Is It Appropriate to Inquire About Menu Options with Service Providers?

[Obvio-0bvio]

I’m interested in exploring whether it's acceptable to directly ask a service provider about the services they offer. The reason behind my inquiry is that I frequently receive private messages following my reviews, particularly from individuals curious about the range of options available. Since I may not be interested in all the extra services a provider has on their menu, I believe that including these details in my reviews could streamline responses and provide clearer information for potential clients.

Would it be considered appropriate to ask a service provider for a straightforward rundown of their available services? Even if I ultimately decide not to pursue these additional offerings, having this information would certainly enhance the depth of my review. I welcome your thoughts on the etiquette of making such inquiries with service providers.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Good question, I always ask first thing if DFK is available, if not I find someone else. I think it is appropriate if asked politely, after all you are a client paying for a service. However these things are YMMV. But still best to ask because some escorts will not provide said services no matter what.

 

[DouMan]

Most certainly it is more than acceptable to know beforehand if what we are looking for is offered by the lady. It is basically a mark of respect for both parties to know each others expectations and especially limits.

However to include a list of options in a review "just to inform others", absolutely not, especially if as said they do not interest you. A review relates your experience.

If others want to know if said provider offers such and such option maybe they should just put on their big boy pants and call her themselves.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Good question, I always ask first thing if DFK is available, if not I find someone else. I think it is appropriate if asked politely, after all you are a client paying for a service. However these things are YMMV. But still best to ask because some escorts will not provide said services no matter what.

I have a somewhat traditional old fashioned approach to my preferences. I’m mainly interested in occasional DFK and oral sex (without a condom), as well as the main services provided with a condom obviously.im inquiring to explore additional options, as this would help save time responding to private messages from other members. Although I may not be particularly interested in extras, I believe it would enhance my reviews to include them and add some variety. Thank you for your feedback regarding my inquiry buddy.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Most certainly it is more than acceptable to know beforehand if what we are looking for is offered by the lady. It is basically a mark of respect for both parties to know each others expectations and especially limits.

However to include a list of options in a review "just to inform others", absolutely not, especially if as said they do not interest you. A review relates your experience.

If others want to know if said provider offers such and such option maybe they should just put on their big boy pants and call her themselves.

Obviously, I’m not particularly interested in the extra services on the menu. However, I believe including them in my reviews would provide greater depth and help other members gauge whether these options meet their expectations and requirements.
Responding to 5 to 10 PM every day can be both exhausting and exhilarating. I don't want to come across as rude by neglecting to reply to other members. Thank you for your feedback, my friend.

 

[MCTJ]

You often say that you respect sex workers (kudos to you) so I'll explain why what you suggest is a bad idea. A sex worker can always refuse to perform a certain service to a given client (what is called consent). Bad clients are already using reviews to pressure sex workers to perform services they are not always comfortable performing. Broadcasting such a list of services as if universal (I.e. a "menu") will only reinforce this pattern, which is likely to negatively affect the sex worker.

 

[Fradi]

Personally I am not that interested in a Menu to be listed in a review.
Either the SP has the services she offers listed on her web or if she doesn’t I will contact her and ask her if she is ok with what I am looking for.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

You often say that you respect sex workers (kudos to you) so I'll explain why what you suggest is a bad idea. A sex worker can always refuse to perform a certain service to a given client (what is called consent). Bad clients are already using reviews to pressure sex workers to perform services they are not always comfortable performing. Broadcasting such a list of services as if universal (I.e. a "menu") will only reinforce this pattern, which is likely to negatively affect the sex worker.

You raised some very interesting points that resonate with me. I believe it might be more appropriate not to inquire further, as each member has different experiences with the additional services that providers offer. I think I will maintain my usual review style. It's unfortunate because I would like to be more straightforward regarding the services available to accommodate other members; however, I'm simply not interested in those extra services . Thank you for your insights; they've helped me come to a decision.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

It's unfortunate because I would like to be more straightforward regarding the services available to accommodate other members;

It is not your job to advertise for sex workers. Talking about your experience only is what will help providers the most.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Personally I am not that interested in a Menu to be listed in a review.
Either the SP has the services she offers listed on her web or if she doesn’t I will contact her and ask her if she is ok with what I am looking for.

I agree. I believe it is more appropriate to communicate what you are seeking rather than simply requesting a list of services, as that can come across as somewhat rude. Thank you, my friend.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

It is not your job to advertise for sex workers. Talking about your experience only is what will help providers the most.

