Don't fall in love with your regular SP

[vanhamm]

I made a mistake of posting my regular SP name (not her real name), and explain what she told me when we are together, showering me with compliments, telling me that for my age i am hot, each time i see her that i gained muscle and lost fat.

So i get a PM from this guy who is a regular of her too and he starts telling me what she told him, and ask me if its true or not. Sadly I had to tell him the truth and wake him up a bit.

Everything that she tells me is pure bull, I am not hot for my age, I am fat, I am massive still because I lift weights but I am fat too and I guess that aging took a toll on me.

Sadly this guy was living an illusion and he was so deceive that everything she told him was the same she told me.

I don't know if its just me or I am not normal but from the first SP i ordered back in 2013 til today I know that what they tell me is to get the hook in me and keep me coming back. My SP as a great body she is hot for her age, but I know damn well she is playing the game and since she been doing that as a side line for 13 years now she knows exactly what to say to keep her regulars coming back.

For my part I have been single for so long but one thing I know If i would ever date a women again its not going to be an SP.

On a side note I deleted all the post that I mention her SP name and I had to block the guy that message me It was becoming really pathetic.

 

[AirBo]

I made a mistake of posting my regular SP name (not her real name), and explain what she told me when we are together, showering me with compliments, telling me that for my age i am hot, each time i see her that i gained muscle and lost fat.

So i get a PM from this guy who is a regular of her too and he starts telling me what she told him, and ask me if its true or not. Sadly I had to tell him the truth and wake him up a bit.

Everything that she tells me is pure bull, I am not hot for my age, I am fat, I am massive still because I lift weights but I am fat too and I guess that aging took a toll on me.

Sadly this guy was living an illusion and he was so deceive that everything she told him was the same she told me.

I don't know if its just me or I am not normal but from the first SP i ordered back in 2013 til today I know that what they tell me is to get the hook in me and keep me coming back. My SP as a great body she is hot for her age, but I know damn well she is playing the game and since she been doing that as a side line for 13 years now she knows exactly what to say to keep her regulars coming back.

For my part I have been single for so long but one thing I know If i would ever date a women again its not going to be an SP.

On a side note I deleted all the post that I mention her SP name and I had to block the guy that message me It was becoming really pathetic.

I usually don't quote my own posts but....

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-to-live-a-normal-life-after-hobbying.227075/post-1566613

 

[nikond700]

Hi, I share your pain. I met a girl recentyl, did some arrangement and fell in love with her. Wanted to marry her after the first day I met her. I never believed in mariage. J'ai eu un coup de foudre c'est la vie je cherchais pas l'amour de ma vie.

She never told me any compliment, she never told me that I am cute, kind gentle. She never told me nothing but I fell in love with her anyway. She's not an SP, she just a single mom who need some help.

So, for 3 weeks now, I have not had any messages back from her and have not seen her since. Use to see her 2x time a week for 3 month. $$$

Your heart must be broken, but with time, it will heal. I don't know how long it will take you to get over her lies but, you will finally get over it.

Me, it's been 3 month my pain but I know it will heal.

We are all here for you buddy. Tiens le coup.

 

[rando555]

Just like in real life, every woman is different

Some SPs rely on a script, others are much more dynamic, it really depends on the individual

The best way to roughly gauge if you are more attractive in real life (in my opinion) is to see how many people check you out if you're good at picking up on that...

 

[vanhamm]

Hi, I share your pain. I met a girl recentyl, did some arrangement and fell in love with her. Wanted to marry her after the first day I met her. I never believed in mariage. J'ai eu un coup de foudre c'est la vie je cherchais pas l'amour de ma vie.

She never told me any compliment, she never told me that I am cute, kind gentle. She never told me nothing but I fell in love with her anyway. She's not an SP, she just a single mom who need some help.

So, for 3 weeks now, I have not had any messages back from her and have not seen her since. Use to see her 2x time a week for 3 month. $$$

Your heart must be broken, but with time, it will heal. I don't know how long it will take you to get over her lies but, you will finally get over it.

Me, it's been 3 month my pain but I know it will heal.

We are all here for you buddy. Tiens le coup.

You misread the post I am not the one who fell in love with my regular SP, the guy that message me did. I only open is eyes or at least tried.

I was in a 9 year relationship before 2013, I gave everything to my ex, we had a beautiful house travelled, her head was always in the cloud, we ate at restaurant 3 times per week etc.

She ended up cheating on me with a guy at her job and threw my out of my house. So if I count all the bad dating experience i had in the past 30 years, I don't fall in love anymore and I don't believe in love either being the biggest myth.

