Still assumptions.
FS,
Sorry if this seems pessimistic, it is, but for good reason. While you seem to have done some reading on STD`s you did not address whether or not you and all your partners, and all theirs, have practiced safe sex, in every instance, with every person, past and present. It goes to credibility as to your safe practices, or to your assumption, that you have always been safe. STD tested or not, your faith in your partners fidelity and cleanliness, while sweet, is rather naive, consider studies that show that nearly half of all men cheat on their partners and women aren`t far behind. In addition most young people now have somewhere in the neighborhood of 20 sexual partners by the time they are in their mid twenties. How many partners have you had, just think to yourself, were they all virgins? Did any of them strike you as particularly skilled in the sexual arts? How do you think they got that way? Were not just talking about your girlfriend here either, were talking about all the others who you assumed were clean but never saw a test for nor required UPDATED monthly tests from as many Sp`s do for themselves. Do your partners know everything you do? Do you believe you know everything your partners do? Or do you just put blind faith in their purity?
You seem to be implying as well, that SP`s are generally unconcerned about their own health. Why would this be? What good would it do them to be careless? Perhaps they have consulted with DR`s and been told that there is less likelihood of STD transmission if certain precautions are taken? I don`t see an epidemic of STD`s being talked about here on the board. Denial? No, I am well aware of what I do(four times a year with Sp`s) as are the rest of us. Admittedly there is a bit of danger involved but IMO no more than getting it on with a ``bar star`` or anyone else that I know absolutely nothing about other than they look hot and they want to get it on right now. Numbers certainly do add to exposure but so do particular behaviors during those encounters. BBFS and Greek being the riskiest of them all. Does anyone know an SP who offers these services BB? I don`t.
Your argument about SP`s being ``dirtier`` than ``bar stars`` ignores the fact that most SP`s nearly always practice safe intercourse (with a condom) while facts show most ``regular`` people do not always do this because of your shared false perception that they are not as likely to have an STD. If you are worried at all then what does it matter if they are an Sp or not? Why not treat everyone the same? Actual intercourse is much more risky in terms of transmission of STD`s than any other act we are talking about. The fact that you are willing to assume that these threesome partners of yours were clean and that you know how many past partners they have had shows your own ignorance since you are presuming someones ``cleanliness`` based on what they have told you or what little you knew of them. Or are you going to tell us you had a background check done on all of them as well? Is this pessimistic of me? You bet. But then isn`t your assumption about SP`s being dirtier than everyone else based on numbers pessimistic as well?
Even in the Pornography industry where actors and actresses are tested monthly there are still transmissions of STD`s because the test only shows if you are clean up to the point of the test. You have no idea what a person has done since that test which makes having BBFS with anyone a leap of faith on your part. Not that it is so odd however, as I said before I think it is the norm rather than the exception for people to assume that someone they want to have sex with is clean since the desire to believe they are pure is so strongly embedded in the romantic mind. Pessimistic again, I know.
I might add as well that ``Six degrees of separation`` while not being rooted in medical terminology is a valid point, not a logical fallacy. Fact is, if you have an STD for which there is no ``herd immunity`` for, because there is no vaccine for it(HIV etc..) and you have intercourse with other people you may in turn spread it to them and them to others and so on without anyone knowing until finally someone gets the bad news. Upon which many people get a phone call from someone they haven`t heard from in years saying ``Hi, I just called to tell you I have HIV and you should get checked.`` That is not a myth, it happens every day. Six degrees of separation or thirty degrees of separation, diseases get passed from infected people to other people and it is a matter of luck many times as to who gets it and who doesn`t. It is also a matter of how risky the particular activities you engage in are and what kind of people you are engaging in them with. You simply never know what someone does or doesn`t have until a test is done. Past sexual history does not guarantee anything but it IS a cause for concern about the possibility of STD`s. Having sex with anybody is a risk without up to the minute test results in front of you.
I think you are discounting the danger of sleeping with someone you don`t know anything about. If you see a sweet looking young girl who is really hot you may be tempted to get to know her better. Upon getting to know her she may seem like an absolute angel. You may date her for weeks or months before you have sex. She may even make you wear a condom at first. After a while though most people stop using that condom because, after all, you can trust her now that you know her right? Unfortunately at some point you may find out that she used to be a crack head who slept with every guy at the local dive who had some including THOSE guys. Who are those guys? They are the ones who sell, distribute, or use the crack to get girls and boy do they get them, in droves. A different girl every night for these guys. Sometimes two at a time. So its not that your little angel slept with 500 guys, she may only have slept with a couple dozen. But every one of them slept with a couple hundred girls who were from God knows where and did God knows what with God knows who so they could get high. So your little angel has been exposed to the germs of 1,000`s of other people. This is several thousand degrees of separation of which you now are a part of. But relax, so are the rest of us. If you are immunized against Hep, like I am, you have that much less to worry about but as far as everything else, better take a trip to the Dr for a test. I congratulate you on your clean bill of health, mine was fine last year too.
The fact that SP`s practice safe intercourse goes a long way to proving that they are no worse than ``bar stars`` because ``bar stars`` usually don`t care about safe sex or are too drunk/high to remember so they do EVERYTHING without a condom. The ``bar star`` consistently follows a pattern of TOTALLY unsafe, indiscriminate sexual contact while SP`s on the other hand consistently make you wear a condom during intercourse. This makes a ``bar stars`` likelihood of exposure to STD much higher despite the difference in numbers because of the specific behavior engaged in, and with whom they engage in it with, which is more risky than or DATY. Alarmingly these ``bar stars`` share many bed partners with those of you who think you are clean, see above scenario again. An SP who offered me BBFS would worry me but I wouldn`t be any more worried about her than I would about a girl I didn`t know.
According to my DR. (BTW I`m not Canadian so I pay for my own insurance) it is more difficult for a man to catch an STD than a woman because of anatomical differences and how fluids are passed and DATY and while not being ``safe`` are not nearly as dangerous as intercourse or Greek. While you say you practice safe sex with SP`s you are still not worried about the possibility of transmission of STD`s knowing that condoms can and do break, and are not 100% safe in the first place? Sounds like you like Russian Roulette a little bit more than you are letting on.
You have obviously chosen to keep hobbying despite what you perceive as a serious health risk. If you limited yourself to Sp`s who only give CBJ and no DATY you would have nothing to worry about from those of us who you claim are ``ruining`` it for you. In addition you could stick to Sp`s who advertise themselves as ``part timers`` or only available for limited engagements so as to cut down on your risk of exposure as far as numbers. In the end you can`t blame us for your own decisions. If you felt that uncomfortable I doubt you would still be doing this. Good luck to you.
