Ask us anything part 3

[Giselle Montreal]

my concern is more for the lady as the level of incomfort or pain is different for everyone.

Let her be the judge of that! If she can't work, she won't work.

Also, not all women have painful cramps, or pain, during their periods.

 

[LeDodo]

Having sex can be good for cramps

That's why I keep on saying but nobody believes me!!

 

[LeDodo]

Let her be the judge of that! If she can't work, she won't work.

Also, not all women have painful cramps, or pain, during their periods.

Yes definitely! But I really can't help to ask twice ...

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

[Clients]

Do you mind if the SP is on her period when you guys meet?

Inacceptable, c’est pas ma copine et on sait pourquoi on se retrouve en présence l’un de l’autre, la présence de sang ou tout autre produit sanguin rend plusieurs activités trop risquées.

 

[TheKing777]

[Clients]

Do you mind if the SP is on her period when you guys meet?

It is something that I would be okay with, potentially, but I feel not on a first meeting.

 

[Oscar234567]

Hey sorry im late to respond i work 7 days and im usually tired when i get home. I will respond to all the message just give me some time, but also thank you so being honest and open to me about how you feel towards what i asked

 

[Oscar234567]

Because the client just wants to have fun? No.
If I ask you? Yes, maybe.
If I texted you ‘hey let’s go to Barleys for breakfast’ out of the blue, I wouldn’t expect you to pay more than the food.

If you text me I’d like to take you for breakfast Sunday
Then I would expect you to pay me.


1 is me volunteering, 2 is you requesting my time. Replace the activity with anything you’d like, still the same but also that’s mostly why I never text people that I want to go somewhere


3rd option if I really like you, you request my time and I give you a huge discount

I get it. You stand on business as you should and the most anyone who could get past the barriers you put up in the client/service provider is a huge discount and thats totally valid. But i feel like the problem alot of guys have with seeing escorts is they become obsessed, trying to impress and woah the girl hoping that they like their company enough. Thats not me but ive seen posts where this guy was listing the personal stuff shared between him and the sp. Thats the thing were all human, as a man we want to chase women but also be wanted back. Some guys are ok with the arrangement and others want more and keep pushing until the sp blocks them and i really hope you dont go through that on a daily basis

 

[Oscar234567]

If someone actually paid my rent it would be VERY different but no one currently is paying for that. Is your boss paying your rent? No, he’s paying you a salary and you pay your rent with it. Semantics you’ll say…

Again another valid response yes just like any job theyre part of what pays your rent etc but lets say a guy is paying your rent, i know itll be different but men are entitled, he might want appointments here and there but then require you to give girlfriend level energy. Thats why i feel bad everytime i think of getting an sp, because guys act like they own the girl if she doesnt wanna kiss you or give you more services then its your choice but what do you do if a guy is asking oh you did these services for oscar234567 but you dont wanna do it for me and he gets mad or sees your head isnt in it based on your attraction level to him, how do you handle that situation?

 

[Oscar234567]

It depends on the person. I can offer my perspective. Even if I've had bad experiences, being an escort actually gave me faith in men because I met a lot of men who treat me very well and who are trustworthy. I also see shades of grey in people's behavior.. nobody is a total asshole or a perfect angel and that's okay.

But you have to make the difference between a client provider relationship and a real romantic relationship. They're not the same. I still feel the desire to have a romantic partner personally and I don't expect them to act the same way as my clients.

What has changed is that boundaries are more and more important to me no matter what kind of relationship. Being an escort in a way have me an opportunity to practice healthy boundaries. I see certain red flags a lot more easily now. But I also see green flags more easily. I won't expand on this too much..

My friendships and relationships with other people are much healthier now tho.

