Don't fall in love with your regular SP

[Rebaynia]

Sadly pathetic males like the one you’re talking about are as old as the prostitution profession itself & will continue to exist until the end of time. The matrix is impossible to get out of for certain individuals. Tragic!

It sucks his illusion was shattered, but for some the added confidence of compliments, does make a difference in how they carry themselves out into the world after the fact.
Sure she might have been blowing smoke to make him feel better, some men need that pick me up.
Ok, he was a little nieve to believe he was the only one she spoke to in that way, but even if it was just an act on her part, the effect it had on him, would have had a positive effect on other aspects of life.

Self-confidence is something that once you have it tends to radiate, and changes how you approach, and treat others in your life. Applying for a job or asking for a raise, going out on a date, playing a sport even. The more confidence you possess often makes a world of difference on how others treat you as well.
Nothing wrong with that confidence starting from someone you've paid to spend time with, especially for someone who people have done a number on breaking any confidence they might have had previously.

I'm not good with false praise. And even when asked for praise the person is likely going to get an honest answer out of me. I'm not good with being baited for praise, and just try not to hurt with my oppinion when being pushed for it. If i say something that can be taken as praise by someone, they should and often appreciate it. Sometimes it isn't trying to praise, might even be a complaint I have that he takes as praise. (Example: Your too big it hurts/or will hurt, you have to go slow, means just that. It does not mean i am enjoying your large size, it means it hurts and I'm not enjoying it.)

But also means the rare occasion I walk in and tell the guy I think he is attractive, it means I actually think him attractive.

 

[Frenchwomen#1]

Its not love , its attraction, sexual attraction, and infatuation most of the time. Yeah I guess I am the lone wolf of the pack and don't get attached to anyone but this is what you get when you been screwed so many times with relationship and the myth called love.

I am 52 now and been single for 11 years, I last went on a date over 8 years ago, she was obese and not very pretty and she insulted me. So I decided that my dating days were over.

Now yes I can relate because at 28 I sort of fell for a high end escort who looked like Gabrielle Destroismaison she was so hot, she approached me at Sherlock on St Catherine street that was in 1999. I knew straight off the bat that something was wrong when she told me she was a juridical secretary, she confined in me the week after that she worked for fantasme xxx and she did escort twice per week, then share stories about a few of her clients, yeah younger I worked in a theater and I knew one of the bosses there. I knew this would be trouble when I got into her new apartment in Hotel de Ville downtown Montreal and she greeted me with a glass of white wine and 2 eustasy pills, I refused and she got mad. We were on and off for about 6 months and yes I went into depression, lost weight, went nuts until she told me that she had her fun with me and it was over now.

The thing is escort is a fantasy world, when I see my SP I do things with her that I never did with my ex girlfriends, I respect her, treat her like a girlfriend, we kiss, we cuddle, I made sure that she cums a few times too and as fun even if I pay her we both enjoy our time together.

But for me this falling in love dating, I just a myth a feeling like eating, and any other feelings we feel. I am so disconnected that 3 weeks ago I went to get a tooth repaired at the dentist and the dental hygienist ask me out for drinks, she was 47 but really a beautiful women, but I did not want to get involve with someone after enjoy my freedom so much.

So for me its easy, I am going to get excited, horny but after that its over by see you next time. I just don't fall in love anymore no matter what the SP looks like and I am a far cry of looking like I did in 2000.

Fall for the lust that’s it

 

[Frenchwomen#1]

It sucks his illusion was shattered, but for some the added confidence of compliments, does make a difference in how they carry themselves out into the world after the fact.
Sure she might have been blowing smoke to make him feel better, some men need that pick me up.
Ok, he was a little nieve to believe he was the only one she spoke to in that way, but even if it was just an act on her part, the effect it had on him, would have had a positive effect on other aspects of life.

