Etiquette faux-pas or rightful attitude ?

[vwjf]

Had myself planned a duo with someone I had a lot of fun with and someone she works with regularly. 2 minutes before I get there I get a text that the other girl cannot make it. Sick apparently.

Now I made sure to ask 2 hours prior and as well the night before. Because I changed shifts from dayshift to night shift AND did a 2 hours drive (and 2 more back) for the duo. I have read good reviews about the SP that was there but the second is an on off thing often not replying and not reliable.

She also told me she would be late because of room changes or something.

I felt bad but I cancelled. I told her as such. I have my fair share of non paid sex so when I seek something it is out of the ordinary. And I was a little mad.

I told her as such and apologized but declined the one hour solo (at regular rate).

I was not mad but this was NOT what I wanted and am not in need enough to get something I do not want.

What would you guys have done ?

Any sp input ?

She was nice about it. I am assuming it is not her fault and there must be tons of clients that are unreliable as well.

Just disappointed is all !

 

[djlucky7]

You booked in advance and tried confirming. You did nothing wrong.

 

[envelopes]

2 minutes before I get there I get a text that the other girl cannot make it.

Her own fault. They thought you would just go with it. Glad you didn't.

 

[talkinghead]

You confirmed two hours before the date, you changed your work schedule, and you drove for four hours? I wouldn't apologize; I'd be grumpy. It's unprofessional. "Sick apparently"--and suddenly, it seems....

 

[MichelleMontreal]

My personal policy is to believe (or at least act like I believe) whatever excuse I'm given, because I'll never truly know. I could always assume malice, but it would make the job more difficult. No shows are part of the BS that happens to us SPs on a somewhat regular basis, it is infuriating no matter the reason.

You'll never know what happened behind the scenes, could be anything from a flat tire, to a health emergency, or a drug problem. The SP that showed up could be just as upset (or more).

I think it's more likely that something went sideways at the last minute than they conspired to not make money, and have you come down for nothing. But I could be wrong.

Shit happens, sometimes literally

 

[urquell]

While of course it sucks to have everything fall apart at the last minute, especially when you have to travel such a distance, it may be nobody's fault at all. You're not likely to know for sure, but the first SP may be just as much a victim of circumstance as you are, and the other girl may actually be sick, in which case it would have been a shitty session for everyone. Of course you have no obligation whatsoever to go along with the changing circumstances and the changed deal, which you didn't, so good for you. Look at it this way, either the girl actually was sick, or if she wasn't sick then she wasn't engaged in your session. Either way the best result for you was probably not going ahead with the session because it wouldn't have been what you were after and what you went to such great effort to set up. If you feel like it was sketchy then simply avoid future sessions with either or both girls. If you can't know for sure then probably best to give the benefit of the doubt, but still maybe book something/someone different next time and maybe closer to home if possible.

 

[vwjf]

This is not fair for you and very unprofessional last min. I feel sorry that you had to go through this.

There are worse things...Seriously. I did other things. I actually felt bad for the first SP as well who is truly nice. But I don't fake or lie, and won't pretend I was in the mood. That being said considering what's going on in the world, and the fact that I am fortunate enough to have many hobbies and enjoy them, I do not feel the need to be sorry ! Quite the opposite ! That being said it also does not mean I should accept everything!

 

[vwjf]

My personal policy is to believe (or at least act like I believe) whatever excuse I'm given, because I'll never truly know. I could always assume malice, but it would make the job more difficult. No shows are part of the BS that happens to us SPs on a somewhat regular basis, it is infuriating no matter the reason.

You'll never know what happened behind the scenes, could be anything from a flat tire, to a health emergency, or a drug problem. The SP that showed up could be just as upset (or more).

I think it's more likely that something went sideways at the last minute than they conspired to not make money, and have you come down for nothing. But I could be wrong.

Shit happens, sometimes literally

It does. No matter the reason, I am still a lucky person. I just felt bad for not attending the meeting but really I have come to the conclusions that solos are not satisfying for me. That's why I ask for specifics when I book. No surprises for anyone, everything consensual, respectful for all.

 

[vwjf]

While of course it sucks to have everything fall apart at the last minute, especially when you have to travel such a distance, it may be nobody's fault at all. You're not likely to know for sure, but the first SP may be just as much a victim of circumstance as you are, and the other girl may actually be sick, in which case it would have been a shitty session for everyone. Of course you have no obligation whatsoever to go along with the changing circumstances and the changed deal, which you didn't, so good for you. Look at it this way, either the girl actually was sick, or if she wasn't sick then she wasn't engaged in your session. Either way the best result for you was probably not going ahead with the session because it wouldn't have been what you were after and what you went to such great effort to set up. If you feel like it was sketchy then simply avoid future sessions with either or both girls. If you can't know for sure then probably best to give the benefit of the doubt, but still maybe book something/someone different next time and maybe closer to home if possible.

Closer to home would be unlikely. But I am giving them benefit of the doubt. The lifestyle can be rough. So I am not really complaining, and that is also why I was polite when I declined. But I still felt almost obligated. (my own guilt, not the SP's pressure. She was nice in her replies).