When I see an SP or my regular We have fun i treat her well etc but when i leave i don't spend time thinking about her. LOL

 

[AirBo]

This is why I don’t have a regular SP.
Only one visit is enough.

I would never fall in love or dating an SP.

Never say never.

Le cœur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point

But I admit "one visit is enough" is a good rule

 

[LC18]

the first SP i ordered back in 2013

Like you ordered a pizza or an Amazon package…


Anyways, no. Not everyone lies to their clients but you shouldn’t fall in love with us, most of us aren’t looking for love so it would always be a one sided love and it’s never easy to be rejected or to reject someone.

Someone may compliment you, listen to you, be kind but it doesn’t mean they are in love. Be careful.

 

[Jaxan]

We are paying for an illusion, and SP's are there to provide an escape from reality, and the lines can sometimes be blurred, but we all need to be reminded that at the end of the day, it's still a transaction.

Not to say relationships can't be built, but there are boundaries, and if you can't differentiate fantasy vs reality, problems such as these can arise.

 

[BuzzmanX]

I went down this road in the last year.

I had a regular that cover everything I needed and more so my focus was only on her. I went to see her 12 time in 10 month and it was 2 or 3 hours booking each time.
For me it wasn't a love story cause I knew in the end but I was so comfy with her that I wanted the moment to continue since I was thinking of stopping the booking world for 2024.
I was even talking with her via what's app and we kept in touch and same with her assistant. Took me a long time to wake up cause I was told that she miss me and they talk about me.
But when they started giving me diff answer to the same question, red flags started to pop and was starting to see I was manipulated.
My last booking with her end up to be a total turn off and it made me stay offline for the all summer.

Not even 45 min in a 3 hour booking, the action stop. She notice something on me and started to check her self by rubbing her vagina and smelling her hand. (that part left me a disturbing image in my head) I ask if something was wrong and we stood up. She look at me and start laughing because I was cover in bloody pussy juice because her period just started and her sponge did not did the trick.One of the reason that made her lol was because I was unlucky since it wasn't the first time. I was able to control my anger and not blow a fuse and went back in the shower.

While in the shower I was thinking of leaving but kinda force myself to stay to see if something could be save for the rest of the evening. Action did restart but with some limitation and less fun.

I don't eat bloody pussy, Twilight foreplay is not for me.
In the past I did ask her that if this happen to refuse the booking, idk if i was taken for granted since I went to see her multiple time.

That evening I learn / remember that I'm just an income and nothing else

Last time I talk to her, instead of making a 4 hour booking, told her to remove my number and I was not coming back

4 month as pass and now working on a new TDL but going back to my set of rule I was following before

 

[MCTJ]

The title of this thread is good advice, but it's very hard to "not fall in love" with someone when those feelings arise naturally. It happened to many clients to fall in love with an escort and it will keep happening forever, especially to those whose emotional needs are not being met outside of paid intimacy. There can be many reasons for that: childhood trauma, lack of social skills, lack of attractiveness
, etc.

 

[STAEDTLER]

The title of this thread is good advice, but it's very hard to "not fall in love" with someone when those feelings arise naturally. It happened to many clients to fall in love with an escort and it will keep happening forever, especially to those whose emotional needs are not being met outside of paid intimacy. There can be many reasons for that: childhood trauma, lack of social skills, lack of attractiveness
, etc.

Fall or not fall in love.., that is a blurred line with some very rare ladies that one might cross or not. Paid intimacy is also about great sex or not. It's about sexual chemistry that is real and rare.. even in the world outside the trade. That's why some people are tempted to go see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence And sometimes in an illusory way fall in love or what you think is love.

 

[LC18]

She look at me and start laughing because I was cover in bloody pussy juice because her period just started and her sponge did not did the trick.

I cannot judge my colleagues for deciding to work while they’re on their period. I usually just tell people and trust that if they really want to see me, they’ll reschedule.

However, she probably did because you guys have seen each other many times and she might have assumed you were comfortable enough.

 

[Rebaynia]

Fall or not fall in love.., that is a blurred line with some very rare ladies that one might cross or not. Paid intimacy is also about great sex or not. It's about sexual chemistry that is real and rare.. even in the world outside the trade. That's why some people are tempted to go see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence And sometimes in an illusory way fall in love or what you think is love.

I try to be understanding and appreciate when someone forms an emotional attachment to me. But the very first thing anyone sees when they read my ad, profile, or anything, is I am already in a relationship, and am available because it is part of my relationship.

There are still some that develop atrachments and profess love , when they do I reiterate that my heart is not available to love them, but I adore them and the time we share.

