Been hobbying for 2 years. Out of the 5 SP’s I have had sessions with, 4 have asked me if I was married or had a girlfriend. It got me wondering if this really matters to them or if it is easy small talk. To me, it matters!!! Sometimes I wonder how many board members are actually married and how many are not. If all hobbyists were single, it would become much more respectable, or even accepted.
Married or not?
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Some of us are single for the second time in our lives. Having put all of the energy into a relationship (and make no mistake, it is work), then betrayal and the BS of how the system treats men in split-ups, some are just a tad gunshy or emotionally not up to try it again for at least awhile. The ladies here are wonderful at letting a guy share some quality time with them or at least getting that necessary injection of femininity. When you do the math, a wife can cost you as much. The hazards? getting attached to them. Making love can be a bonding experience at times. One occasionally has to fight to keep the proper perspective. Now I am talking about the sweethearts here not the walking cash registers. The good part? It is one never ending honeymoon.
I'm married. What does that have to do with anything?
I don't get the point of the question.
I don't get the point of the question.
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I know GG, I know. Sometimes you think maybe you should never have met them and other times that you are richer for having met them. Of course, in one sense, I suppose, a good dose of selfish ice queen is a tonic now and then. lol.
Integrity? I got news for you, there is no integrity in this biz, none whatsoever. I voted in your poll but I did not vote to show my approval of your question. As the SP I met last night told me, guys who think you should never cheat on your wife have never been married. They talk about honesty as a virtue under any circumstance but honesty is often overrated, especially if you're going to hurt someone else.
You want honesty? I am honestly sick and tired of polls by single dudes meant to give us married guys lectures in morality.
GG
You want honesty? I am honestly sick and tired of polls by single dudes meant to give us married guys lectures in morality.
GG
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Dude, have you ever been married? My guess is that you haven't and that you probably don't know how difficult marriage can be sometimes and how many sacrifices it entails. There are a thousand different situations that could make visiting SPs understandable, if not exactly ethical.
Oh yes, speaking of integrity. The next time you enlist the services of a SP, take her home to introduce her to your mother and tell your mom, "This is the lady I'm going to be banging for the next hour and, oh yes, she won't do it unless I give her $180. Can you lend me the money?" And while you're at it, hire an SP for your next office party and introduce her to your boss, explaining, of course, the details of your very short and cash-based relationship.
Then have your mom and your boss post on Merb, explaining how your integrity is clearly greater than we married folk, because I don't get it.
Oh, by the way, my wife says I can screw whoever I want as long as it's not her friends. But I have a suspician that my wife likes girls too, so I gradually working my way to a threesome with my wife and an SP. How's THAT for integrity. So there, ha ha, think of me in twenty years time when your banging off in the washroom trying to remain faithful to your 250 lb wife.
Opps, Fat Buddha blew a gasket. Okay, I'll go sit in the corner and meditate.
Seriously, nothing personal beautydigger, I'm just venting, although I have noticed a lot of excessive moralizing on the board since New Year's. Sounds like we gotta work harder at breaking those new year's resolutions.
Oh yes, speaking of integrity. The next time you enlist the services of a SP, take her home to introduce her to your mother and tell your mom, "This is the lady I'm going to be banging for the next hour and, oh yes, she won't do it unless I give her $180. Can you lend me the money?" And while you're at it, hire an SP for your next office party and introduce her to your boss, explaining, of course, the details of your very short and cash-based relationship.
Then have your mom and your boss post on Merb, explaining how your integrity is clearly greater than we married folk, because I don't get it.
Oh, by the way, my wife says I can screw whoever I want as long as it's not her friends. But I have a suspician that my wife likes girls too, so I gradually working my way to a threesome with my wife and an SP. How's THAT for integrity. So there, ha ha, think of me in twenty years time when your banging off in the washroom trying to remain faithful to your 250 lb wife.
Opps, Fat Buddha blew a gasket. Okay, I'll go sit in the corner and meditate.
Seriously, nothing personal beautydigger, I'm just venting, although I have noticed a lot of excessive moralizing on the board since New Year's. Sounds like we gotta work harder at breaking those new year's resolutions.
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Being a hobbyist cost less than a divorce, don't you think? Besides that if your life with your wife is good except sex why change everything? A little hour or two with a nice young lady and your are OK... In those contries where they have more than one women they never talk about fidelity !!! All depends on how you look at the situation.
Do what is good for you without judging the others: that's a good way of living!
Luap
Do what is good for you without judging the others: that's a good way of living!
Luap
*yawn*... get off your high horse buddy. You think we are bad people and immoral ppl because we have gf/wives yet we go out to get SPs? Brother pleaseeee! You really must have no idea what it's like to be in a real relationship or in other ppls' case, married.
I love my gf dearly. She treats me awesome. I treat her awesome. I spoil her with love and gifts. We live with each other. All is happy, no problems at all.
