I agree with you. But at least (to not say most of the time), many young SP exaggerate and the final result looks like duck lips. Turn off for me.
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I think it's good that you're acknowledging that clients and providers do not face the same risks and consequences because very often people here refuse to see that and it can be very frustrating.As i said i don't want to argue (too much) about this and i completely get the dangerous aspect of what you do.
On the other hand i really disagree about your choice of words "it is a really stupid thing", i know several ladies with which we had sessions where they were restrained and i wouldn't qualify their attitude and trust in me as stupid.
Good for you if you had sessions like these that were pleasant for both parties but Rebaynia knows a lot about these dynamics enough to understand that she doesn't want to be in that predicament with a client.. and for me it's the same thing there's a good chance I would refuse unless there was a really good chemistry and trust between the client and I.. and personally I think adding that type of kink to a booking should mean extra compensation...
Lip fillers aren't meant for very young women unless they want to enhance very thin lips.. the goal is to restore volume that's been lost with age for women over 30, or to give a more youthful look to add a bit of plumpness to the lips.
Some people definitely go overboard and there was a moment a year ago when my lips were a bit overfilled and I had to be careful not to have this type of result.. but overall I'd say ppl don't usually notice or comment. Some clinics take advantage of their patients by offering cheap filler and they don't know how to inject, they also do whatever their clients ask them and don't care about the results..
If fillers are well done they aren't supposed to be noticeable. Most celebrities and influencers have them and you wouldn't even be able to tell. That being said i think it's not really productive to judge women on their aesthetic choices neither it is to encourage such modifications specially for very young ppl
As i said i don't want to argue (too much
On the other hand i really disagree about your choice of words "it is a really stupid thing", i know several ladies with which we had sessions where they were restrained and i wouldn't qualify their attitude and trust in me as stupid.
Fair enough. And I'm not calling them stupid. Like I said it is a risk assessment thing. And I also have agreed to things in the past I would never repeat with someone I am not committed to, or isn't committed to me.
I also know of professional subs, and have heard of the horror stories some have been subjected to for it.
The term is only used as a reference from someone who knows how bad things can become, from even people you trust, not even as a client aspect, and know that there are people who also don't get the option to turn things like this down too. It is a term used as how I see it for myself. Not a term I would use to describe their acceptance to do it.
Yes I am very distrusting of people I don't actually know, and do not believe in an hour here and there someone can show me I can trust them enough for this, but that's me. I have trusted too much in the past, not SWer related, and was taught the only person I can ever truly trust is myself and what I put into the world. If I have been taught not to trust a relationship for this, why would I trust a stranger I see sometimes for it?
My relationship now has been trying to open my ability to trust others, which how I screen, and the lovlies I have the pleasure of enjoying time with has been good at backing up his efforts. But I also am still on guard because I know the visits I have are not representative of most clients. Thankfully my sweeties aren't looking to test my trust in them. I trust them for what I need, I don't need to put unwavering, or unconditional trust into them. I trust I will enjoy my time with them, while I maintain my ability to stop anything if it goes too far.
That's really how I feel about it as well.. really often when men want to be dominant they know nothing about BDSM and they just want to replicate aggressive shit they saw in porn or they want to be abusive.
In 2022 one client who kept trying to dominate me held me down and was forcing an act I won't name on me and I had to push him away so he wouldn't force BBFs.. to him that was "dominating" he also called me his dog and his bitch and I pushed him away and said "I am actually a cat" lollll
Those incidents are upsetting and they sometimes come from a lack of education on consent or a misunderstanding of someone's vibe and sometimes just pure disrespect. If a client says he's dominant in his intro I say no thanks because of these incidents... Sometimes clients don't even realize that what they're doing counts as taking a dominant posture and they do it without our consent. Like last year this other guy once again forcefully held me down, choked me, pulled my hair and spat on me. If I had been interested in being treated this way I would have said so. He should have asked if that's what he was looking for. These types of things are sometimes normalized in porn but you can't do this without someone's consent
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