Loss of interest

[donbusch]

I'm always busy, doing activities i like or at work. My job is pretty engaging, i get to socialize with a lot of people, I work out almost every day for 90 mins, play sports...
own my own house, i invest a good percentage of my income... i travel a few times a year ect. Just been single almost a decade, dating at this point makes me feel like id prefer to eat wet socks. I
I dunno, i feel like Helmholtz Wastson from brave new world.

Have you tried travelling to Brazil, Columbia, Indonesia, Phillipines, Thailand for a few weeks or months to try some long-time GFE? Not interested in a full-time relationship then how about a few quarter-time relationships with ladies that truly appreciate your business?

Pre-covid, I used to visit Montreal regularly although it’s easier for me to fly to European or Asian cities. That quebecois GFE was really something special but now, all we read on the boards are indys escalating their prices, agencies pushing for incalls only despite higher prices and the dreaded frequent cancellations. Are the ladies doing these last minute cancellations because they are flaky or perhaps a client offering more hours suddenly called?

You have gotten a lot of good advice here but end of the day, even the best-intentioned advice is based on one’s experiences & preferences. Post your question in the international monger forums and you’ll get well ….. totally different advice and outbursts on spoiled western SWs, futility of marriage, how they’re fucking the young hottie that is growing their bok choi and who cares about regulars or cancellations when you are drowning in pussy.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

Also, paying professionals for companionship has to be viewed as a supplement and not a replacement for friendship, or love. It is a transaction.
Also, Shantie, you are an amazing woman and what you say is very comforting.

I appreciate thanks you ♡

 

[MCTJ]

This hobby, over time, has a mind numbing effect. The key to regain interest is to lower the frequency. I would suggest not more than once a month and to explore real hobbies in the meantime...

 

[bodick7]

This hobby, over time, has a mind numbing effect. The key to regain interest is to lower the frequency. I would suggest not more than once a month and to explore real hobbies in the meantime...

I used to hobby once a week (and was satisfied) and now I'm on a hiatus since almost 2 months.
I'm looking for a nearby new gem who can take care of me but I don't chase for occasions as I use to do anymore.
So far, that's all right. I guess I will be more than ready for next session hoping it will be a good and fun one (a new ATF?...).

 

[Gazoo64]

This hobby, over time, has a mind numbing effect. The key to regain interest is to lower the frequency. I would suggest not more than once a month and to explore real hobbies in the meantime...

I agree. I’ve been hobbying 1-2 times per week since the beginning of this year (it’s more frequent than in past years).
Although I’ve been enjoying it, you’re right that it seems to have a numbing effect when it’s too much. I should lower the frequency.

 

[Gazoo64]

The title is appropriate for me these days, I’ve really started to experience a loss of interest lately. Between some sub-par encounters and a couple of cancellations lately, it is becoming quite discouraging. Tough when you plan some time for this and get ghosted/cancelled!

But the funny thing is that I don’t get as upset with cancellations anymore. I actually did some other activities when my appointments were cancelled, so I saved some $ and I kept busy with something else (gym, drinks with friends, etc).

This hobby can be great, but I try to not let it discourage me when things don’t go right. It’s good to have other activities in our lives, circle of friends, travel, other hobbies, etc.

So although I’ve lost interest somewhat, I’ll continue to hobby less frequently. Maybe quality over quantity is better! Save some $ as well. And by keeping busy with other things, I don’t depend on this hobby as much.

 

[Don Julio]

Tough when you plan some time for this and get ghosted/cancelled!

But the funny thing is that I don’t get as upset with cancellations anymore.

I book a day or two in advance and have limited time, travel about half hour to the location to be told she is not available. It is a pain to find a replacement as I have a preference and have had some replacements not what I was looking for.
For getting tired of this, yes the person I saw for the past while ( I was only in Montreal every few months though ) finished school and retired. Trying to find someone as a replacement, nice to find someone who changes things up on her own every so often.

 

[The fool]

I think this hobby should be more for the 45-55 year range that has experienced life (marriage, kids, house, etc, that know that the clock is ticking and they need to get their fix for a bit, that have the maturity and know that this is a fantasy, not reality), this shouldn’t be a real way of life for younger gents, you will be damage goods, just my 2 cents

 

[DouMan]

I think this hobby should be more for the 45-55 year range that has experienced life (marriage, kids, house, etc, that know that the clock is ticking and they need to get their fix for a bit, that have the maturity and know that this is a fantasy, not reality), this shouldn’t be a real way of life for younger gents, you will be damage goods, just my 2 cents

You make valid points without any doubt. I would just add a slight correction in your text changing "45-55 year range" for "45+ year range". (preaching for my parrish I admit)

 

[2fast2slow]

i've had many dips in motivation to see SWs over the years...the good news is, it never lasts I am going through one now. But I have faith the fire will return without me having too coax it. i will just let it happen naturally

 

[Rookie0022]

Last year was my first year hobbying and I'd say I was pretty active. I would see an sp every 2-3 weeks. I told myself I'd cut my hobbying time in half this year for various reasons. I've actually been much less active. I've only had 2 dates this year but the need for companionship is creeping back...Maybe we all need to get away for a bit in order to start enjoying it again.

