Showing up late to an appointment

[Valentina]

It happens!

If you schedule an appointment at, ex: 1:00pm
and encountered an unexpected issue that is setting you back - let us know ASAP!

Chances are that 5, 10 or MAX 15min won’t affect our next booking - but it will have us rushing due to your tardiness. We made ourselves available for you at a specific time, it wouldn’t be fair for that time to then overlap onto the next booking and then MAKE US LATE for our next clients.

- We have a schedule to maintain between clients; we have to wash, prep, do laundry, take a break, eat lunch, etc.

- We also might have personal appointments, funerals, doctor appointments, family gatherings, basket weaving class, disc golf tournament or other events to get to ON TIME after our shift ends!

- We may also have no bookings after you because we are EXHAUSTED (either mentally, physically OR both) after a long day of bookings and want to relax, unwind and dissociate.

In any case, this does not mean it’s okay to take that for granted and just arrive when you get here! (Some self-entitled people think that just because we don’t have “a real job”- as they say, think it’s okay to just show up whenever they please and use that as a justification )


PLEASE CONSIDER:

- Tipping your SP as a sign of respect for your tardiness and still having her accommodate you

- Taking her up on her proposition of doing a shorter appointment ex: doing a HH session (at her HH rate) instead of a full 1H session

- Propose to reschedule the same day at a different hour (if both, you and the SP can do so)

- Propose to reschedule and have the deposit applied for another session at a later date



NEVER:

Show up late to the appointment, walk in like you own the place and NOT apologize for being late without offering some sort of compensation for having caused an inconvenience.



NEVER EVER:

- Show up 30min late, get feisty / unpleasant with an SP because she cannot accommodate you any longer.

- Leave without compensating us for having wasted our time. It doesn’t have to be the whole rate, but at least give something for the inconvenience.


Please refrain from booking an SP if you do not have basic decency or cannot be punctual.

 

[AirBo]

Looks like Lena took a day off and found a babysitter for us

 

[Valentina]

Looks like Lena took a day off and found a babysitter for us

You can call me mommy

Haha, but no joke.

This just happened to me earlier - I felt compelled to state something because it should be known. I guess mommying comes with the territory lol…

 

[Fradi]

It happens!

If you schedule an appointment at, ex: 1:00pm
and encountered an unexpected issue that is setting you back - let us know ASAP!

Chances are that 5, 10 or MAX 15min won’t affect our next booking - but it will have us rushing due to your tardiness. We made ourselves available for you at a specific time, it wouldn’t be fair for that time to then overlap onto the next booking and then MAKE US LATE for our next clients.

- We have a schedule to maintain between clients; we have to wash, prep, do laundry, take a break, eat lunch, etc.

- We also might have personal appointments, funerals, doctor appointments, family gatherings, basket weaving class, disc golf tournament or other events to get to ON TIME after our shift ends!

- We may also have no bookings after you because we are EXHAUSTED (either mentally, physically OR both) after a long day of bookings and want to relax, unwind and dissociate.

In any case, this does not mean it’s okay to take that for granted and just arrive when you get here! (Some self-entitled people think that just because we don’t have “a real job”- as they say, think it’s okay to just show up whenever they please and use that as a justification )


PLEASE CONSIDER:

- Tipping your SP as a sign of respect for your tardiness and still having her accommodate you

- Taking her up on her proposition of doing a shorter appointment ex: doing a HH session (at her HH rate) instead of a full 1H session

- Propose to reschedule the same day at a different hour (if both, you and the SP can do so)

- Propose to reschedule and have the deposit applied for another session at a later date



NEVER:

Show up late to the appointment, walk in like you own the place and NOT apologize for being late without offering some sort of compensation for having caused an inconvenience.



NEVER EVER:

- Show up 30min late, get feisty / unpleasant with an SP because she cannot accommodate you any longer.

- Leave without compensating us for having wasted our time. It doesn’t have to be the whole rate, but at least give something for the inconvenience.


Please refrain from booking an SP if you do not have basic decency or cannot be punctual.

I totally agree with you and I have never ever been late. I usually wait in my car 30 minutes and text the lady 5-10 minutes before that I have arrived and no problem I will wait until she is ready.

Now what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I wish most SP would read your post and actually be ready or show up on time.
i am lucky because my ATF has not been late once in 6 years and the other lady I see sometimes has been mostly on time also.and that is one of the reasons I have been seeing them for years, but unfortunately there are many SP that seem to think our time is not important at all and they are never ready on time.

