Dealbreaker or not?
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For me, it's an integral part of the encounter. I've had ladies say to me after munching down and feeling satisfied say....wow.....I wasn't expecting that!!! I mean if they are feeling good, it's kinda natural to return the favour.Plus it also implies that they enjoy what they do, if your allowed to go to "lunch "down there
I feel the same way because in my personal life I noticed most guys didn't really like doing it but as a provider most clients really go for it lol
I don't agree with that! A lot of women don't enjoy daty in general. I like it but personally I prefer giving than receiving. Some girls told me they just don't like the sensation.
Also, it's a risky activity. You can get an STI from it. From what I've heard it's more risky to get an STI from daty as a woman than it is from BBBJ.. some may just want to limit exposure to infections
Its risky for stds and its very personal. I prefer when these encounters are transactional.
Plus I just dont like it - neither do most people i know.
I am not sure to understand how giving DATY makes it non-transactional. Can you explain your thought? Do you mean you want to receive and not give since you are the client?
"I want the risk and the pleasure to be one-sided so I can square this in my mind like I'm ordering pizza" is how I read this, which is a wild take, but everyone's looking for something different I guess.
DATY and L/DFK is a requirement for me BECAUSE it can be mutually enjoyable and makes it feel less transactional. Every time I've seen a provider and it felt transactional it was a no-repeat (which fortunately isn't often).
I dont do bbbj either but yes, because im the client I'm ok with receiving cbj and not giving in return. Money for services, thats how the world works. I dont see anybody offering their hairdresser a haircut lol.
That does not make me a bad client as any SP I encountered can testify to. I show up looking good, smelling good, polite, charming. But if the girl doesnt O, I won't lose sleep over it.
That does not make me a bad client as any SP I encountered can testify to. I show up looking good, smelling good, polite, charming. But if the girl doesnt O, I won't lose sleep over it.
Let's go back to the basics. Sex is a thing that two people do together.
I understand if you partake in the industry to receive. Clients are all looking for something different, there's no wrong answer.
Let's go back to the conversation, BJ is not
So, none of these are a deal breaker for me, I'm clean and regularly tested, but I'm all for non GFE providers and cbj's for everyone's safety. The kissing and daty are things that "offering" is not what's important to me, it's whether or not they desire/want/enjoy it those things. Kissing either set of lips, and the receiver isn't enjoying it, will absolutely kill my boner for minimum 24 hours lol. So if not offered, I assume they don't enjoy it, or just being careful.
I do think that there is a way to emphasize the transactional aspect of these encounters, or not. For instance if I welcome a client and I don't smile at him and I tell him to get in the shower and I do things in a very mechanical way, that feels transactional.. It's not enjoyable for either parties.
But I think having boundaries doesn't mean we are making things more transactional.. I see things differently. I have met people who just don't enjoy french kissing, they don't like the feeling of it. I've also met men who don't like getting blow jobs. I think for things to feel natural, boundaries have to be understood prior to the encounter and you work around them.. We all have our boundaries sexually. I think obviously daty and bbbj are included in casual sex or sex with partners usually.. but let's look at it differently. If someone is very sexually active with a lot of people, they are actually doing you a favor if they want to avoid risky things.
I don't know how true it is but I've heard that daty is riskier than bbbj for women. I've heard that it's easier to get an STI in your vagina than it is in your throat. This is my nurse who does STI tests who told me that, he might be right he might be wrong.. Sources online all say different things. That area ''down there'' is more fragile, tho. For instance HPV can cause cancer of the cervix.. Multiple exposures to STI's can mess you up down there too. You can also get UTIs, yeast infections, etc. from things like daty or digits..
It's also not because someone chooses to do something they truly enjoy it, or that if they choose not to do it with clients it means they don't. It can also really vary..
But I think having boundaries doesn't mean we are making things more transactional.. I see things differently. I have met people who just don't enjoy french kissing, they don't like the feeling of it. I've also met men who don't like getting blow jobs. I think for things to feel natural, boundaries have to be understood prior to the encounter and you work around them.. We all have our boundaries sexually. I think obviously daty and bbbj are included in casual sex or sex with partners usually.. but let's look at it differently. If someone is very sexually active with a lot of people, they are actually doing you a favor if they want to avoid risky things.
I don't know how true it is but I've heard that daty is riskier than bbbj for women. I've heard that it's easier to get an STI in your vagina than it is in your throat. This is my nurse who does STI tests who told me that, he might be right he might be wrong.. Sources online all say different things. That area ''down there'' is more fragile, tho. For instance HPV can cause cancer of the cervix.. Multiple exposures to STI's can mess you up down there too. You can also get UTIs, yeast infections, etc. from things like daty or digits..
It's also not because someone chooses to do something they truly enjoy it, or that if they choose not to do it with clients it means they don't. It can also really vary..
No, but I do offer her daty sometimes! Nothing worst than a hairdresser not getting her daily "O"
