Maybe its time to pull the plug

[vanhamm]

Please bare with me on this, last week i got into a sort of fight with my regular SP, we been seeing each other for around 5 years now, i recently turned 52 and decided to take care of myself, over the last few years i gained some weight and look like a mess, plus people are just plain mean theses days, telling me what happen you used to have a superhero body now you aged and look awful.

My SP told me I was hot massive when its all lies I just told her can you not act once in your life, we known each other for a long time first met her in 2013. She got mad anyways we have not texted since been a week now. The thing is that I feel great I use to see her quit often and now I see how much money I save I kind of feel stupid. I am your normal salary employee and certainly don't have 300$ or more to put on an SP for 1h sex.

I been doing the SP thing since 2013, and I spent a lot of money, at 52 now i feel my libidio going down a bit and its a sense of relief. I have been single for 11 years and tried to meet a good women for 4 years wasting time online dating, bunch of single obese moms with huge standards that think because they are women they are a prize to be won, introduction, blind dates and lead to nothing etc. Over the years i have met a few women nothing to talk about, recently a dental hygienist who asked me out but told me at her age she can't wait to be a grandmother, and this weekend my neighbor tried to match me with is girlfriend friend, overweight and in a g string by the pool, sorry but no.

I guess calling it quits for now is my best option, seeing how nothing works with women or SP, i just invested in a RRSP switch everything around, save money and try to retire before 60.

Right now I moved back with my mother taking care of her, caregiver, at my age I don't see myself going out either my time is passed i had lots of fun younger at least i don't regret that time.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I empathize with you, and I appreciate that you understood where things were headed and knew when to step back. Regrettably, some individuals fail to grasp this and allow their emotions to override their financial sensibilities.

I agree with your perspective on dating; it appears that the dating scene has become a joke. People engage in a game of prizes and pedestals , and the moment you display even a hint of interest, the other party loses interest. It's all about who holds the spotlight and who is in the audience. It's preferable to remain single than to partake in this superficial game of prizes and pedestals. The traditional concept of dating seems obsolete unless one is willing to invest time in playing games and wasting energy.

It's commendable that you are now prioritizing what truly matters, as you are with your mother. As for me, I suppose I will remain in the sex industry scene for a while longer, but I do not foresee myself clinging to it indefinitely. I admire your bravery in addressing such a sensitive topic.

 

[vanhamm]

I empathize with you, and I appreciate that you understood where things were headed and knew when to step back. Regrettably, some individuals fail to grasp this and allow their emotions to override their financial sensibilities.

I agree with your perspective on dating; it appears that the dating scene has become a joke. People engage in a game of prizes and pedestals , and the moment you display even a hint of interest, the other party loses interest. It's all about who holds the spotlight and who is in the audience. It's preferable to remain single than to partake in this superficial game of prizes and pedestals. The traditional concept of dating seems obsolete unless one is willing to invest time in playing games and wasting energy.

It's commendable that you are now prioritizing what truly matters, as you are with your mother. As for me, I suppose I will remain in the sex industry scene for a while longer, but I do not foresee myself clinging to it indefinitely. I admire your bravery in addressing such a sensitive topic.

I have a hard time dealing with stupidity, sadly one of my so call friend is dating a married women, its a long story but she was a friend of is mother and they did a supper at is place, while she was there with her husband next to her she was coming on to my friend, she is a beautiful women but married and she said her husband is trash and she wants to leave him etc etc etc, i try to tell my friend to walk up, but he is too stupid.

My mother friends all have kids the last one 50 year old 2 kids got separated not long ago lost everything, one of her friend daughter 33 just had a baby last year, separated.

For me yeah all i met in the last few years was scary from obese single moms with 2 kids full time some were smokers, inactive, almost all the dates i went on in found myself asking what am i doing here, and in the end i got rejected by some very below average women. I went there with good intention, they did not.

Even met a women i use to go to high school with she had 3 kids, told me she was tired never lived never did anything a part raising her kids, i ask her out said listen we can go places this is what i want, she was happy yes of course, then she never gave me the time of day.

I am 6 feet and try to keep fit, well now i need to lose weight but back then i was in shape, and still could not believe the delusion. Its insane no matter what they look like.

