Still can not get my head around having to pay for a friend even if she fucks you. Buying clothes, nice places to eat... short term taking an escort to a nice dinner and have sex after fine, but long term.....
You've been reading too many fake news stories about sugar relationships. Based on my experience, your description of a sugar relationship is very misleading.
A man in an arrangement is
not paying for a friend. No matter what the ads and the marketing say, Seeking Arrangement is a marketplace for sex. It is a kind of Uber or Airbnb for sex, except everything is negotiable. Men pay women for sex in an arrangement, just like when a man pays an escort for sex. But the terms of the deal are negotiated between the man and the woman and are not set by an agency or any preset hourly price list. The terms are infinitely negotiable but they tend to follow certain patterns as in any marketplace.
There is no requirement that men buy the women gifts, treat the women to expensive meals or take them on fabulous vacations. All of those things
can and do happen in some arrangements and sometimes they never happen. BTW all those things can and do occasionally happen in a relationship with an escort.
There is no requirement that a sugar relationship become long term. My first arrangement lasted for 2 encounters, the second one lasted for 1 encounter and the third one has lasted for seven encounters so far and is ongoing. Even though the first two encounters did not lead to any long term relationship, they were still enjoyable. There were no negative consequences for me not offering to continue to meet the women involved.
In fact, if I had the budget I would probably have continued to meet with one of the women as well as my current SB. There is no assumption of exclusivity for either the man or the woman unless they negotiate that as part of the deal. The question has never come up for me. Do I care whether my current SB has another client or two? She might and I don't care, anymore than I care whether an escort has other clients. If a relationship becomes long term, it is because both parties find it to be mutually satisfying and convenient.
Where I live, good escorts of the type you can find in Montreal for CDN $220/hour (US $175/hour) cost at least US $300-400/hour, if you can find one. Now that there are virtually no reviews and limited advertising in the feminist utopia of the United States, it's that much more challenging to find the good ones. If you do find a good one, then you have to jump through hoops and sometimes pay $ to get verified (such as on P411). Actually meeting the escort can mean making a visit to a strange hotel where the staff have been brain washed by media and LE propaganda to be on the lookout for "sex traffickers" and their clients. If you're lucky, the escort will give you the full hour of time that you paid for but it's not unusual that you will be in and out in 45-50 minutes.
In contrast, as I have pointed out before, one of the big attractions of a sugar relationship is that it can be a good value financially. The upfront cost of a sugar relationship is $80 for a one month membership on SA. I met all 3 of my sb's during my most recent one month membership. Once you have a membership, you can exchange unlimited messages with a potential SB, view photos of her and both parties can get a feel for whether they click or not and whether they trust each other or not. The next step is an in-person meeting, typically in a mutually agreeable neutral location like a coffee shop. You buy the woman coffee and you
never pay her for such a get-to-know you meeting (if she asks for payment to meet in person, you cross her off the list of potentials immediately). There is no escort in the world that would go through a process like that for free with a potential client.
While the women on SA all fantasize about a 4-figure monthly allowance (and some do get it), many of the women are perfectly happy to negotiate a fee per encounter. You should never discuss this on the SA message system because it's against the rules. Discuss a fee for each encounter when you meet in person or via text messages after you exchange numbers. In my case I reached agreement with all three for $250-300
per encounter (not per hour) with a clear understanding that an encounter would last
at least 2 hours. All of my encounters have lasted 2-3 hours. A few of the longer meetings included lunch and then fun time at my home. Other meetings included social time (wine or coffee) and then fun time at my home.
None of the women that I've met could host me at their homes because all 3 are single moms who have full-time jobs. But meeting at my home is my preference anyway.
In sum, my encounters with SB's have closely resembled the kinds of encounters that I like to have with escorts, i.e. ones that last longer than just an hour and that include some social time and some fun time. I can afford to pay a Montreal escort US $350 for 2 hours but I don't want to pay a U.S. escort $600-800+ for a similar encounter. But I'm happy to pay my current SB $300 for a 2+ hour encounter because I find her to be more attractive, better performing and less jaded than most of the "real" escorts that I have met where I live. To quote Napoleon again: "In war as in prostitution, amateurs are often better than professionals."
