for PSE.. He was a lot more rowdy with her and it made me really uncomfortable. I think it's important to discuss everything with both duo partners.

100%. Again, I'm not trying to pay less than the top rate x 2 but rather letting them decide how to spend $X total at their discretion, rather then me planning it all out individually and just telling them what were doing and when.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

To clarify: I'm not negotiating rates at all in this situation. I say "this is what I'm comfortable spending (ideally with these couple ideas in mind), what can we do with this?" and the amount total is greater than the sum of the highest rate x 2 so it's they don't generally have to come down on anything, but rather how we spend our time, and who gets what $ (if I'm gonna spend more time with one vs the other), is the only thing they have to decide.

As an example, in one scenario they both agreed to spend equal time all three of us together, some social and some play, and they split the total evenly (in line with the most expensive sp rates). In another scenario, one wanted to do dinner beforehand and the other was going to meet us at the hotel afterwards, so the breakdown was $X for one, $Y(less) for the other.

I understood that you aren't negotiating rates, you have a budget. I think honestly what you're asking for is reasonable.. but that's just my opinion. I'm sure some providers wouldn't be ok with it but I would be

 

[philonius]

I understood that you aren't negotiating rates, you have a budget. I think honestly what you're asking for is reasonable.. but that's just my opinion. I'm sure some providers wouldn't be ok with it but I would be

I can understand that stance too. I've just been having better luck with them planning and organizing the night bc that way they can discuss it amongst themselves and be on the same page with everything, rather than be telling them what we're doing. Plus, I feel like they're going to be a better judge of a good night out since I don't live in MTL and am taking a guess on restaurants/activities/etc and the time it takes to get between them. I think I'm ok bc I don't do duos with people I haven't already met in the past so we are usually quite familiar with each other and if there was something up with it we could discuss it.

 

[Fradi]

There are people who harm people in various ways whether or not they are conscious of it, one of them being slander and insults which can be considered ''opinions'' and in certain spaces these comments can actually have repercussions in other's real lives. Hateful people's opinions do have negative consequences. I've seen people here say that if they get a bad service from a provider they should be able to take the money back or not pay. If a bunch of people start saying that, some will feel emboldened by it and actually steal from providers. That's just an example. I'm not talking about someone saying ''I prefer women with big boobs'' lol obviously that is upsetting for us who have small breasts but it's a personal preference and quite neutral.

That is a huge slippery slope to go down and for anybody to determine to be the judge. We all have opinions.
I believe we have moderators for that to determine when it is over the line.
Why merbites take it upon themselves to continually provide unrequested rim jobs so to speak I don’t know.
It certainly won’t get them free service lol.

Let me ask you this then If you buy something in a store and it falls apart the next day or ends up being a piece of crap, would you want your money back.?
I am in no way defending a vindictive or scumbag reviewer I am sure there have been and will be many but you cannot apply blanket thinking either and say that all negative reviews fall into this category.

 

[jeffmathers]

This makes no sense whatsoever.
I agree whole heartedly that anybody hurting any woman physically or crossing their boundaries should be punished SP or civilian.

Just how exactly do opinions do that ( pretty hard to harm someone physically with an opinion). Everybody has one and is entitled to one there is no prerequisite to agree with it. Some may just consider yours harmful lol.

I wasn't even talking about you but you sound like you took that personally. I haven't heard anything about you having physically hurting people.

"This makes no sense whatsoever.
I agree whole heartedly that anybody hurting any woman physically or crossing their boundaries should be punished SP or civilian.

Just how exactly do opinions do that ( pretty hard to harm someone physically with an opinion)."

If you don't understand I don't think there's any explanation that would help you understand. Providers come here because it's good for business. It's a detriment to them that they have to interact with people that have physically harmed them and I don't want to go into more detail. Didn't expect you to think I was talking about you since I haven't heard of you physically hurting anyone.

 

[jeffmathers]

There are people who harm people in various ways whether or not they are conscious of it, one of them being slander and insults which can be considered ''opinions'' and in certain spaces these comments can actually have repercussions in other's real lives. Hateful people's opinions do have negative consequences. I've seen people here say that if they get a bad service from a provider they should be able to take the money back or not pay. If a bunch of people start saying that, some will feel emboldened by it and actually steal from providers. Do you see what I mean? That's just an example. Bad reviews as well. They can actually have a really negative impact on someone's life.

I'm not talking about someone saying ''I prefer women with big boobs'' lol obviously that is upsetting for us who have small breasts but it's a personal preference and quite neutral.

I don't think there's any explanation that would help someone understand if they don't understand already.

 

[Fradi]

I wasn't even talking about you but you sound like you took that personally. I haven't heard anything about you having physically hurting people.

"This makes no sense whatsoever.
I agree whole heartedly that anybody hurting any woman physically or crossing their boundaries should be punished SP or civilian.

Just how exactly do opinions do that ( pretty hard to harm someone physically with an opinion)."