I completely agree with you. As I mentioned earlier, I’m trying to save time in terms of pm’s. That is why I was inquiring in the lounge section. I've already made my decision and will continue with the usual reviews. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my inquiry; I truly appreciate it, my friend.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

For me it's a huge turn off to be asked about a ''menu''.. I am not a restaurant.

If somebody wants a clear list of services that I can be guaranteed to provide, I will offer it. Some services are ymmv. I've been considering if I should write a list of my services in my ads, but honestly I want clients to desire having an experience with me instead of just a bunch of acronyms.

I tend to prefer if a client asks ''do you do x and y'' rather than having me list the acronyms. However I like to be upfront about everything and I like clarity, I want to know what's being expected of me and I want it to be clearly understood that I offer certain things and not others, so it's okay when somebody asks me to list my services.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

You often say that you respect sex workers (kudos to you) so I'll explain why what you suggest is a bad idea. A sex worker can always refuse to perform a certain service to a given client (what is called consent). Bad clients are already using reviews to pressure sex workers to perform services they are not always comfortable performing. Broadcasting such a list of services as if universal (I.e. a "menu") will only reinforce this pattern, which is likely to negatively affect the sex worker.

I agree with this 100%. I rarely refuse to offer a service, but there has been times when a client had a really bad breath or just really didn't know how to kiss and wanted dfk and I wasn't able to reciprocate the act so well. Some services also depend on the client's anatomy and how I'm feeling at a given moment, I'm not going to expand on this but you can imagine what I mean. lol. and that isn't my fault or the client's fault. I've definitely seen a pattern in reviews of clients complaining that a provider doesn't offer a service that she never claimed to offer, or bragging about getting a service that isn't offered (maybe coercion or maybe she just felt like it with this specific client)

 

[Mistral]

There is no need to obtain or provide a full list of acronyms for a review.

However, guys reading reviews appreciate knowing some details on what you experienced, especially anything uncommon. For example, if it's CBJ only, or COB not allowed, or anal is allowed, DT expert, etc. Or unusual piercings and jewelry such as on the nose or nipples, etc.

 

[Flyingby]

It is not your job to advertise for sex workers. Talking about your experience only is what will help providers the most.

Curious to know why. Not talking about indy’s. As most have the info on their site
But agency girls. Why not ask them at a minimum their restrictions.
Personally if something I really like is not offered. It would be better to know beforehand than showing up and being disappointed

 

[LC18]

I don’t like being asked because the experience varies. I prefer being told what the person wants so I will ask “what are you looking for?” “what are you expecting?”

To which most people will reply 2 maybe 3 things. Is it really worth it for me to enumerate every little thing I may or may not do? No.

If you tell me what you want, we both save time. I can say “sounds fun, I’m in” or “I’m afraid I don’t do that” in rare cases “ew no”.

 

[LC18]

Because so many men are obsessed with menus I made one as a joke

 

[OverIce]

Because so many men are obsessed with menus I made one as a joke View attachment 79552

Awesome!!
Looking forward to seeing your wine menu lol

 

[Rebaynia]

I think the moment someone asks for directly what services do you provide, and even worse what is your menu, it is a bothersome question to many SPs. Sure some have a menu ready to share, but most I know of want to be able to tailor make the expierience for the client they are seeing, not have a checklist to have to follow. Not everyone is into the same things.

 

[Gazoo64]

I think the moment someone asks for directly what services do you provide, and even worse what is your menu, it is a bothersome question to many SPs. Sure some have a menu ready to share, but most I know of want to be able to tailor make the expierience for the client they are seeing, not have a checklist to have to follow. Not everyone is into the same things.

I agree. I think chemistry is important and so is getting to know each other, which is why I repeat when it clicks. And then the rest will follow.
I don’t believe in asking for a menu or services because a lot of it is based on YMMV.

I don’t mean to demean some guys, and we all have our ways of inquiring. But a pet peeve of mine is when replying to a detailed review with a few words:
“DFK? CIM? Anal!”

WTF? It’s not a one size fits all. It probably depends on YMMV, are you a repeat customer, is there good chemistry, etc. Maybe the regular who’s repeated a bunch of times gets DFK, but the first time client no. Duh.

Anyway, I like to repeat when it clicks, and I never asked for a list of menu items. lol!

To each their own!