Before i found walmart grocery delivery i use to go to metro for my grocery and a lot of times a landwhale bump into my cart, we were meant to meet each other, i will give you an A for effort but sorry leave me the fk alone. In some rare times i did get approach by a few beautiful young women, along with there 2 kids.

This goes against all we were thought as kids social programing and all, but i been so miserable in relationship and in the last 9 years i wasted with my ex girlfriend who was head in the cloud she was not normal cold as ice, the worst sex i ever had and more.

Hell even the young men at my job don't go after women anymore they know too well how its going to turn out.

 

[Allnitelong]

Please bare with me on this, last week i got into a sort of fight with my regular SP, we been seeing each other for around 5 years now, i recently turned 52 and decided to take care of myself, over the last few years i gained some weight and look like a mess, plus people are just plain mean theses days, telling me what happen you used to have a superhero body now you aged and look awful.

My SP told me I was hot massive when its all lies I just told her can you not act once in your life, we known each other for a long time first met her in 2013. She got mad anyways we have not texted since been a week now. The thing is that I feel great I use to see her quit often and now I see how much money I save I kind of feel stupid. I am your normal salary employee and certainly don't have 300$ or more to put on an SP for 1h sex.

I been doing the SP thing since 2013, and I spent a lot of money, at 52 now i feel my libidio going down a bit and its a sense of relief. I have been single for 11 years and tried to meet a good women for 4 years wasting time online dating, bunch of single obese moms with huge standards that think because they are women they are a prize to be won, introduction, blind dates and lead to nothing etc. Over the years i have met a few women nothing to talk about, recently a dental hygienist who asked me out but told me at her age she can't wait to be a grandmother, and this weekend my neighbor tried to match me with is girlfriend friend, overweight and in a g string by the pool, sorry but no.

I guess calling it quits for now is my best option, seeing how nothing works with women or SP, i just invested in a RRSP switch everything around, save money and try to retire before 60.

Right now I moved back with my mother taking care of her, caregiver, at my age I don't see myself going out either my time is passed i had lots of fun younger at least i don't regret that time.

Do it! Not easy but break away from your SP and free your mind and wallet.

 

[vanhamm]

Do it! Not easy but break away from your SP and free your mind and wallet.

Guess she needed to money bad she texted me this morning, but I told her my plans, said see you in 3 months, its kind of sad when you think about all they are ready to do to get your money all the lies fiction drama and more, she even told me that she tells lies to her other regular telling them they are well equipped when they have dog penis. So i am not surprise she did the same thing to me, even if she said you are the only one i am honest with hahaha well I am not blinded by love like my idiot friend and is married women.

I was nice to her when I told her bye but I could have been a real dick.

 

[Sylar]

Sorry to hear about your experience with this SP as well as dating.
I haven't dated in a long time but I don't think it's all that bleak. Maybe try meeting women the traditional way: pursuing your hobbies (not the SP hobby!) and find a woman that has the same interest or simply go to a social setting to meet new people. Not necessarily with the intention for a long term relationship but just to meet them and take things from there? It will hopefully come naturally. You are 6'0 and at a good age!

 

[vanhamm]

Sorry to hear about your experience with this SP as well as dating.
I haven't dated in a long time but I don't think it's all that bleak. Maybe try meeting women the traditional way: pursuing your hobbies (not the SP hobby!) and find a woman that has the same interest or simply go to a social setting to meet new people. Not necessarily with the intention for a long term relationship but just to meet them and take things from there? It will hopefully come naturally. You are 6'0 and at a good age!

yeah but even the ones i been introduce to in the past few years, it did not work, i don't know where to go at my age either clubs are over and have been for a very long time, i just don't feel in going to singles events, I went to one in a sugar shack in 2015 it was insane, when i say because they are women they are entitled. I guess i just gave up a long time ago, being single as so much freedom, you can do anything you want and not have to hear whining and such

 

[Allnitelong]

Guess she needed to money bad she texted me this morning, but I told her my plans, said see you in 3 months, its kind of sad when you think about all they are ready to do to get your money all the lies fiction drama and more, she even told me that she tells lies to her other regular telling them they are well equipped when they have dog penis. So i am not surprise she did the same thing to me, even if she said you are the only one i am honest with hahaha well I am not blinded by love like my idiot friend and is married women.