 

[Valentina]

I totally agree with you and I have never ever been late. I usually wait in my car 30 minutes and text the lady 5-10 minutes before that I have arrived and no problem I will wait until she is ready.

- I ask my new clients (the regulars know this though ) to text me as soon as they are parked so they can wait for the green light to enter / ring me. Usually if I have a booking at 4:00pm, my clients text me 5 min before to then arrive in the unit for 4:00pm sharp.

- Some may arrive 15 min in advance and depending on if I’m ready or not I tell them to come up in advance… which brings me to my next point:

THIS DOES NOT MEAN:
“Ohhhh!!! I’ll be there early so that equals to 15 minutes extra”. No. We weren’t born yesterday.

Unfortunately, lots of cheap guys (you can’t know prior to meeting for the first time) like to take advantage of that and overstay their invite! No.

Many also try to pay the donation with gifts we didn’t ask for. No. A gift is a gift. Not a bribe.
(Some guys are so cheap that they say they’ll bring you a gift - and it’s a used item they just wanted to discard……………….
I’ve had people text me saying they don’t have money but they’re willing to pay me in cocaine, gas vouchers, etc. This behaviour warrants an automatic block and an evil eye spell lmao)

ALSO, for the newcummers* here:

We really value our privacy and incall location to be as discreet as possible. PLEASE DO NOT park, say you’re here, head into the building (or hotel) and loiter in the entrance - or lobby. You look so suspicious just standing in the entrance waiting for a code or a text.

I’ve had clients not understand CLEAR & CONCISE instructions minute after minute, ask me what to do next, where to go… when it’s stated exactly what to do and where to go. I understand that this may be your first time and you may be nervous - but please READ the small instructions I supply.

Because some have been seen loitering in the entrance, some building workers/ administrators offer their help to dial my unit! You may think: “ohhhh, what a nice gesture!” … Until it arouses suspicion because they see different men in a day or week go to the same unit and start to ask questions. (The building admins help them dial my unit in the entrance - so if this happens time and time again they’re gonna ask themselves why the heck are different men coming in and out of her place?)
Unwanted attention / speculation !

I’ve had people try to ring my unit through the electronic mailbox…

I’ve had people ask me what unit I’m at when I clearly make them dial the unit………….

“Which floor? … I literally texted you the unit number. “Yeah but which door” ………………..

ex: UNIT 913 = 9th floor - door 13
ex: UNIT 1605 = 16th floor - door 5

Oh, and speaking about being discreet: if and whenever you send a deposit or full amount by etransfer don’t write NSFW verbiage in your message. “Deposit for sex” “Valentina, thank you for our session, you give amazing head”.

I wish most SP would read your post and actually be ready or show up on time.

I’m flabbergasted to read this! This isn’t a fast-food restaurant where clients or SPs just come and go as they please. I’m extremely anal (don’t offer that sorry boys) about being on time!

unfortunately there are many SP that seem to think our time is not important at all and they are never ready on time.

Again, very disappointed to read this! What applies to me in regards to being punctual also applies to my clients. I hate being late and possibly burden people because of my tardiness.

This is exactly why I made this thread! My schedule is as important as my clients’ and having someone show up late creates a snowball effect for the next bookings and for the clients’ plans/ personal life afterward. It also adds a lot of stress which can be felt in the next session with the next client and can ruin the mood.

I'm sorry you’ve had those experiences!

 

[ThunderLipps]

I was a half hour late for an appointment once, 30 min session and paid for the hour. Gotta stick with the rules.

 

[Hemme]

It s ok to be late. I understand you want a good spanking lol !

 

[Valentina]

I was a half hour late for an appointment once, 30 min session and paid for the hour. Gotta stick with the rules.

A true gent. ♥️

 

[AirBo]

Now what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I wish most SP would read your post and actually be ready or show up on time.

Or simply not cancel or postpone at the last minute.

This may come as a surprise to the girls, but this happens way more often than you think

I'm easy to deal with though. I understand this might happen.

I usually wait in my car 30 minutes and text the lady 5-10 minutes before that I have arrived

I'm the same I just hate being late. I even hate rushing to be just on time. It's like going to a job interview: Show up early so you have time to relax.

 

[kabukicho]

I was a half hour late for an appointment once, 30 min session and paid for the hour. Gotta stick with the rules.

i top that, had a two hr appt and was would you believe... 1.5 hr behind, out of my control.

showed up paid the whole thing.

 

[Fradi]

@Valentina

After reading your last post I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at the obvious stupidity and cheapness of some of the clients you have to deal with,
I don’t doubt the truth of your post as otherwise you wouldn’t be so obviously pissed off about these things.

