Has a disgusting experience with a Service Provider Made You Consider Taking a Break from the Hobby?

[Obvio-0bvio]

A couple of weeks ago, I visited a massage parlor, and something happened during the session that really threw me off. For some reason, I’ve been struggling to get back into the hobby ever since. I’m not going to name the place or the service provider, as I’m not here to bash anyone, but I do want to share what happened.

Unfortunately, I noticed that the provider's underwear appeared dirty, with some red/black stains, and it left me feeling extremely uncomfortable and disgusted. This image has been stuck in my mind, and I’m having trouble processing the situation. I know that most service providers maintain excellent hygiene, but this experience was hard to shake off.

Has anyone else experienced something similar that turned them off? If so, how did you manage to get past it and get back into the hobby? I’d appreciate hearing how others have dealt with situations like this.

 

[LeDodo]

But did you continue the session? And that made your experience hard to forget in the bad meaning of it? Or you walk away?

 

[Flyingby]

Yes
Instant debonner. Walked away
Booked an atf 2 days later repeated a couple of times to help me remember the good times

Anytime I have even just a mediocre session I immediately book a fantastic one to help me forget

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

But did you continue the session? And that made your experience hard to forget in the bad meaning of it? Or you walk away?

I didn’t continue the session because it happened at the beginning , I made up an excuse about having an important meeting, jumped in the shower, and got out of there as fast as I could.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Yes
Instant debonner. Walked away
Booked an atf 2 days later repeated a couple of times to help me remember the good times

Anytime I have even just a mediocre session I immediately book a fantastic one to help me forget

Not a bad idea actually, it's kind of brilliant. One thing’s for sure: giving up just isn’t in your vocabulary.

 

[LeDodo]

I didn’t continue the session because it happened at the beginning , I made up an excuse about having an important meeting, jumped in the shower, and got out of there as fast as I could.

Didn't have such disgusting experience but that would just be in the list of unlucky encounters/experience.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Didn't have such disgusting experience but that would just be in the list of unlucky encounters/experience.

It's completely normal, especially considering how often I deal with service providers, that the occasional bad experience sneaks in. Let’s just say I’ve had two memorable ones this year. First, there was the delightful incident where a service provider managed to clog my toilet, and now we’ve graduated to the charming Nutella or red zone underwear situation. Not exactly my highlight reel.But, silver linings: 99% of my encounters are actually positive. This just... wasn’t part of that 99%.

 

[Flyingby]

One thing’s for sure: giving up just isn’t in your vocabulary.

Not necessary

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I don't really want to comment on this board anymore but this is.. lol.... I just want to explain that these red and black stains in her underwear probably mean she accidentally had her period and may not have noticed, or the underwear has been washed and previously stained with period blood, which doesn't always come out when you do the laundry. I thought I might educate you guys on female anatomy since you're all attracted to women and interested in having sex with them.

I'm not defending ''disgusting behavior from a service provider'' and I'm so sorry you encountered such a disgusting thing as a woman on her period or a reminder that women have vaginas and get periods, but we don't always control when something like this happens, she may not have had a change of underwear that day. Blood after a while has oxidized and becomes black, hence the blackish brown stains. Those aren't shit stains. Just saying.

With all due respect, I want to make it clear that this post is not intended to bash any service providers, and I apologize if it comes across as harsh. However, discussions like this are an integral part of this forum and ultimately why platforms like MERB exist, to share honest experiences between clients and service providers.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I have nothing but respect for service providers , and I fully understand that no one is perfect including myself. That said, when I book a session, hygiene is a top priority for me, and I expect the same standard from the service provider. That’s not asking too much, that's just the bare minimum.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Not necessary

Jokes aside, I genuinely think your approach is brilliant. To move past this recent bad experience, I’ve decided to take your advice and book a session this week with the best service provider I’ve seen recently. Honestly, I don’t know why I didn’t think of doing that sooner. Kudos to you for the solid perspective.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I'm just trying to explain the situation to you, not trying to defend the service provider, because it seems like you were confused about the origins of the stains. Women have their periods once a month, we can't calculate the second it happens and specially working at a massage parlor managing a situation like this can be complicated, accidents happen and this isn't like shitting yourself or pissing yourself. I'm sorry but there's always a risk when you have sex with a woman you don't know that she may start her period during sex.. Even if her hygiene was perfect. Some of us even have irregular periods and absolutely can't control when it's going to happen.

I'm not exactly sure what it was, but there were definitely two different colors inside the underwear. Why would you work in a massage parlour, especially if the parlour is offering more than just massages and happy ending , while on their period? It's not only unhygienic and disturbing, but it also puts clients at serious risk of contracting STDs.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I just explained it to you. Blood after a while oxidizes itself and becomes brown or black, some of the stains were more fresh. It's also possible that this was just stained underwear that has been washed and she had nothing else to wear that day and was hoping clients wouldn't notice. Blood sometimes doesn't come out when you put clothes in the washing machine, specially if you use the wrong settings. For instance if the water used to clean underwear is warm it can ''cook'' the blood, or if it's not washed right away the stains become permanent. I know, nasty huh? Well we have to deal with it. She may not have even been on her period that day. I recognize that this is unappealing and it's best to show up at the work place or at a booking with an attractive outfit and attractive looking underwear, so I get while you'd be upset.

