Pictures can be different from actually meeting face to face but I always SPS even more attractive in person!
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Personal information could be identifying tattoos, piercings, beauty marks or your nationality. Am I supposed to rip off my tattoo just before the client comes in to make sure he’s not going to mention it in a review?
If you are the only one paying all the bills, house and vacations then it’s way better to have a single life and enjoy the company of SPS!
that's useless information unless you can correlate it with another set of information such as public pictures on instagram or facebook. If you have a public profile or your friends have public profiles where they tag you then one can correlate information. That's what I am refering to when I say people are careless. Even discussing vacation plans is careless. You never know who knows who and that's not being paranoid, anyone with some knowledge can track an unsuspecting person.
If someone mentions in my review that I have a tattoo on my arm that says “I’m a princess I don’t work”
and someone sees a black woman that could look like me on social media, notices that she has a tattoo that says “I’m a princess I don’t work” they’ll know it’s me. They might add me on that social media or message me using my real name.
Not unheard of, it happened to a girl that used to work in an agency and she quit right after :/
Decent percentage is about 95 percent. And im being nice lol . But spot on.
Well here is my 2 cents (didn't read the entire thread, just page 1 and 3)
Beauty is indeed subjective. This may sound insane to some but i read recently some peoples saying Sydney Sweeney would be "mid" without her breasts. Sure not gonna lie, i love those bazoombas
but even if she was a B-cup she would still be a very attractive woman. There is BBW escorts that are succesful while a lot of clients wouldn't book them because they not into that. At some point i think subjectivity plays a big part.
There is also how you may be influenced by a person. If she gives you a superb experience, of course you may feel more attraction to her. Lets be honest. Lets say she was exeptionally nice and great in bed, how would you feel saying "well physically she was slightly above average, but her service was great". Of course you can't say that. Not only cause you risk alienating the person in wanting to see you again, but also it just comes out rude imo. For the peoples who been married here, have you ever told your wife "yeah the neighbor is way hotter than you, but don't worry, i prefer your personality". ... lol
I think looks also changed a lot since my early days. Of course there is still the "stripper club look with big fake tits" but good luck finding it without tatoos. There also seem to be less of them in agencies and instead more chasing the big bucks as indies. Maybe im wrong, i mean i don't book 40 times a year like some, im in the single digit, but its just what i notice by browsing the sites etc.
As for the privacy aspect and tatoos, well its a bit funny. I never hidden that i am not the biggest lover of tatoos. I did book plenty of tatooed providers and it will not be a "blockade" for me, but i would always think she would look even better without them (or if it was just a few well placed). But funny enough it happened a few times i was just browsing twitter or instagram and was like "wait a minute..." and recognized someone because of her tatoos.
I get they can be hairbrushed out of pictures, but if you actually meet the person and remember them, well... And altough some ladies may be extremely good at keeping their socials more private, all it may take is one friend that is not as "private" posting a pic of them and there you go. Its also very easy to make connections when you know some SPs are friends etc. In this heavily digital era, its getting harder and harder to keep privacy.
Beauty is indeed subjective. This may sound insane to some but i read recently some peoples saying Sydney Sweeney would be "mid" without her breasts. Sure not gonna lie, i love those bazoombas
but even if she was a B-cup she would still be a very attractive woman. There is BBW escorts that are succesful while a lot of clients wouldn't book them because they not into that. At some point i think subjectivity plays a big part.There is also how you may be influenced by a person. If she gives you a superb experience, of course you may feel more attraction to her. Lets be honest. Lets say she was exeptionally nice and great in bed, how would you feel saying "well physically she was slightly above average, but her service was great". Of course you can't say that. Not only cause you risk alienating the person in wanting to see you again, but also it just comes out rude imo. For the peoples who been married here, have you ever told your wife "yeah the neighbor is way hotter than you, but don't worry, i prefer your personality". ... lol
I think looks also changed a lot since my early days. Of course there is still the "stripper club look with big fake tits" but good luck finding it without tatoos. There also seem to be less of them in agencies and instead more chasing the big bucks as indies. Maybe im wrong, i mean i don't book 40 times a year like some, im in the single digit, but its just what i notice by browsing the sites etc.
As for the privacy aspect and tatoos, well its a bit funny. I never hidden that i am not the biggest lover of tatoos. I did book plenty of tatooed providers and it will not be a "blockade" for me, but i would always think she would look even better without them (or if it was just a few well placed). But funny enough it happened a few times i was just browsing twitter or instagram and was like "wait a minute..." and recognized someone because of her tatoos.
I get they can be hairbrushed out of pictures, but if you actually meet the person and remember them, well... And altough some ladies may be extremely good at keeping their socials more private, all it may take is one friend that is not as "private" posting a pic of them and there you go. Its also very easy to make connections when you know some SPs are friends etc. In this heavily digital era, its getting harder and harder to keep privacy.
Yes beauty is subjective but we can’t deny that more people are attracted to slim blondes with blue eyes. It doesn’t mean everyone is and it doesn’t mean a chubby brunette with brown eyes can’t be prettier…
Most of the responses on beauty made sense to a certain level
Most of the responses on beauty made sense to a certain level
For some maybe.
Never underestimate being in love, sharing a life with someone having a family, children, grandchildren, there is no price you can put on that nor can it ever be compared to a payed for transaction for companionship and sex.
Even the best chemistry and sex with an SP pales in comparison.
Nope,
I am much more attracted to a brunette with long dark hair, an hour glass figure, a great ass and a pretty face.
