You are asking the wrong question.
What is the cause for most of these issues? Hint: what system? Patriarchy.
(if someone disagrees with this basic fact, goodbye)
Who set up that system? Men.
Why are we still trapped under that system if it harms everyone? Men.
If men feel it harms them, why don't they want to change it?
Do they feel it benefits them more than it harms them?
Women can tell you patriarchy harms them far more than you believe it benefits them. We're just waiting for your cooperation because you set it up and without you it'll take a lot longer, be a lot more painful for everyone than it would be if you are on board.
So it must mean the benefits are greater for men? Otherwise why aren't you helping us tear it down to build something everyone benefits from?
That's really what it boils down to.
Right now, you're feeling some disruptions and it's uncomfortable. You're not used to it, you don't like it and you've never had to be in this position so you've realized it's been harming women. But you still haven't pulled all the layer hiding the invisible harmful effects so you're legit feeling like its even possible women have it easier when in reality it's objectively not the case overall.
So forget the checklist comparison and ask yourself why you're not changing the system you created if it's now harmful to you too.
Because it still benefits you enough and harms women more so you don't want to let it go.
As simple as that. Comparisons like that are always going to be off the mark because you can't accurately compare things you don't see or don't fully understand from a perspective different than your own.
We're just waiting for you to wake up and tear down the shit system with us. In the meantime, it's just going to be uncomfortable for everyone. Difference is we're used to it and you are not. And we're powering through it while you're making lists that have no actual purpose other than show you win the oppression Olympics.
I mean, identifying the harms men are experiencing is a necessary and useful step. The comparing with things you don't understand is entirely pointless. If you must, then go ahead and get it out of your system so you can move on and do something constructive with it.
Don't hate the messenger and thanks for coming to my ted talk.