I'm a guy. I have needs. I enjoy beautiful women, but I also love my GF. Do I want to break up with my gf? No. Do i want to bang hot chicks? Yes. Being monogamous is so overrated. I think that when I go out to SP, it BETTERS my relationship with my GF.
How you ask?
For one, I just got to bang a super hot blond and do stuff my gf would normally not do. I come home, i'm in a GREAT mood, and I see my loving gf there making dinner. I go over and give her a hug and a kiss, then spend time with her and have dinner and watch tv together.
I'm sure many of the guys on this board understand what I mean by that feeling... going out to bang a freaking hot SP. Release your load, pay your $160. Go home feeling like a million bucks, and then go to your wife and give her a big hug and a kiss just because you're in a great mood. And when you're in a good mood, ur wife's in a good mood, and when you and ur wife's in a good mood, you end up with a happy relationship.
Yes, what we do might be frowned upon and not "right", but hey, if you can keep the wifey happy and yourself happy, I say you're doing a damn good job in life and who really cares what is "right" or "wrong". And of course I ain't gonna go tell my gf/wife what I do because then she's not gonna be happy and then i'm gonna have problems and arguments, and then I ain't doing such a good job in life. What really matters in the end, is if your life and relationship are good and healthy.
My 2cent.
I love my gf dearly. She treats me awesome. I treat her awesome. I spoil her with love and gifts. We live with each other. All is happy, no problems at all.
I'm a guy. I have needs. I enjoy beautiful women, but I also love my GF. Do I want to break up with my gf? No. Do i want to bang hot chicks? Yes. Being monogamous is so overrated. I think that when I go out to SP, it BETTERS my relationship with my GF.
How you ask?
For one, I just got to bang a super hot blond and do stuff my gf would normally not do. I come home, i'm in a GREAT mood, and I see my loving gf there making dinner. I go over and give her a hug and a kiss, then spend time with her and have dinner and watch tv together.
I'm sure many of the guys on this board understand what I mean by that feeling... going out to bang a freaking hot SP. Release your load, pay your $160. Go home feeling like a million bucks, and then go to your wife and give her a big hug and a kiss just because you're in a great mood. And when you're in a good mood, ur wife's in a good mood, and when you and ur wife's in a good mood, you end up with a happy relationship.
Yes, what we do might be frowned upon and not "right", but hey, if you can keep the wifey happy and yourself happy, I say you're doing a damn good job in life and who really cares what is "right" or "wrong". And of course I ain't gonna go tell my gf/wife what I do because then she's not gonna be happy and then i'm gonna have problems and arguments, and then I ain't doing such a good job in life. What really matters in the end, is if your life and relationship are good and healthy.
My 2cent.
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I truly wonder what the reaction of all these 'involved' people would be if their wives/girlfriends confessed that either:
- they've been fucking other men for free to get the satisfaction their bf/husband cannot give them (but they love their significant other and don't want to seperate - easier to pay the bills)
or
- they're fucking other men for money
Just how sanctimonious would they all be then?
- they've been fucking other men for free to get the satisfaction their bf/husband cannot give them (but they love their significant other and don't want to seperate - easier to pay the bills)
or
- they're fucking other men for money
Just how sanctimonious would they all be then?
MontrealAsian said:
Real healthy relationship there... cheating on your other, refusing to admit to it or discuss it... Yup, you got yourself a winner there.
Flame away...
I admit that I'm very Conservative in my view points, but I think cheating on your wife or girlfriend is a low thing to do. I don't believe in cheating no matter what the reason is, but at the same time I don't feel sorry for these women as they should learn to make a better choice in men.
At the same time there are exceptions such as in FHB case where his wife knows and approves his participation. It's not something I would do personally as I have a very strict point of view when it comes to loyalty, but if the wife/girlfriend knows and has no problems with it than who am I to judge? What I do find degradable is partaking in the hobby without the approval of you significant other.
At the same time there are exceptions such as in FHB case where his wife knows and approves his participation. It's not something I would do personally as I have a very strict point of view when it comes to loyalty, but if the wife/girlfriend knows and has no problems with it than who am I to judge? What I do find degradable is partaking in the hobby without the approval of you significant other.
MontrealAsian said:
MontrealAsian,
Great post. How good can you be to your gf/wife if you're sexually or emotionally frustrated? Sometimes, you need to meet an SP to keep your sexual and/or emotional equilibrium. Different SPs have done one or the other or both for me. They help me keep my sanity and deal with some problems.
If I am happy, chances are my wife is happy. I am not saying that happiness comes from seeing SPs. I know it doesn't. But it helps relax me and it soothes me.
My wife is always my number one lady. I never forget this for a second. It may seem hypocritical to write this here, but that is how I feel. I would do anything for my wife and her happiness is the most important thing to me, even if it means leaving her one day.
I do not know where our relationship will end up. All I know is I'll continue hobbying as long as I need to see SPs. If I do not need to see SPs, I'll stop and never look back.