Wow, you worded that beautifully. I agree that theres differwnt sides to people and me too whether it be strippers, sp or people during social interaction i can spot the red flags that tell me if i should stick around or just go about my day but also see the green flags like you said. You seem like a very genuine person i really loved your answer, the relationship with a client and service provider i know is very different but the reason im so hung up on the idea is its easy. When you feel like a loser or that your social skills are trash its like a drug you call an sp, you have sex you feel like your on top of the world then next week you feel the same way again and see another but the problem isnt going away, your social skills are still where they originally were you just rented a girls time for an hour thats how i feel about it and obviously thats the arrangement

 

[Oscar234567]

The answers will vary. Personally I do really like many of my clients. My decision not to hang out with clients for free doesn't have anything to do with our connection not being genuine.. it's because I want to maintain certain boundaries. What you're describing sounds like a sugar baby relationship but without compensation and I doubt anybody is interested in that.. but maybe if you see an escort enough times, she will make the decision to hang out with you off the clock. I have heard of this happening. It's just not something I would personally do because I don't like blurred lines. A lot can go wrong in a situation like this

Oh for sure i dont expect you too. Its your line of work i dont think you should ever cross that line of hanging out but i guess im just trying to see if these things can go somewhere. I know many of you are going to say im in the wrong field but this board has helped me deal with so much pain i went through in my life. I like genuine sex, where the girl wants me there and values our time together and taking an sp makes me feel like its like im not good enough to go into a bar and pick up someone but i never tried i always been too shy. And theres so many guys some with more money and charm that girls will 100% pick over me on tinder. Im like a 7/10 that's ok but not attractive enough.

 

[Oscar234567]

If you are looking for a romantic relationship with an SP you are barking up the wrong tree.
It is a job for them, a way to make a living and pay their rent.
Does it happen ? Only in extremely rare circumstances and it is even rarer for it to last.

Can you be friends with an SP and do things together sometimes outside of a client provider relationship.?
Yes but even that is rare and it may take years of seeing each other regularly, establishing trust and being able to keep the 2 relationships apart and not take advantage of each other.

I would never look for or want a romantic relationship, for one the age gap is far too wide the work itself does not lend itself to relationships lasting and I figure that the lady deserves to have a loving relationship with someone her own age and be happy just like I have had most of my life with the lady I will always be in love with.

Friendship I can handle and it is an extremely nice thing to have an SP who you have a connection with, who you trust and who trusts you.
They are women just like any other, some are gorgeous, intelligent and really a pleasure to have as a friend.

I understand man but its just not easy for me to talk to women in the streets just randomly and my confidence is very low. Im not trying to date an sp im trying to know is it possible for her to value your company i dont mean as a lover completely just company overall can be as a friend as well and maybe ask you to do things uncompensated because theyre bored and likes the time but like the told me it doesnt make sense you have to pay for their time, its a job at the end of the day and they have a life outside of it. I just want to feel attractive so i thought to myself hmm what if i give an sp the best sex of her life and she falls for me, im just being delusional i thought maybe it happens but clearly it doesnt

 

[Oscar234567]

sounds like he just needs a, what do you call it... a girl friend?

Not every guy is confident with women and not all women have good intentions i knew girls who had a food guy and homework guy in high school... I always consider taking the easy way out, yes its not fair to me but if your wife made you feel used and you work alot and feel like no one cares besides good friends and binge watching a few show your going to want more to ease your mind and that more is usually a sp isnt it? Im just 30 years old guys

 

[Oscar234567]

I think the relationship you are looking for might be better suited with a girl from a dating app or maybe a Sugar daddy site

Too much competition brother. Women are always wanted but us men even if the women does pick us shes trying to decide between hmm should i go with oscar, stefon or marco. Girls have option and men do not unless your theo james

 

[Oscar234567]

Yeah.. and you can't buy a girlfriend or exchange goods with somebody in exchange for dating them. Not everything can be purchased. Unless that person is in a dire financial situation and starving, which would create a power imbalance.

Even if I met somebody who was willing to bring me on expensive vacation and take me to restaurants and other luxury experiences, if I didn't have romantic feelings for them and/or didn't feel respected, I would decline the offer.

Being an escort hasn't made me more transactional in my relationships, but it made me understand my own value and what my time is worth. I don't have any energy to put into something that isn't genuine or that leaves me feeling drained.

