Sex in the 80s vs today

[Montreal_Dude]

In the 80s...There was no internet.

Bars were huge. Easy to get laid. Strip clubs sucked.

Girls were healthier. Better sex appetite and less hatred for men.

Please add your 2 cents.

Thanks.

 

[vanhamm]

Issue today is that people are crazy, there is a 61y old hag at my job she dressed with leather skirt, FM boots, like she is 20, some made made comments she wants to get notice, and she complained to the boss.

People are dangerous, i am more of a 90 guy i was in my twenties then and yes we went to bars, around 1998 we had internet it was MIRC and Messenger had some chat rooms, it was easy to pick up, get laid and no issues.

But today even online dating we get fat single mom with purple hair and huge standards and they even reject you LOL, not sure what happen but i am off the market and been off for 10 years at 50 its not worth the trouble.

 

[sigui01]

 

[RobertNYC]

Culture and people have changed so much from the 80s and 90s, that it makes sense that all things sexual have changed as well. We are not as sexualized today as a society - or animated by sex - as we were back then. We’re just not.

Libido is so much less in younger men, and it really is the younger demographic that influences or shapes the sexual dimension of culture. In the 1990s I went out to bars and clubs in NYC, and there was interest and intrigue about hooking up. And if it were a casual one night stand, there was a chance paths might not cross again. Social media made that part obsolete. You can know everything about the person with a click.

What animates a lot of younger people today is staying in and smoking weed, binge watching Netflix, and maybe the next day running in packs out to a restaurant or bar. It really is a Puriteen generation (as Patron and others pointed out), and that affects society as a whole. Politics and media is increasingly geared toward them.

Check out Playboy from the 80s and 90s versus today. You can really get a good sense of the zeitgeist and dynamics between the sexes. It’s just so different - and perhaps plain boring today.

When you get to a point where contracts and strict consent must be provided among college kids to make out or touch each other, you know you’re heading down a slippery slope that has ramifications on larger society. Like I mentioned, culture is heavily influenced by Gen Z. We’re becoming robots and zapped of libido to a large degree.

 

[masmasak]

Culture and people have changed so much from the 80s and 90s, that it makes sense that all things sexual have changed as well. We are not as sexualized today as a society - or animated by sex - as we were back then. We’re just not.

Libido is so much less in younger men, and it really is the younger demographic that influences or shapes the sexual dimension of culture. In the 1990s I went out to bars and clubs in NYC, and there was interest and intrigue about hooking up. And if it were a casual one night stand, there was a chance paths might not cross again. Social media made that part obsolete. You can know everything about the person with a click.

What animates a lot of younger people today is staying in and smoking weed, binge watching Netflix, and maybe the next day running in packs out to a restaurant or bar. It really is a Puriteen generation (as Patron and others pointed out), and that affects society as a whole. Politics and media is increasingly geared toward them.

Check out Playboy from the 80s and 90s versus today. You can really get a good sense of the zeitgeist and dynamics between the sexes. It’s just so different - and perhaps plain boring today.

When you get to a point where contracts and strict consent must be provided among college kids to make out or touch each other, you know you’re heading down a slippery slope that has ramifications on larger society. Like I mentioned, culture is heavily influenced by Gen Z. We’re becoming robots and zapped of libido to a large degree.

``La Sociét du Spectacle`` of ``Guy Debord``

 

[minutemenX]

Maybe not directly related to the topic, but this guy's interview demonstrated also how the sex business has moved suddenly into completely other dimension with the internet appearance

 

[captainkirk]

Interesting interview

 

[idtapthat]

good topic!....good ole days back then
STDs & internet definitely changed the hobby....

 

[CLOUD 500]

Downtown gay protest in 1984 signaled end of the Golden Age of Sex

The Golden Age of Sex began around 1966 and ended in about 1983. Sex was a lot less fun and harder to get outside of those years. The f...

coolopolis.blogspot.com

Great article of what I believe to be true. Feminism and the growth of the far-left is what changed it all in regards to sex for the heterosexual man. And also AIDS played a big part in this change. Not all of it is bad, while in the civilian world it got worse for the heterosexual man, in the sex work business it got better. Before there was no such thing as GFE service, it was always just CBJ and FS and no DFK. Now these things like DFK, DATY, and BBBJ is widely available.