 

[Jamesrenard44]

I feel the same, after twelve years of hobbying, these days are particular...
Girls looks the same with heavy tattoos
They all have OF so really soon, you have the opportunity to see her naked and or having sex, it takes a lot of the excitement away
We now have the Toronto rates for indies; its find but it's a limit that I am not willing to cross.
The worst part, Montreal... it's so complicated to move around with your car, it's ridiculous

 

[envelopes]

i've had many dips in motivation to see SWs over the years...the good news is, it never lasts I am going through one now. But I have faith the fire will return without me having too coax it. i will just let it happen naturally

I am going through one right now mostly because summers are difficult. So difficult to plan because SPs suddenly cancel due to travel. Made 2 appointments earlier this week and I drove up 2 hours into Montreal and both took last minute trips and cancelled. Just hard to plan since SPs are so busy in the summers

 

[CLOUD 500]

I do not see escorts much so my comment is more directed for stripclubs. Especially since covid and in 2023 I lost considerable interest. Way more of my experiences has been sub-par mostly due to the girls. They are greedy and less interested to provide mileage. I like to go during the week but there is a total lack of beautiful fun strippers, they all pile up on Fridays and Saturdays and you know these two days are also packed with young college kids. The last bunch of girls I danced it was quiet sub-par. Poor to limited full contact grinding. I got to stick with my regulars to leave with a smile. I did meet some fun girls but I rarely see them around. Girls also are very nonchalatant, they do not seem interested to seek out clients and rather chill with ghetto thugs that have the big bottle pretending to be in a hip hop video as ballers.

 

[Gazoo64]

I am going through one right now mostly because summers are difficult. So difficult to plan because SPs suddenly cancel due to travel.

I’ve also hit a bad stretch now. Summertime is tough for the clients because there are many tourists and more guys hobbying. To top it off, some SPs are on vacation, so sometimes there are less SPs working.

I have trouble booking the popular ladies at agencies, and if I do manage to get a booking, it’s probably not at my preferred time. As well, with agencies booking back to back, I feel rushed during the session.
Indy rates have practically doubled, so I’d have to cut down considerably if I go that route.

Tough times, but hopefully things improve going forward.

 

[2fast2slow]

as I posted a few posts back, i am also going through a dip in my interest for the hobby (after 30 years ). I have been away for 3 weeks and was looking forward to re-connnecting with my curretn ATF this week, but she bailed last minute (which is basically the first time she does this in 9 months).

So yesterday afternoon I had an open schedule, money burning a hole in my pocket, several mps full of available girls within a 15min radius of me, and I was like, "meh, too much work".... I could not be bothered trying to find someone new. All the girls I know and like were not workimg. I find trying to find new girls that I will like more and more difficult.

I hope I bounce back soon, or else I will need a new hobby

 

[Thor Jr]

I hope I bounce back because soon, or else I will need a new hobby

I tend to turn to golf whenever i need to take a break and or if my day does not give me what i am looking for. I love playing golf, almost as much as women and sex. And sometimes just as expensive. Golf in Quebec like many things, is seasonal, so my hormones rage in the winter because release is always a few months away. And then again, i think about sex and women as i play golf. I spend just as much time looking for a place and time to play golf as i put into looking for a woman and time to meet with her.
Now, if I could meet a woman who shares my passion for golf, looks good in a short skirt, tight polo shirt and doesn't mind spending the rest of the day in bed together, sign me up for this paradise. And oh my god if she surprises me and the wind blows her skirt up and she's all commando down there, icing on the cake. This scenario does not have to be a fantasy.

Just saying...Now i am not sure if i should go golfing today or spend the afternoon at a MP. Okay both.

 

[Gazoo64]

I tend to turn to golf whenever i need to take a break and or if my day does not give me what i am looking for.

Same for me, been playing some golf lately and it takes my my mind off the dip in hobbying. Lol!

I didn’t think about golfing with a good looking woman in a short skirt, you’re thinking ahead of me!

I’ll sign up for that as well, would definitely be paradise!

 

[banane]

Je perds de l'intéret moi aussi en vieillissant.J'ai commencé voir des filles autour de 35 ans et j'étais top shape.Malheureusement apres 25 ans je suis un peu moins top.J'ai presque de la compassion parfois pour la fille qui se retrouve devant un'' vieux'' comme moi...Mais j'ai toujours des besoins et j'essaie de trouver une ou deux (ou 3) personnes que j'apprécie vraiment et qui semble elles aussi m'apprécier.Hé ,je deviens de plus en plus fidele avec le temps!

 

[donbusch]

Guys who r noticing a loss of interest in sex should go for a full blood work up, could be a thyroid, testosterone or even cholestrol problem. Could also be a mental problem so an antidepressant like Wellbutrin might help if Prozac or Lexapro makes junior go to sleep. Men are meant to fuck, not golf or garden.