Self-confidence is something that once you have it tends to radiate, and changes how you approach, and treat others in your life. Applying for a job or asking for a raise, going out on a date, playing a sport even. The more confidence you possess often makes a world of difference on how others treat you as well.
Nothing wrong with that confidence starting from someone you've paid to spend time with, especially for someone who people have done a number on breaking any confidence they might have had previously.

I'm not good with false praise. And even when asked for praise the person is likely going to get an honest answer out of me. I'm not good with being baited for praise, and just try not to hurt with my oppinion when being pushed for it. If i say something that can be taken as praise by someone, they should and often appreciate it. Sometimes it isn't trying to praise, might even be a complaint I have that he takes as praise. (Example: Your too big it hurts/or will hurt, you have to go slow, means just that. It does not mean i am enjoying your large size, it means it hurts and I'm not enjoying it.)

But also means the rare occasion I walk in and tell the guy I think he is attractive, it means I actually think him attractive.

It’s most important that she satisfies your cravings or for me my fetishes! That’s it and be respectful!

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

It sucks his illusion was shattered, but for some the added confidence of compliments, does make a difference in how they carry themselves out into the world after the fact.
Sure she might have been blowing smoke to make him feel better, some men need that pick me up.
Ok, he was a little nieve to believe he was the only one she spoke to in that way, but even if it was just an act on her part, the effect it had on him, would have had a positive effect on other aspects of life.

Self-confidence is something that once you have it tends to radiate, and changes how you approach, and treat others in your life. Applying for a job or asking for a raise, going out on a date, playing a sport even. The more confidence you possess often makes a world of difference on how others treat you as well.
Nothing wrong with that confidence starting from someone you've paid to spend time with, especially for someone who people have done a number on breaking any confidence they might have had previously.

I'm not good with false praise. And even when asked for praise the person is likely going to get an honest answer out of me. I'm not good with being baited for praise, and just try not to hurt with my oppinion when being pushed for it. If i say something that can be taken as praise by someone, they should and often appreciate it. Sometimes it isn't trying to praise, might even be a complaint I have that he takes as praise. (Example: Your too big it hurts/or will hurt, you have to go slow, means just that. It does not mean i am enjoying your large size, it means it hurts and I'm not enjoying it.)

But also means the rare occasion I walk in and tell the guy I think he is attractive, it means I actually think him attractive.

I get your point

Dude! Too much wisdom in one day for Merbites! Take it easy on us!

I mean I would apply the same logic with escort that I apply with promiscuous civilians.

It’s most important that she satisfies your cravings or for me my fetishes! That’s it and be respectful!

Exactly, she satisfy my sexual urges & I satisfy her bank account. Everybody gets their share.

 

[Rebaynia]

Lack of using common sense as well. Even the escorts themselves tell the clients (tricks) that it would be a one sided love affair.

I have never refered to clients as tricks!
I may tell my little bf's (as i refer to my regulars) that though I may not be infatuated with them, thus love them, that I do care about them and what happens to them. I only see people looking for gfe (girl friend expierience, not a list of acronyms, but actual connection with someone).
Wow, you describe the very kinds of visits I refuse. And I refuse 90% of people. Not every escort is the same, and not everyone is compatible. This is such a degrading and inhuman way to view and treat people.

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

I have never refered to clients as tricks!
I may tell my little bf's (as i refer to my regulars) that though I may not be infatuated with them, thus love them, that I do care about them and what happens to them. I only see people looking for gfe (girl friend expierience, not a list of acronyms, but actual connection with someone).
Wow, you describe the very kinds of visits I refuse. And I refuse 90% of people. Not every escort is the same, and not everyone is compatible. This is such a degrading and inhuman way to view and treat people.

You can refer us (me included) whichever way you chose, I’m not offended by this word. We all are allowed freedom of speech on this blog. It’s perfectly fine we do not desire to visit each other + I never said every prostitute is the same but they all desire money for their time that you cannot argue with. I don’t understand which part of my paragraph is degrading or inhuman….

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

I haven't seen my ATF in a week and I'm losing my mind. I wish I didn't see her outside of the agency, now I am obsessed.