Some of us did actually have parents who taught us how to behave with women and how to respect older members of our family and community.
Some also had loving and amazing life partners/wives and received nothing but kindness and love from them.

Unfortunately being a gentlemen and knowing how to be kind and respectful seems to be a dying breed in today’s world.
This however seems to be true with women also, I hear what you are saying but I am sure if some of the clients here opened up about all the no shows, ghosting and not even bothering to reply from SP you would see that this kind of behaviour is becoming the norm on both sides.

 

[arrowdec]

I've been late a few times and whenever I am I: 1) Notify the SP of the delay as soon as possible. 2) Assume that this means I get a shorter appointment within the original allotted time, for no change in price. 3) If appointment goes for the original length of time (i.e. ends later than originally scheduled) I tip extra.

Reading that some folks write NSFW in etransfer messages is equally hilarious and mind-boggling. I understand the notion of thinking with your dick, but really?

 

[Valentina]

@Fradi

Hahah it’s better to laugh about it since it’s so ridiculous! I just had to let it be known because it can serve as a guide to people who are new or call members out on their subpar behaviour.

I truly understand both sides and your POV.

Sucks to know people can’t people properly anymore lmao!

 

[Valentina]

Reading that some folks write NSFW in etransfer messages is equally hilarious and mind-boggling. I understand the notion of thinking with your dick, but really?

I swear… some days, my brain fries and shrivels up!

 

[EagerBeaver]

I do not remember ever being late for any appointment during the 16 or so years when I actively saw escorts. I do remember many times, if not a majority, when escorts were late to show at my appointment. Usually I was the kind of guy who took late arriving escorts in stride for several reasons: (1) I was on vacation and in a hotel, usually watching TV; (2) lateness had the effect of building anticipation and horniness; (3) I usually booked early evening appointments so I could go out later, and always left 1-2 hour cushion from end of booking to when I wanted to leave. So I usually gave lateness a pass. Especially since it was not usually more than an hour.

On one occasion, however, I did not, and I was livid, so livid that I wrote a review excoriating the agency and particularly the owner or operator whom I believe also was the booker. The name of the agency, which is no longer in existence, escapes me. It was in existence in around 2005-2010 I am guessing. Might have been Bodyliscious but can't recall for sure.

It was a Saturday night and they only seemed to have one girl on, but the one girl they had on that night (1) had great pics, and (2) had a couple of good reviews from reviewers I then knew and trusted.

My recollection is that early in the day, I booked a 90 minute appointment at around 8 pm. The girl did not show. The owner/operator/booker (forget his name, but he was known within the community at the time) called me around 8:30 to say she was running late. 9 pm arrives, the girl is now an hour late. I should have cancelled at that point, on me for not doing so, but this fucking guy calls me and starts stringing me along. He tells me that she had car trouble and he was going to pick her up, or some other bullshit. Another hour goes by, and he strung me along again, saying that he was in traffic. I was getting calls like this for another hour. Finally it is like 12 midnight, I call, and he tells me that the girl is not coming. I was furious, both with him for bullshitting me along and jerking my chain very expertly, and with myself for allowing the jerk along to happen. We exchanged words. I then wrote the worst review I ever wrote, which I am sure is probably on the board somewhere. I think he came in the thread at some point to attempt to defend himself. This was at the very end of that agency's run, when it was likely circling the toilet.

I never ended up seeing an escort that night. Simply put the money was left on the table, my dick stayed in its pants, and I waited until the next day to unleash.

Anyway, after that FIASCO of bullshit and delay, I developed a one hour lateness rule. Whereby I cancel if the escort does not show within one hour of booking. It probably should be a 2 way street- client also is cancelled if not there within an hour, or maybe 30 minutes.

 

[kabukicho]

Now what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I wish most SP would read your post and actually be ready or show up on time.
i am lucky because my ATF has not been late once in 6 years and the other lady I see sometimes has been mostly on time also.and that is one of the reasons I have been seeing them for years, but unfortunately there are many SP that seem to think our time is not important at all and they are never ready on time.

Yep, the message goes both ways. When we host, we may have perishible food and wine ready/money spent for you.

So in this case, not lateness, but full cancellations, erodes future considerations.

 

[Fradi]

I'm easy to deal with though. I understand this might happen.

I am very easy with most things but not with not being on time or not showing up.
Unless there is a good excuse and it is someone I have known for years 30 minutes is my limit, after which I will leave and that lady will never hear from me again,

 

[Rebaynia]

Unfortunately being a gentlemen and knowing how to be kind and respectful seems to be a dying breed in today’s world.

yes, they are a dying breed, but there are still some out there thankfully.