There is also the kinds that profess love and my answer is it is bs, as just because sex is great for them, doesn't equate to love. But I do understand and appreciate the ones I know who are emotionally attached, and even if the time together is paid, doesn't cheapen I actually care about their well being, but am adament to point out there is a certain bit of distance that maintains, and will verbally draw the line when they try to push it, and do keep my relationship as a reminder that I am unavailable for more than what I am there for. Where they agree to understand to know their place, that if they wish to continue to see me, my master is my relationship and they are emotionally cockold.

 

[AirBo]

You know what? This gives me an idea. Maybe all escorts should say they are in a relationship even when that's not actually the case. Of course clients could still fall in love with them, but at least there would be no hope that something more could happen. That hope is the worst part of it, because even if you try to reason yourself, the feeling is still there, even if just a fantasy.

I know this is wishful thinking because there's a lot of money at play but respectable providers should be aware of what's going on and pull the plug with some of their clients after some time.

I know... probably not gonna happen

 

[Rebaynia]

You know what? This gives me an idea. Maybe all escorts should say they are in a relationship even when that's not actually the case. Of course clients could still fall in love with them, but at least there would be no hope that something more could happen. That hope is the worst part of it, because even if you try to reason yourself, the feeling is still there, even if just a fantasy.

It has always hurt me to know I was breaking someones heart even when trying to date and looking for compatibility for relationship. I'm kind of glad I get an out by already being in a relationship now as an excuse.

Still have some white knights trying to save me from my life choices even though this is the life I have learned I need for my personal fulfillment, And have chosen once I have already lived the kind of life they try to convince me they can provide. Sure they are better off financially than what I have had in past relationships, but finances isn't going to make up for the carnal needs that fill a gap that the last 20 years haven't been able to fill.

 

[Rebaynia]

You know what? This gives me an idea. Maybe all escorts should say they are in a relationship even when that's not actually the case. Of course clients could still fall in love with them, but at least there would be no hope that something more could happen. That hope is the worst part of it, because even if you try to reason yourself, the feeling is still there, even if just a fantasy.

I get warned that it is bad advertising that it is the first thing mentioned, but if it wasn't for the very fact that it turns us both on that I do this, I wouldn’t be doing this job to begin with. Not to mention my relationship is part of my identity, when it comes up in conversation, it's not as big a shock then. Lol.. though I can tell who doesn't read profiles when it comes up as well... . There is also a sense of security to me in people knowing I'm not entirely alone, as a deterent to preditor type clients. Especially since I have been collared (our version of a married persons wedding ring).

 

[Thor Jr]

All i have to say on this matter is that yes, love can be a pain in the ass at times, but while the love bug has bitten you, it feels good, till it don't anymore and the aches and pains set in.

I lost count on how many times i have been in love, and my take away from all my adventures is that, you can either let it get you down or move on, go for a massage, call an SP, go to a singles bar, just don't sit at home and lay in your pity bed. Life is too short for this crap.

Sorry, I'm sour on love these days, but its a reality check.

 

[Thor Jr]

And remember, infatuation is loves second cousin.

 

[vanhamm]

My SP textes me everyday, she has my facebook, if i don't reply in a matter of minutes she whines and start with well if you don't want to talk to me anymore say it.

Sadly after 2 of my cats pass in the last 6 months i adopted 2 new kittens and shared on my facebook page, its public so a women i don't even know gave me thumbs up, my SP showered me with questions about who that women was, also I had the chance to date a women once but it did not workout, I showed her picture to my SP and she said wow she is ugly. Well she was not ugly at all.

My SP invited me twice to 2 events, guess what when the time came she cancelled.

What gives her away in all this the compliments, the fact that i make her cum so hard each time..... she never gives it for free. food for thoughts.

 

[Fradi]

I am totally in love with my ATF she is absolutely gorgeous the kindest most thoughtful young lady I have met in a long time.
However that love is not the type of love I had for my wife and life partner.
It is one of respect of gratitude for how kind she is and how she treats me, it is a love like you have for a dear friend because that is how I think of her.

Now is it all an act and am I being duped, is it just a well acted fantasy?
Perhaps, there is always that hanging over you when you are paying someone to see you.
Even if it turns out that way in the end and even knowing the outcome I wouldn’t hesitate to do it all over again, simply because I am happy when I am with her and I always look forward to seeing her.
She is exactly what I needed and I will always be grateful and consider my self lucky for all the times I spent with her.
Money is meant to be spent to make your life better and for you to be happy and she has done that, so I will always consider it money well spent.