I was nice to her when I told her bye but I could have been a real dick.

I’m going through the same thing. Lies Lies & more Lies! I understand it’s all about the money and also partly to protect themselves but we are still human. Hate liars!

 

[Allnitelong]

Guess she needed to money bad she texted me this morning, but I told her my plans, said see you in 3 months, its kind of sad when you think about all they are ready to do to get your money all the lies fiction drama and more, she even told me that she tells lies to her other regular telling them they are well equipped when they have dog penis. So i am not surprise she did the same thing to me, even if she said you are the only one i am honest with hahaha well I am not blinded by love like my idiot friend and is married women.

I was nice to her when I told her bye but I could have been a real dick.

Yes and they reach out via text to lure you back in for the next appointment because it’s ALL about the $$$. Why even go back to her in 3 months? I think by then you will either have moved on completely or found somebody new maybe?

 

[Sylar]

yeah but even the ones i been introduce to in the past few years, it did not work, i don't know where to go at my age either clubs are over and have been for a very long time, i just don't feel in going to singles events, I went to one in a sugar shack in 2015 it was insane, when i say because they are women they are entitled. I guess i just gave up a long time ago, being single as so much freedom, you can do anything you want and not have to hear whining and such

No definitely not clubs or events for singles. I meant like a bar, or coffee place or just walking through the city starting a conversation with people. And if you have hobbies (let’s say photography or cooking) you could take classes and meet like minded people this way.

 

[vanhamm]

Yes and they reach out via text to lure you back in for the next appointment because it’s ALL about the $$$. Why even go back to her in 3 months? I think by then you will either have moved on completely or found somebody new maybe?

Don't take it personal its the job, its a fantasy world, but for me I known her for more than 15 years now back in 2013 first time, saw her again like in 2018 or 2019 when she went independante, she is pushing 40 her looks are starting to fade and she realize that its time to make the most of her money after all she been doing this none stop all this time. Its all she knows, she can't speak english i made a song about her on suno AI its a really dirty hip hop song made her listen to it and she was smiling hey what a great beat. This is how stupid she is. After i finish my session with her its always the same thing how many times did you masturbate you don't have a big load and she talks about her loser friend who as pets and don't take care of them or the drama at her job.

But like i said this is what they do, and some are masters at manipulations, they make you hear what you want to hear so you comeback, they give you better service if you are a regular and see her a few times per week etc. I told her 3 months but its a way or getting rid of her, she won't text me back. Either its her or another SP its going to be the same thing.

I am just growing tired of this whole stupidity called love and all that goes with it and how lots of people today look like garbage and pretend they are a prize to be won.

Last week a women at my job who is 63 invest in her looks was talking to another women who gain so much weight in the last year, she said you know i look at people in the departement and we are both the best looking, for me at 63 i don't look my age at all, i just started laughing like did you ever look at yourself in the mirror.

63y old tries so hard yet no man want her she lives in a dream world, this is how stupid society is today.

 

[vanhamm]

No definitely not clubs or events for singles. I meant like a bar, or coffee place or just walking through the city starting a conversation with people. And if you have hobbies (let’s say photography or cooking) you could take classes and meet like minded people this way.

Yeah i get you but no, i am just too tired of all this stupidity i cook for myself since i train and you know how it is protein this protein that, i go for walks but its to keep fit, best exercise there is for cardio. I just gave up on looking for a women, I have my retirement plans, and I don't want to give them up for someone like I did with my ex when got offered a great job in Quebec city but stayed because of her not wanting to leave, then 1y later she cheated and dumped me.

I gave since 18 i gave so much to all the women i been with never cheated, had bad sex, got cheated on, got taken for an idiot that now at 52 and single for 11 years i have too much freedom to get back into dating and meeting women, and what next.. only negative in there or seeing my friend with is married women on is cloud anyways.

 

[Sylar]

Yeah i get you but no, i am just too tired of all this stupidity i cook for myself since i train and you know how it is protein this protein that, i go for walks but its to keep fit, best exercise there is for cardio. I just gave up on looking for a women, I have my retirement plans, and I don't want to give them up for someone like I did with my ex when got offered a great job in Quebec city but stayed because of her not wanting to leave, then 1y later she cheated and dumped me.