GG
hornyanglo66 said:I truly wonder what the reaction of all these 'involved' people would be if their wives/girlfriends confessed that either:
- they've been fucking other men for free to get the satisfaction their bf/husband cannot give them (but they love their significant other and don't want to seperate - easier to pay the bills)
or
- they're fucking other men for money
Just how sanctimonious would they all be then?
Nice turnabout and it's the fair way to look at it. It reminds me of a saying I heard "treat others as you yourself want to be treated". If you would not want your girlfriend/wife screwing other men, then that should be clear indication of wrong doing on your part.
MontrealAsian and General Gonad for presidents!!! (can we have 2 president?)
You guys reflect exactly what I have in mind... For me it's impossible to be happy if I have sex with one single girl (my gf)... impossible! But I'm very happy in my relation so when I have a chance I go get something new... or different. I guess thoses peoples saying that's bad to cheat gf etc never had a long term relationship and know what's this bring on the sex side... I still have awesome sex session with my gf but I just cant fuck the same girl all the time... Anyway we are in 2007! hello???
Dee: when you are smart and do the thing the same way you don't get caught...
You guys reflect exactly what I have in mind... For me it's impossible to be happy if I have sex with one single girl (my gf)... impossible! But I'm very happy in my relation so when I have a chance I go get something new... or different. I guess thoses peoples saying that's bad to cheat gf etc never had a long term relationship and know what's this bring on the sex side... I still have awesome sex session with my gf but I just cant fuck the same girl all the time... Anyway we are in 2007! hello???
Dee: when you are smart and do the thing the same way you don't get caught...
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lol.
Many of you thinking that people who have wives/gf and cheat on them are bad, or treat them badly, or that the wife/gf should find someone else better that won't cheat on them etc...
Please. Grow up. We're not 10 years old and we don't live in pleasantville. Not everything in life is perfect, and nothing in life is easy. Like i said before, i love my gf and treat her like a queen. I spend time with her, do whatever she wants, whenever she wants, go to her familiy gatherings, buy her stuff, spoil her, surprise her with stuff for no reason such as flowers, random bubble baths etc. Just because I go out to SP that makes me a bad person?
We live in the REAL world. You do know there are LOTS of relationships where the guys might not cheat on their gf, but treat their gfs like garbage or beat them or whatever may be the case. If you guys have so much time to bash those that treat their gf good but enjoy a little alone time with other girls, then you guys are seriously out of whack.
Yes, I admit. It would be the best situation to have a loving caring bf that is faithful to her 100% and doesn't ever cheat on her or anything like that... but I strongly believe that might not be a very high % of relationship... fuck, if we lived in a perfect world, I would want to have a super hot blond 5'10 model like gf that is rich and is crazy in bed and loves to suck me off whenever she's bored... but like I say, we're living in the real world where nothing is perfect.
Only thing you can do, is try to make things the best they can be. If I was in a relationship with a girl that was supporting me and treats me good and spoils me but cheated on me BUT I didn't know. I wouldn't mind at all. What I don't know won't hurt me. Cause in my dreamland, all I know is that this girl is amazing to me and treats me good and i'm happy as hell. I have nothing to complain about. I would imagine it's the same way for her. What she doesn't know, won't hurt her. As long as she's happy in the relationship, I am taking good care of her, and we both go to bed every night smiling. I don't see what I do in my personal time without her knowing, should affect my relationship.
Many of you thinking that people who have wives/gf and cheat on them are bad, or treat them badly, or that the wife/gf should find someone else better that won't cheat on them etc...
Please. Grow up. We're not 10 years old and we don't live in pleasantville. Not everything in life is perfect, and nothing in life is easy. Like i said before, i love my gf and treat her like a queen. I spend time with her, do whatever she wants, whenever she wants, go to her familiy gatherings, buy her stuff, spoil her, surprise her with stuff for no reason such as flowers, random bubble baths etc. Just because I go out to SP that makes me a bad person?
We live in the REAL world. You do know there are LOTS of relationships where the guys might not cheat on their gf, but treat their gfs like garbage or beat them or whatever may be the case. If you guys have so much time to bash those that treat their gf good but enjoy a little alone time with other girls, then you guys are seriously out of whack.
Yes, I admit. It would be the best situation to have a loving caring bf that is faithful to her 100% and doesn't ever cheat on her or anything like that... but I strongly believe that might not be a very high % of relationship... fuck, if we lived in a perfect world, I would want to have a super hot blond 5'10 model like gf that is rich and is crazy in bed and loves to suck me off whenever she's bored... but like I say, we're living in the real world where nothing is perfect.
Only thing you can do, is try to make things the best they can be. If I was in a relationship with a girl that was supporting me and treats me good and spoils me but cheated on me BUT I didn't know. I wouldn't mind at all. What I don't know won't hurt me. Cause in my dreamland, all I know is that this girl is amazing to me and treats me good and i'm happy as hell. I have nothing to complain about. I would imagine it's the same way for her. What she doesn't know, won't hurt her. As long as she's happy in the relationship, I am taking good care of her, and we both go to bed every night smiling. I don't see what I do in my personal time without her knowing, should affect my relationship.
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