I am about to cancel my Christmas Europe trip to go back to Montreal to go see her.

I better go see some other SPs to get it out of my system

Lord have mercy what will this male do if his ATF ever tragically passes away or leave the country?

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

You guys are soft , how can you fall in love with a provider?! Come on, man up! If top G saw all these stories, he would have an heart attack lol

PREACH BROTHER!!! TELL EM!!

 

[Glyscore]

You guys are soft , how can you fall in love with a provider?! Come on, man up! If top G saw all these stories, he would have an heart attack lol

My brother. This is supposed to be a safe space. We have to keep it 100 with each other, but you dont have to roast niggass. Some of yall are really lonely and falling for the exquisit service of an SP can be confusing for them as it was for me at some point.

You simply have to realise that good SP makes you feel special and shit and thats its 100% buisness practice to get your client addicted.

Now that I took a step back from the hobby and is super selective of who I see and contact, it becomes way easier to ne detach and be in control.

 

[Rebaynia]

I don’t understand which part of my paragraph is degrading or inhuman….

It's not any specific line you say. It is my oppinion, and the darker side of this livelihood I personally avoid. The whole concept of removing humanity from sex, just because it is paid for.
Different people, look for different things, when they contact SPs. Same as different SPs get into the business for their own and varying reasons as well.
There is no secorite that we view this as polar opposites.

But being someone who puts my heart in everything I do, including the people I meet, I can't help but respond to an oppinion that puts down those who are often in need of something that society has deprived them. Not everyone is calling SPs because they have options. Some that is the only remaining option they are comfortable with.

As for the heartbreak they may feel if their ATF retires, or whatever reason, it is a relationship built over time, and like any relationship, will likely reach an inevitable end. That is life. We have all suffered heartbreak. For some at least with an SP, you, the client, call the shots when that relationship is contacted, happens, what happens, and ends. We aren't nagging for your time, we aren't nagging for your attention, we may not even get to say goodbye when it is done. We won't/shouldn't be upset when you see someone else instead.

You are entitled to want your visit to be and feel compleatly transactional, as many here have complained many SPs provide it that way.
But it also doesn't help to insult those who get other things than just transaction out of the expierience either.

And sorry but I don't see how there is mutual respect when you seem to be speaking so lowly of SPs. As long as she shows you respect, you will respect her. But you seem to view her as trash before she even walks in the door, it is false respect. Thus why I see the accumulation of what you've stated as crule or inhuman. (In my oppinion.) You dehuminize the SP.

 

[vanhamm]

Sadly pathetic males like the one you’re talking about are as old as the prostitution profession itself & will continue to exist until the end of time. The matrix is impossible to get out of for certain individuals. Tragic!

Like I said when I start to read the book the red pill i went through all the phases. Mad frustrated etc. but what I was reading was so true that I had to come to terms with it. They say either you love women or you understand them this is so true.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I never said every prostitute is the same but they all desire money for their time that you cannot argue with.

Every worker wants money for their work and time, in any field, in any job, people are not slaves; we live in a capitalist society and it's called work.

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

Like I said when I start to read the book the red pill i went through all the phases. Mad frustrated etc. but what I was reading was so true that I had to come to terms with it. They say either you love women or you understand them this is so true.

Men are in love
Women are in business (street walker or civilian)

 

[Glyscore]

Men are in love
Women are in business (street walker or civilian)

And yet, you have bunch of women being baby momas to bums who have 1 dime to their names....yall gotta stop categoring genders like this. There's lovers in men and women. The same as men and women who are in buisness relationship wise. Judge the individual. Not the whole group.

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

And yet, you have bunch of women being baby momas to bums who have 1 dime to their names....yall gotta stop categoring genders like this. There's lovers in men and women. The same as men and women who are in buisness relationship wise. Judge the individual. Not the whole group.

No I will not stop cause guess what mate? Daddy goverment still gonna help them financially in many 1st world countries and females know that so my point still stands man.