I gave since 18 i gave so much to all the women i been with never cheated, had bad sex, got cheated on, got taken for an idiot that now at 52 and single for 11 years i have too much freedom to get back into dating and meeting women, and what next.. only negative in there or seeing my friend with is married women on is cloud anyways.

I get you, but my point was to enjoy life and not force a relationship. All your other goals can still be accomplished this way. You can find someone to enjoy the time with who shares the same interest as you. I understand that you’ve become jaded but I don’t think giving up and isolating at the age of 52 is the solution.

 

[bodick7]

Well...I'm in the complete opposite track... Never been in such good physical condition.
At 59, I thought I woke up to late to try new stuff but it's not the case...
I'm probably catching up what I missed in my younger years.

 

[MCTJ]

Easier said than done for many of us, but the bottom line is simple: it's always a good time to pull the plug on seeing escorts.

 

[vanhamm]

Well...I'm in the complete opposite track... Never been in such good physical condition.
At 59, I thought I woke up to late to try new stuff but it's not the case...
I'm probably catching up what I missed in my younger years.

there is no age to get fit a guy at my job dropped 40 pounds he looks really good at 59. But like i said there is enough you can take when you get burned. I am not saying my life is over but look back at 11 years of freedom makes it hard for me to want to get back in dating seeing how much relationships are trash today and all the delusion going around.

As for me this year got a complete blood test check up and recently got a colonoscopy everything came back clean this is what encourage me on getting back in shape along the nasty comment of people you used to look like the rock john cena, you used to have a super hero body now look at you. All those things can be used as motivation.

A lot of positive happen when you clean up your diet, cut out junk sugar, stop ordering food and prepare your own meals eat healthier.

 

[bodick7]

there is no age to get fit a guy at my job dropped 40 pounds he looks really good at 59. But like i said there is enough you can take when you get burned. I am not saying my life is over but look back at 11 years of freedom makes it hard for me to want to get back in dating seeing how much relationships are trash today and all the delusion going around

Maybe things can change. Sometimes you can have surprises when you don't expect anything.
I was lucky enough to keep my GF and finally found a 52yo firecracker SP nearby my place who is fabulously fulfilling my fantasies...
Yes, I know this was not my dream of an ideal life but at least I found some harmony.

 

[Allnitelong]

Maybe things can change. Sometimes you can have surprises when you don't expect anything.
I was lucky enough to keep my GF and finally found a 52yo firecracker SP nearby my place who is fabulously fulfilling my fantasies...
Yes, I know this was not my dream of an ideal life but at least I found some harmony.

52 & mature is good. I need me one too

 

[vanhamm]

Maybe things can change. Sometimes you can have surprises when you don't expect anything.
I was lucky enough to keep my GF and finally found a 52yo firecracker SP nearby my place who is fabulously fulfilling my fantasies...
Yes, I know this was not my dream of an ideal life but at least I found some harmony.

At 52 i did a lot of cleaning in my life, negative people some so called friends that are trash etc. Now the remaining time i have to live i want to be happy. If you are happy this way then its all good for you. The goal in life is to be happy. Which for a lot of years i was not before enjoying the single life again.

 

[Wearethenight]

I had a client in your age bracket that was going through the same thing, he is also a man big into fitness and did not want to date someone that has children. I recommended to him if he wanted to date a specific demographic he should try out fitness groups in Montreal or trying a dating app specific to what he was looking for. He found one called "fitness singles" if I remember correctly. He met several women that fit his health criteria and did not have children, although slightly younger. I do not see him on a client to sp basis anymore but we talk and he found the "one," 41, super fit, kind and without children. If you want to find women who are in shape I would focus on meet up groups for people into fitness. I would avoid bars and the nightlife because most fitness and fit minded people I know anyway focus on meeting their partners in healthier settings. Also, people who devote a considerable amount of time to fitness usually do not have children or manage well with them as childcare can take up space from priorities such as exercise. I would focus on fitness minded dating apps as mentioned or meet up groups catering to that.