You didn't read anything I wrote, none of us control when we will get our period, unless we are on a form of birth control which prevents periods from happening entirely, which is not something that's for everyone and can have severe side effects like nausea, weight gain, depression etc.

Maybe she didn't realize she had it, or she did and wasn't able to change her underwear but performed adequate hygiene to prevent you from getting blood on you if you actually went through with it. I've worked at massage parlors and sometimes I didn't even have time to take a 15 minute break between clients, just saying. You could have just pointed it out to her instead of writing about it here.

''Hey are you ok? I noticed that you have period blood on your underwear.. I take it you must not be feeling well, you should take a break and take the time to change, I will see another girl instead''
Here's a template of something you could have said in such a situation. Yes a woman having her period can put the client at a higher risk of contracting an STI, but mostly if you are having unprotected penetrative sex with her. Daty can also be riskier but you will notice if there's blood there right away...

I completely understand everything you shared, and it's possible that she had just started her period. I wasn’t considered asking for someone else, I was already turn off by the situation. Nevertheless, I paid the service provider without making a fuss. I chose not to embarrass her by mentioning the condition of her underwear , she's an adult and should have been aware of it herself; the stains were clearly noticeable. I genuinely appreciate everything you’ve said.

 

[hob12]

I don't really want to comment on this board anymore but

You look like you can't help it. I think I saw you write this at least 5 times lol.

Don't take this too bad, just a caustic observation.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

You look like you can't help it. I think I saw you write this at least 5 times lol.

Don't take this too bad, just a caustic observation.

Maybe if different members weren't constantly messaging me asking why I'm not participating in the forum anymore, or making vague comments about me trying to bait me to come back (not this post obviously) I wouldn't be returning once in a while.. I also advertise here so I see posts and headlines

 

[Lucky 64]

Maybe if different members weren't constantly messaging me asking why I'm not participating in the forum anymore I wouldn't be returning once in a while.. I also advertise here so I see posts and headlines

Saw an Sp i don t what to name because i saw her several times and she was amazing but that afternoon she walked in the room the smell was terrible,i asked her to shower Even then it was so bad so i skipped never saw her again and she change agency

 

[hob12]

Maybe if different members weren't constantly messaging me asking why I'm not participating in the forum anymore, or making vague comments about me trying to bait me to come back (not this post obviously) I wouldn't be returning once in a while.. I also advertise here so I see posts and headlines

Just saying, I think you love to argue and that's fine

 

[Flyingby]

Just saying, I think you love to argue and that's fine

Not the time or place for this
Your comment to her was unjustified and has nothing to do with OP question

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Not the time or place for this
Your comment to her was unjustified and has nothing to do with OP question

Thank you. I deleted my comments because I don't want to be associated with this behaviour described by OP but I was genuinely trying to explain something that has to do with female anatomy and certain realities, not trying to argue or start anything.. no I don't enjoy arguing.

If you have noticed yes I come back once in a while (I announced taking breaks, nothing else) but I've been distancing myself more and more from the lounge to avoid situations like these... Anyways I don't want to draw further attention to myself.. See ya.

 

[LeDodo]

Not the time or place for this
Your comment to her was unjustified and has nothing to do with OP question

This

Just saying, I think you love to argue and that's fine

And it is an unnecessary comment as she was sharing a different perspective and context for our education or reminder.

It's best to have on the platform diversified point of views and such comments don't motivate people to share.

 

[neverbored]

Was there a naked guy with a boner at the atm ? lol

Honest question, was this a fs location ? Cause if its not and she's wearing a sponge during her period, why would it matter? Unless you're hemophobic which then I'd understand.

You're on a board that talks about making out with strangers after they've been with other strangers. CIM, DATY, Anal sex, used condoms in the barbage, theft, coercion, lube scented burps, etc... but dried blood in panties is where you tap out?

I once was with a SW that got up after riding me to Nirvana and was horrified to see a pool of blood all over my groin and sheets. Looked like I had just ended a date with Lorena Bobbitt. I couldn't stop laughing and even had her take a pic of me cause it really looked like I was the buffet in a vampire's den.

Imagine if SWs retired everytime they saw clients underwear that aren't brand new. Just the horror stories about having to explain to a client to actually wash their ass or insist on using soap seems far more traumatizing. There would be 0 SW left.

Sometimes I wonder if some of you ever actually lived with a woman. Dried blood stains black oh no!

Anyways... hope you feel better. Sounds like you could use a manicure and some healing crystals. <---- /s