 

[Rebaynia]

No I will not stop cause guess what mate? Daddy goverment still gonna help them financially in many 1st world countries and females know that so my point still stands man.

What the government contributes to low income homes is far less than what raising a child actually costs. And speaking as a mom of kids where i have full custody and the dads don't pay child support, it is a struggle every day to be sure they have everything they need, while i often go without just to make sure they have.

You glorify situations you know nothing about. Having kids is not a cash cow. Quite the opposite. They take more money to raise and supply for than a single working parent can make. Especially when you have childcare to pay for. If anything what i get from the government is barely enough to pay 1/2 the cost of childcare while i have to work my ass off to pay rent (a place big enough for everyone), bills, food, and the ever growing list of needs children have. Cloths, shoes, trips, their entertainment, toys, games, outings, then theres still dental, school supplies, school fees. Allowances for older kids so they can buy things when out with their friends.
The government may help with some financial aid for those who struggle to make enough to make ends meet. But it is nothing compared to the cost of living with kids.

And that isn't just single moms. Because FYI there are single dads struggling with the same things because mom has bailed. Same thing some have to pay child support and some don't in that case too. A mom who bails on her family pays to the dad as well.

Your also forgetting there is a large portion of familys i know where mom is out working, and unfortunately had a kid with a deadbeat dad who stays home all day gaming and doing nothing at all to contribute, while she does the cooking and cleaning, and the working and bringing home the paycheck while his sorry ass is a leach doing nothing but adding headaches to the house and making her life misserable. But were raised that you do what you can to keep the family together for the sake of the kid/kids. When the kids would have a better life and upbringing if dad was not there taking away from them. (Not to be mistaken with the house husband who contributes to the home, even if it isn't financially, doing what a house wife does)

 

[Julia Sky]

I don’t understand which part of my paragraph is degrading or inhuman….

Well, for one, "prostitutes" is a dehumanizing slur that we've reclaimed. It was used as a way to dehumanize us and came from an angle of "prostituted women", meaning sex was seen as something that happened to us and not something we chose to do. It's harmful and dehumanizing, hence why nowadays "prostitute" and "whore" are terms we reclaimed. You should probably stick to escorts, SP, sex worker... you get the gist.

Also, you keep bringing down other men and talking as if escorts were emotionless, worthless blow up dolls...

I don't think you respect women (or people in general) like you think you do tbh

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

Every worker wants money for their work and time, in any field, in any job, people are not slaves; we live in a capitalist society and it's called work.

Yes we agree on that Gigi my point was regarding the simps who delude themselves into thinking that a hooker who they HAVE to pay in order to spend time with is gonna romantically love them back when money is taken outta the equation or even when money is still in the equation which is a pathetic mindset to fall into in my very educated opinion. Pretty convinced others will agree.

 

[MostHatedForNoReason9]

Well, for one, "prostitutes" is a dehumanizing slur that we've reclaimed. It was used as a way to dehumanize us and came from an angle of "prostituted women", meaning sex was seen as something that happened to us and not something we chose to do. It's harmful and dehumanizing, hence why nowadays "prostitute" and "whore" are terms we reclaimed. You should probably stick to escorts, SP, sex worker... you get the gist.

Also, you keep bringing down other men and talking as if escorts were emotionless, worthless blow up dolls...

I don't think you respect women (or people in general) like you think you do tbh

I agree with you on the term “whore” but let’s agree to disagree on the term “prostitute” because it is crystal clear that we are not about to change each other’s opinion on the term.

 

[Gearóid Walsh]

Yes we agree on that Gigi my point was regarding the simps who delude themselves into thinking that a hooker who they HAVE to pay in order to spend time with is gonna romantically love them back when money is taken outta the equation or even when money is still in the equation which is a pathetic mindset to fall into in my very educated opinion. Pretty convinced others will agree.

If I may kindly ask, why do you worry about how someone else decides to use their money? If they want to spend their own money on "romance", why does it bother you?