Well said fradi. It seems alot have a distorted view or distain when it comes to relationships marriage. Its sad to see. Your spot on on your acessment
Fair enough, I agree with this comment, to a certain extent. I’ll take back my comment that lurkers on Merb should be banned.
However, I will say that there is a difference between Google, which has millions and millions of users, and merb, which is obviously a much smaller community.
IMO, a site like Merb works best if most users contribute reviews. Having said that, I accept that some members are lurkers, and will never post reviews.
I willl just add: if a lurker ever sends me a DM asking questions or seeking Intel, you can be sure that I won’t answer. Just like lurkers have a right not to contribute, we have a right not to respond to them.
Unsurprisingly, the guys are arguing for what benefits them and the SPs are arguing for what benefits them. This is unlikely to change anytime soon, and it's part of the culture here. The odd thing is that boards like this are not shared boards typically, they are for men. There are SP here that argue that this board is for women too, but it's not. It's for men. The subject material is for the benefit of men and the target audience of that material is men. It is not for women. Having said that, there are benefits that accrue in having women participate on the board too. Yin/yang. The downside is that the objectivity and completeness of reviews go down, men are subjected to relentless self-promotion, and that due to the nature of the board and its financing structure the ladies here have rights that exceed and supercede those of the members for whom the board exists, which is something that doesn't exist on other boards typically. This is of course a problem. The benefit is that men are given insights into the SP world and the thinking of the ladies who work in it, as well as being given an introduction into the the personalities of the ladies involved, which is something that doesn't exist on other boards typically. That's a benefit. This makes it a subjective decision for the individual member as to whether the pluses outwiegh the minuses and everyone's personal calculus is different as to whether one heavily outweighs the other or whether there is enough balance.
As for beauty being subjective, it totally is, as long as you're talking about an individual, and that seems to lie at the root of the problem for the people arguing it here. An individual will find a certain colouring, body type or look as preferable to all others. However, that is not a standard of beauty, that's individual taste. Collectively culture and society as a whole have decided that there is a certain range of physical attributes that as a consensus of the group are more conventionally attractive than others. Society looks at a person and if you ask 1000 people they will tell you as a group where that person fits on the scale. That's objectively beautiful, and most members of society will likely agree. That commonality dictates whether someone is conventionally beautiful or not. The individual decides whether he or she agrees with the groupthink about that person and then acts according to their own tastes. They see subjective beauty. So, if you consult the larger group most people (but not everyone) are going to find Salma Hayek to be more beautiful than Rosie O'Donnell, for example. There will always be some who will find Rosie to be hotter, but Salma will be more conventionally beautiful to most people and current societal standards. Some people here are arguing about subjective individual beauty and some are arguing societal conventional beauty and treating them like they're the same thing, but they're not. So yes, all women are beautiful to somebody, but not everyone is beautiful or as beautiful to the majority. I personally think that only the subjective view is important, and I like who I like and to Hell with everybody else, but even I will admit that what I like isn't always in line with what everyone else does, and I can understand relative scales for each side, even if I don't always personally agree with them.
As for beauty being subjective, it totally is, as long as you're talking about an individual, and that seems to lie at the root of the problem for the people arguing it here. An individual will find a certain colouring, body type or look as preferable to all others. However, that is not a standard of beauty, that's individual taste. Collectively culture and society as a whole have decided that there is a certain range of physical attributes that as a consensus of the group are more conventionally attractive than others. Society looks at a person and if you ask 1000 people they will tell you as a group where that person fits on the scale. That's objectively beautiful, and most members of society will likely agree. That commonality dictates whether someone is conventionally beautiful or not. The individual decides whether he or she agrees with the groupthink about that person and then acts according to their own tastes. They see subjective beauty. So, if you consult the larger group most people (but not everyone) are going to find Salma Hayek to be more beautiful than Rosie O'Donnell, for example. There will always be some who will find Rosie to be hotter, but Salma will be more conventionally beautiful to most people and current societal standards. Some people here are arguing about subjective individual beauty and some are arguing societal conventional beauty and treating them like they're the same thing, but they're not. So yes, all women are beautiful to somebody, but not everyone is beautiful or as beautiful to the majority. I personally think that only the subjective view is important, and I like who I like and to Hell with everybody else, but even I will admit that what I like isn't always in line with what everyone else does, and I can understand relative scales for each side, even if I don't always personally agree with them.
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Did you read my post or were you just rushing to disagree with me?
I said more people find them attractive. The Barbie doll wouldn’t be a blonde tall slim woman if that wasn’t the case. A lot of people prefer brunettes, a lot of people prefer curves….just like some people might prefer bald women and think women with hair look absolutely ugly….
I don’t have a problem answering a lurker.
Everyone started off as one and if I can help someone why not it is free and costs nothing.
Reviews are such a small percentage of what I use when deciding to see an SP.
Why does it upset you so much when someone disagrees with you lol.
I never rush, have you ever heard the joke about the old bull and the young bull?
I read your post, so what? yes you mentioned that people have different tastes yet you keep having this hang up and envy over spinner blondes with blue eyes, ever notice that you keep bringing it up.
I see your point. I agree that reviews are just a small part of what I use for deciding about whether to see an SP.
I guess it just bugs me that some people make an effort to write reviews and contribute to the board. And others just read the reviews and don’t contribute.
Anyway, I’ll let it go, obviously all review boards have lurkers, it’s just the way it is.
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