This however seems to be true with women also, I hear what you are saying but I am sure if some of the clients here opened up about all the no shows,

I won't plan visits I don't have any intention of seeing. I wouldn't want it done to me, I won't do it to them. But on the flip, the number of people who play games on escorts making false runs, or incall escorts, having no show clients too.

ghosting

Admittedly some conversations go only so far, sometimes I just don't know how to respond kindly, or politely, and rather than keep a bad conversation going, it is sometimes better to end the conversation. Some of these are people who reach out like 3-4 times before they can carry out a polite conversation that might lead to a visit with me... sure it might be straight and to the point that others might prefer, personally i need an actual conversation before being willing...
when the whole conversation goes;
him: hi
me: Hi. How are you doing today?
Him: available?
Me: i am, what are you looking to enjoy during our time together?
him: i want to fuck.
Ghosted
(Thoughts; Brain dead moron, I don't want to see, find someone else, not interested in communicating, then I'm not interested in booking that visit.)

and not even bothering to reply from SP you would see that this kind of behaviour is becoming the norm on both sides.

Only time I am not replying is if i am unavailable (work, sleep, already on a call), or they've pissed me off with repeatedly calling waking me up at all hours of the night (my ad specifies daytime only, and repeats on every page, some pages multiple times DO NOT CALL) or the send a message and call right away send 3 more messages call again, send 5 messages call, within 5 minutes, Blocked!
I have to live too and unless it is paid time with them, it is my time not theirs and the demand for my instant attention is an instant turnoff.
If I feel the need to punch a guy out, before I even had a chance to get around to say hi to his message, no he isn't getting a responce.

Though admittedly there is the rare occasion that messages while i am asleep and while checking messages in the morning I accidently forget to send a reply.

And I am sure it works both ways. We all sp and client do our best to find and follow threw to make our visits what we want.

And many of the no responces can also be people contacting lost or old app numbers, some ads are actually just copied from other websites and aren't actually connected to the SP. Or many just won't respond to sub par greetings.

 

[AirBo]

I am very easy with most things but not with not being on time or not showing up.

I think where our experience differ is that I'm doing Outcalls. The girl being late never bothered me.

Not showing up would be another story but I don't remember the last time it happened. I mean, I get canceled or postponed. It sucks but it's ok.

 

[Rebaynia]

Most escorts expect you to understand and be cool if they have to cancel last minute or show up late.

life happens and it can be a B*tch, when your the one doing the traveling things can happen to delay.

Nothing is offered in return. Why would it be? If you the client cancels last minute or show up late, it’s the end of the world.

I'm traveling, so if they are late, it's a problem, but i have given some benifit of the doubt and on a quiet day waited around a bit (to find out it was just some timewaister)
most of my calls are not pland out well in advance, most are first come first serve, are you available now? Type things, I can give an estimate of how long, but if it takes me longer... yes it takes as long as it takes to get there, if I'm late, it's because of unforseen circumstances.

Visits planned out in advance, appointments made. I tell anyone who contacts me anywhere from 2-3 hours before (last minute bookings) I can't, and will try to book them for after the set appointment. As for canceling, appointments made well in advance, I don't concider an appointment officially locked in & confirmed till morning of, if they ghost my responces for confirmation, I will go about my day as though the appointment was never made. If it's same day but later, I give them a final confirmation 2 hours before. If they have to back out, life happened, I get it. Next time. But confirm the final confirmation time then back out, I won't take your contacting me serious any more.

Their time is more valuable than yours, and they don’t need to respect you time wise to the same degree. That’s the story of modern dating for men in general, unless you’re actually exceptionally desired. Nothing wrong with it.

Everyones time is important. Everyone is their own main character in their own life. Yes, my business, my rules. It is easy to forget that while someone is contacting us during their free time, does not negate the fact that their time is just as valuable as ours, and they may be on time constraints too.
It is also a little easy to forget when your the one working... depending on what business your in, it is a regular issue with almost every line of work. Customer wants now, supplier needs time to make it happen. We all learn while on the job, any job, our time is more important than others and to do things our pace.

That’s the natural course of things once equality among the sexes closes in. From a business perspective, it’s always considered worse for the client to bail because the interior decorator, photographer, delivery guy, wtv the fuck is the one losing money. Money is what makes their time more valuable than yours even if you’re higher in the socioeconomic /class/ wtv ladder.

^^^^ i really should have read more before commenting where i did.

edit: I only read the title so if I’m off topic that’s why. It’s a thing I’m doing now. ✌️

Very on topic.