 

[Fradi]

Yes it was much easier to get laid, actually very easy, all for one reason, I was 40 years younger.

 

[Montreal_Dude]

Yes it was much easier to get laid, actually very easy, all for one reason, I was 40 years younger.

LoL. Most all of us...were in our 20s back then. I was just mentioning it to describe the method of getting laid. Back then vs today. Today, bar scene is not that good compared to back then...for the current 20 somethings. Especially the males.

 

[Fradi]

LoL. Most all of us...were in our 20s back then. I was just mentioning it to describe the method of getting laid. Back then vs today. Today, bar scene is not that good compared to back then...for the current 20 somethings. Especially the males.

Very few times did I pick up girls in bars, didn’t need to, plenty at work , was well known in my community through sports pretty much could pick and choose who I liked, just like now except now it requires $$$. Works just as well, I have no complaints.

 

[Montreal_Dude]

Very few times did I pick up girls in bars, didn’t need to, plenty at work , was well known in my community through sports pretty much could pick and choose who I liked, just like now except now it requires $$$. Works just as well, I have no complaints.

No complaints here either. Except when the escort is not really into it, for whatever reason. And most of the time rushes the session.

 

[Numerati]

Whole issue is the internet. This allows and opens up a floodgate of unlimited choices and with it the illusion of abundance where quantity trumps quality. Also the internet is filled with shitty miserable people. That is problem number one.

The second and most damaging issue is the intersection of pay to play and real genuine relationships. They should never be intertwined. With crap like Lonelyfans, Sugardaddy websites and other social media garbage escorting elements are bleeding into the genuine dating/relationship arena. Now throw in problem number one into the mix real dating/long lasting relationships are totally screwed.

This then pollutes the qualities of a satisfying sexual experience. That is just my take. Maybe I am simplifying I don't know. If you folks have more to add or disagree please add in.

 

[Artvandelay_importer]

Not sure if I can post this article, but I will delete my comment if I can't. A study found that the number of young men having no sex is increasing by the year. This clearly says something. https://www.washingtonpost.com/busi...icans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/

 

[jmioffe]

Interesting discussion. One force that has yet to be recognized is the spread of capitalism and more effective commodification.

Feminism's push for equality in the workplace got a boost from capital, eager to have twice the number of people competing for the same jobs.

The Internet also eliminated a lot of inefficiencies in the market and matching buyers and sellers better than ever before. That's part of the reason why P4P is better than it ever has been. Before, it was hard to find the slutty women who were willing to do what they did for money, and who did it well. Now you don't have to pray to find one, they've made it easy to find them. (In part because it means they can earn better.)

I'm not sure if we're less sexual than we were in the past. It often feels like things are more sexual, between the mainstreaming of porn stars like Sasha Grey and Chloe Cherry (and how could I forget, Helene Boudreau) and all the influencers on social media, gathering simp armies with the cheesecake shots, and branching out into OnlyFans.

The difference is there's less interpersonal interaction. Finding hot one-night stands in clubs can't be commodified in the same way Tinder or OnlyFans can commodify sex. So what we're left nowadays is a bunch of lonely people, who's main interactions are with their screens and the market.

 

[Fr. McKenzie]

In the year 1980......................You bought a Penthouse Magazine to see pubic hair.

 

[jmioffe]

In the year 1980......................You bought a Penthouse Magazine to see pubic hair.

Playboy had pubic hair. I shoplifted Penthouse to see girls with their legs open making O faces!

 

[Fr. McKenzie]

Thou shalt not steal, my son. Come to confession on Sunday.

 

[bermude]

I am 65 and i can tell you that in my very active youg adult life innthe second part of the 70’s and early 80´s, before I got merried in 1984, sex was very very open in montreal and toronto, girls where easy to get, if you wanted sex, you got sex, most of the time without condom. In fact, I never used condom before 1990 ! I was living in my mother house at the time, and sometimes I briing back home girls I just met, to have sex. It was accepted at the time.
Life was easy, fun and existing, but I remenber CIM and COF whwre not popular at all.

have a nice day