Exactly i dont want to have that desperate mentaliry of finding a girl based on her job being a sex provider or feel like im buying a girlfriend i want everything to be genuine because if not whats the point. I hate having power over somrone who cant control how, their life is going. Men answer this if you had sex with this hot latina and you got her wet and she looked like she enjoyed it but the only reason you had sex was because she needed the money for rent and she knew you always liked her is that really something to feel proud of? In the moment yh youll have the im on top of the world feeling but once that dies down then your left feeling empty not wanted... Atleast if that was me. Im glad being an escort made you understand your time and your worth because like i said if something isnt genuine it doesnt mean anything, thank you for being real i can feel how genuine you are and i love that

 

[Oscar234567]

And yet, some seem to think I'm greedy because I believe I'm being paid for my time and won't hang out for free...

I hope you dont think im saying your greedy or anyone else... I just wanted to know if its possible, for a guy to be attractive enough or fun enough to make you want to date him and take him out of customer territory because each guy is different, and maybe one day a customer might make you not even feel like your with a client but i know its not possible for you its just something i wondered if its possible which i know its very rare

 

[Oscar234567]

I respect that feeling I think the argument from some the other side is that their time is valuable as well and it can be a win win situation especially if they are older wiser and can mentor
I don’t want to hang out with someone I don’t like for free. But it might be someone I might like in the future what not take a free meal, chat and explore it?

Thats why i brought it up its not an insult to the sp and im not trying to say i dont want the sp to make money i just wanted to test the waters to see if a guy who walks in can just make her let her guard down but i see both sides i mean this is your income its how you survive and life comfortable no matter how handsome and charming your not going to let a man come inbetween that and i get that but sometimes attraction just happens or like nachoy said he can be a mentor or someone you grow to like alot etc but i know free meetings as of now thats not happening so i wont bring it up again. I was just curious to know if a guy check all the boxes for amazing personality and really handsome/charming how far can it really go but i got the answer

 

[Oscar234567]

But you know.. I think maybe some clients assume that if we don't want to hang out with them for free, that means we don't like them... which is not the case. I just don't have the time for it, and it's just generally a matter of principle, just like some clients have told me ''it's a matter of principle'' for them not to pay for certain types of hang outs. In the last year I've almost never had the time to see my own friends because being a SP takes up so much of my time & energy.

I don't want to bring back the ''social time debate'' because it's excruciating and drains all of my energy, but I'll just resume a few observations.. some providers have confided in me that they felt obligated to hang out with their clients for free in order to keep them, which is different from hanging out with them because they genuinely want to. Also, a lot of stories I hear about SP who hung out with their clients for hours after a booking are just so wild that it doesn't sound like this person was in her normal state of mind, if you see what I mean.

Otherwise, I think it's possible that some SP go out of their way by offering services they normally don't, perhaps almost pretending they have romantic feelings for the client, giving freebies, going on free dates etc. I have no judgement about it and it's none of my business what they do, but personally I don't want to deal with blurred lines. I am generous with my time when I can.. To each their own.

As a client if you want to hang out with a SP more, just book her for longer periods of time.. I know it's expensive, but it shows you respect her time. Maybe one day you'll get a good surprise.

I agree. Thank you for being open, i know it takes up alot of time thats why when your not working just treat yourself to whatever you like whether its traveling, food, etc. We only live once after all

 

[Oscar234567]

[Clients]

Do you mind if the SP is on her period when you guys meet?

Not me personally but i think alot of guys will. Guys who want gfe will want to do daty so thats now a no go unless the man confesses to having a dracula fetish

 

[Nachoy]

Hey Bro
Can relate. It’s hard to break through the Escort mentality with a SP
They view their job as best means to support themselves. Set boundaries and when their shift is over their time is their own and don’t want spend it with a client
Sps keep work at work. Don’t have to be best friends with everyone after a shift
You’re young
It’s best to find someone who is willing to have sex with you because they like/love you rather then finding a sex partner that views sex as a commodity exchanged for monetary gain