Yeah, it doesn't happen as much anymore but I do not like it when I am asked those questions in person, I don't feel like explaining myself
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Inability to read into context clues and hints lol. Like, for example there's 3mins left to the appointment and I ask if he wants a shower and the client says "yes I'll go in a bit" but then proceeds to stay in the bed another 15min so you have to offer a shower again which is awkward.
Or the appointment is over, client took his shower, got dressed and is ready to leave, but he already over stayed by 15mins and won't stop talking despite the provider's responses being shorter and shorter, the fact that she keeps moving closer and closer to the door or even is holding the door handle by this point. Lol
To be clear, I'm not a clock watcher and don't mind if a few minutes go by because we're genuinely lost in conversation or whatever, but I'm speaking of clients who find new random subjects to talk about on the doorstep while I have to start tidying because I have a colleague using the incall in 30min and my body language is visibly anxious about it and confused about the lack of self awareness.
Yeah that's definitely part of my list. I'm not a clock watcher but sometimes I have something to do right after the booking or someone is showing up to the incall. It feels like it's done on purpose. I had a client recently who booked me for 45 minutes but he ended up staying over an hour. He also looked irritated when I told him he only had 15 minutes left. If you want to book longer book longer.. Initially I thought the term clock watcher literally meant someone who,s always looking to see if the time is up. Most of us don't have a lot of leeway between bookings or we have other things to do.
It takes me 1 minute at most.
I've had some surprises but generally 1-3 minutes.
I feel like that is an escort superpower!
I usually know even before they show up and my assumptions will be confirmed within a minute of us being face to face
Sometimes I can tell during the booking process. But honestly once someone walks through the door I already have a good idea as well.
However it's hard to anticipate how the connection might evolve over time. I'm a good judge of character but some people are very skilled at hiding their true selves.
Being an escort really helped me understand the human psyche in different ways
That was where I was headed with that question actually. I imagine SPs see people laid bare (literally) in a way that few other people do, and it sounds like people are predictable even then. Does that insight translate into other interactions outside of sex work?
If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?
(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)
(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)
It’s gauche. Don’t do it, it’s on the “gossiping” territory
Edit: you can talk about the experience without naming the other person but name dropping in a session is a red flag for most of us
It depends of the context.. but generally I think it's a red flag specially if he names people. Sometimes I can also tell that what I'm being told isn't exactly the truth too. It's happened that a client wanted insight on a past situation involving a provider he didn't name but generally it feels like some clients do this to spread gossip or pit us against each other. I've had really bad experiences involving clients doing this...
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That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.
yes it's true, some escorts do gossip about each other, that's why you shouldn't be fueling it. that's the whole point. don't encourage it. when clients talk to me about other escorts i usually change the subject or tell them i don't want to hear it. you shouldn't be helping someone try to take somebody else down. also a lot of this "gossip" that is spread by clients or providers is often false or information that has been distorted or blown out of proportion. one example is someone confusing a very similar sounding name with someone else's. the competitiveness that escorts entertain with each other is directly linked to client demands and the industry itself, not because "women are just petty"
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Would't it be a violation of trust? I expect a provider to protect my privacy; should she expect the same?
It is like everything else not applicable to everyone.
The ladies I see are not jealous of other providers and you can easily approach them to even recommend their friends or colleagues, this is actually really nice to see.
I will disagree with you however, there are many women that are petty, catty and love to gossip this is not restricted to escorts and there are men who fall into that category as well.
I never said that there are no women who are petty and catty and love to gossip, a lot of women and men do. I just said that this isn't always the case. Your comment was "lol it's so funny that you guys think clients shouldn't gossip because sex workers gossip all the time".. it's irrelevant. I don't think escorts should be gossiping and talking shit just for the hell of it, either. The question was about clients talking about their experiences with other providers, we all answered the question
Its honestly in human nature to talk about other people from time to time, but where I personally draw the line is how a certain type of information could be harming somebody else who did nothing wrong..
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