If you don't understand I don't think there's any explanation that would help you understand. Providers come here because it's good for business. It's a detriment to them that they have to interact with people that have physically harmed them and I don't want to go into more detail. Didn't expect you to think I was talking about you since I haven't heard of you physically hurting anyone.

Nah I knew you weren’t talking about me and even if you were I don’t wear shoes that don’t fit me.
I am quite comfortable with who I am I don’t need other people’s approval.

You never seem to have a thought of your own all you do is White Knight in every post you make lol.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

That is a huge slippery slope to go down and for anybody to determine to be the judge. We all have opinions.
I believe we have moderators for that to determine when it is over the line.
Why merbites take it upon themselves to continually provide unrequested rim jobs so to speak I don’t know.
It certainly won’t get them free service lol.

Let me ask you this then If you buy something in a store and it falls apart the next day or ends up being a piece of crap, would you want your money back.?
I am in no way defending a vindictive or scumbag reviewer I am sure there have been and will be many but you cannot apply blanket thinking either and say that all negative reviews fall into this category.

I don't think all negative reviews fall into this category at all. If a girl was a scammer or fails to provide the service she says she would in the ad, I understand why a client will say that in a review. If a girl is using fake photos obviously it will be mentioned in a review....

However you know just like I do that there are people who post reviews that are derogatory and insulting. Moderators will only delete comments if they are reported.

... Also do you seriously think it's ok to fuck an escort and then refuse to give the money or take it back by force?

 

[jeffmathers]

I don't think all negative reviews fall into this category at all. If a girl was a scammer or fails to provide the service she says she would in the ad, I understand why a client will say that in a review. If a girl is using fake photos obviously it will be mentioned in a review....

However you know just like I do that there are people who post reviews that are derogatory and insulting. Moderators will only delete comments if they are reported.

... Also do you seriously think it's ok to fuck an escort and then refuse to give the money or take it back by force?

It's a waste of time to try to convince Fradi of anything. It's great you have optimism. It's true Fradi doesn't say things as awful as some users but there's no convincing possible here. Look who agrees with him.

This all started because I mentioned the lack of punishment for people who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. Fradi can't change his mind because that would make him a White Knight.

 

[Fradi]

... Also do you seriously think it's ok to fuck an escort and then refuse to give the money or take it back by force?

No because all it proves is that you are a fucking idiot for not doing your home work and getting yourself into a situation of your own doing, this is about the money part, however other people may not think the same way as I do. I would be embarrassed to admit to it and would much prefer to take the loss.

As far as using force, that is way beyond everything I believe in. The only time force is warranted against a woman is if she is threatening your life or your loved ones with a weapon and there is no other option.
I actually had parents that taught me right from wrong and my mother, sister, daughter in law etc… are women I would like to think people would treat women the way they would like their closest loved one to be treated.

 

[CenterofNH]

“Do you know who I am? I’ve written multiple reviews on merb. I can write a bad one about you”

It’s giving “do you know who I am? I am [insert celebrity name]” except we don’t care

I don't think I've met somebody who used the "do you know who I am" line; too funny!

 

[Fradi]

It's true Fradi doesn't say things as awful as some users but there's no convincing possible here. Look who agrees with him.

Now you are insulting anyone who dares to disagree with you and agrees with someone else.
You are truly one of a kind lol.
Ever thought of joining a cult there everyone has the same opinion especially if you are the leader.

 

[massagecentre]

Didn’t know my post would cause an uproar

 

[themonk83]

Didn’t know my post would cause an uproar

It's the same old same old. Select few that go off road when the opportunity presents itself and you wonder what was the question about

 

[jeffmathers]

Now you are insulting anyone who dares to disagree with you and agrees with someone else.
You are truly one of a kind lol.
Ever thought of joining a cult there everyone has the same opinion especially if you are the leader.

Look at my original post "I wish there was a punishment for the merbites who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. They just post and spread their opinions without a care in the world."

You made some big assumptions from that. I'm not trying to make you say anything specific but you're assuming a ton of things I didn't say. My original post should only be controversial if you make huge assumptions.

 

[2fast2slow]

man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

 

[Fradi]

Have someone text her with your phone and say that you passed away and that they are a close relative.
Nobody can speak ill of the dead and they don’t usually care.
I am joking of course, you are on your own tough situation probably best not to answer.

 

[Fradi]

You made some big assumptions from that. I'm not trying to make you say anything specific but you're assuming a ton of things I didn't say. My original post should only be controversial if you make huge assumptions.

What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol.
I don’t assume things if I have something to say I say it. i am pretty straight forward in what I think and don’t beat around the bush and don’t much care if people have a problem with it.

 

[jeffmathers]

What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol.
I don’t assume things if I have something to say I say it. i am pretty straight forward in what I think and don’t beat around the bush and don’t much care if people have a problem with it.

"What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol." a ton of stuff. Everything you were upset over is something I didn't say.

There is no explanation needed from me. If someone says they never assume things after assuming many things then it's a waste of time to explain.

My original post was "I wish there was a punishment for the merbites who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. They just post and spread their opinions without a care in the world."

Everything you disagreed with was something not said by me.