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its more like sharing my personal life stories, talking about life struggles, ext... for me personally the sharing of thoughts and feelings with an SP is a way that makes me feel better, safe, and confortable.. for sure i dont do it with all the SP’s i see, usually with my regular ones. just to tell you i sometimes tip an SP just to talk nothing more.. and sometimes i ask myself am i disturbing this SP with my stories especially when i see she really listen and give you her honest opinion? maybe she don’t care about my conversation after the meeting. but in the moment together you see it emotionally all in with me!
Personally I enjoy emotional intimacy with clients because it makes our connection stronger and it makes the encounters more fulfilling for both parties. I consider that it's a part of my job to hear certain clients vent about their lives, I don't feel disturbed. I'm a good listener and that's partly why a lot of people book me. 
Even in my ''real life'' a lot of people come to me to discuss their problems. I've always enjoyed hearing people talk about their feelings and I think it's really important in life to have a person to vent to or share ideas with, even if it's an SP.
However, I think it can be heavy for some SP's, specially very young SP's who may not have the tools to give appropriate responses to certain situations. Some companions I know prefer bookings with less talking, some prefer more. For some people it can be particularly heavy to hear about specific subjects, so I would suggest to ask the SP if you can bring up a certain topic.
Even in my ''real life'' a lot of people come to me to discuss their problems. I've always enjoyed hearing people talk about their feelings and I think it's really important in life to have a person to vent to or share ideas with, even if it's an SP.However, I think it can be heavy for some SP's, specially very young SP's who may not have the tools to give appropriate responses to certain situations. Some companions I know prefer bookings with less talking, some prefer more. For some people it can be particularly heavy to hear about specific subjects, so I would suggest to ask the SP if you can bring up a certain topic.
Keep in mind that SWs are not therapists. It is fine to talk about sensitive subjects and life experiences that sometimes can be hard, as long as it's part of a conversation where both parties are invited to share what they want to say. If you are monologuing on how your life is hard and what you should change and looking for answers from the SW in from of you, you might not be at the right place.
thank you for sharing your personal opinion, im totally okay with the idea of asking the SP if she is okay to hear and share certain topics. it’s a very respectful way!Personally I enjoy emotional intimacy with clients because it makes our connection stronger and it makes the encounters more fulfilling for both parties. I consider that it's a part of my job to hear certain clients vent about their lives, I don't feel disturbed. I'm a good listener and that's partly why a lot of people book me.
However, I think it can be heavy for some SP's, specially very young SP's who may not have the tools to give appropriate responses to certain situations. Some companions I know prefer bookings with less talking, some prefer more. For some people it can be particularly heavy to hear about specific subjects, so I would suggest to ask the SP if you can bring up a certain topic.
Yes exactly, and if you want this to be part of the service I recommend choosing a SP who's personality lends itself well to it. Some of us like to listen, some of us don't and view it as extra work. Personally, I'm fascinated by the human mind and by emotions and I love to hear other people's stories and perspectives, so I'm a good candidate for this type of booking.
The only thing I tend to not like is if a client starts complaining about other women, for example it's really unpleasant for me to hear a gentleman say bad things about his girlfriend, his wife, his ex, or other SP's.
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thank you for sharing your opinion about this.
i had a similar conversation with different professional therapist and psychologist, and talking about sensetive subjects to therapist is one of the biggest challenges for those professionals. usually clients can’t open enough and therapist they try to dig for many hours to have a diagnosis. the reason of this struggle is the physical barrier between both
. there’s a study that shows many people don’t open enough if they don’t feel a physical contact (like a kiss, a soft touch, a hug, ext..).
what you said is very true and real! but the subject is deeper than am i the right place or no?
personally im very good with what i do and what i share with an SP.
my question was more am i disturbing the SP or no? and sharing different opinions in this forum will help me to have a better idea.
I think it's really important for you to ask her. It makes sense for certain people to feel more comfortable opening up with a SP, which is why I've considered booking someone before. But I think during the booking process you could say that part of why you are booking her today is that you need someone who will listen to you, just to make sure that your needs are met and the SP is comfortable with this idea.
I always tell clients they can tell me almost anything but to not expect advice from me or solution.
“Tell me, if it’s too embarrassing you don’t have to come back. That’s what’s best about it”
Be careful not to trauma dump though
“Tell me, if it’s too embarrassing you don’t have to come back. That’s what’s best about it
” Be careful not to trauma dump though
It really all depends on the bond and trust you have.
I would not share things with someone I just met or someone that gives off a vibe that you are just one of many.
With my ATF it is easy to share just about anything as we are friends have known each other for a very long time and trust each other.
We are there for each other in tough times as well as being able to celebrate each other’s joys and accomplishments.
She is an amazing young lady and I am very lucky to have her in my life.
I would not share things with someone I just met or someone that gives off a vibe that you are just one of many.
With my ATF it is easy to share just about anything as we are friends have known each other for a very long time and trust each other.
We are there for each other in tough times as well as being able to celebrate each other’s joys and accomplishments.
She is an amazing young lady and I am very lucky to have her in my life.
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