Why do escorts ask you what you're gonna do after?

[Like_It_Hot]

Wow, you thumbed me up. I take it that you're interested in me.

Recognizing you are a nice guy and a good mechanic. Nothing more.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Your reasoning is very narrow. If you are not interested sharing your time with someone, just decline politely.

You're totally missing the point here. It would be very stupid of her to decline any johns who are willing to pay her, just to watch her smile, eat, drink and pretend to be so interested in the conversation.

Here's a true fact, one of my very real good friend is a former stripper, who now do private gigs. I know for a fact she is not having any real sexual intercourse (she would tell me). So she meets her clients at their hotel room, performs sexy talk, contact dances, eat and have a few drinks with them, of course they are allowed to jerk off, she can, sometimes, "help" them but nothing more. And you know what? she gets out of there with $1500-$2000 for a few hours. Do you think she is interested in them?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Wow, you thumbed me up. I take it that you're interested in me.

good one @baron89!

 

[LC18]

Wow! I also paid my mechanic for repairing my car. He did a good job at a reasonable price and I invited him for a beer after work. I paid the drink nothing more.
I never considered I was asking him to work overtime, neither did he. Your reasoning is very narrow. If you are not interested sharing your time with someone, just decline politely.

Paid for your time???? And sex is free??? That is a way to justify your business. Take out sex off the equation and you know your earnings will drop down the sink.

Coming back to the OP question. Different SP might have different reasons to ask. Generally speaking, it is "small talk", a way to fill time or just have an idea of what their patrons are doing.

His job is to repair your car my job is to spend time with people. I don’t have sex with every client, quite a few don’t actually hire me for sex.

 

[LC18]

To stay on the topic, I personally ask that question to be polite. I would never invite myself on an extended date.

It really isn’t in my plans to go out with a client after our date whether it’s paid or not. I just shower and go home to nap.

 

[Like_It_Hot]

His job is to repair your car my job is to spend time with people. I don’t have sex with every client, quite a few don’t actually hire me for sex.

Your sense of humor is special...
I watched your ads here on MERB. A lot is promoted but "spending time" not so much...
Don't get me wrong! You do what you want but we are on an "escort review board" here and not a social meeting club.
You even quote: incall downtown Montreal /outcall to hotels only no private residences, * +50 for PSE, * +50 for GREEK, * +80 for PSE+GREEK

 

[LC18]

Yes intimacy is part of the package but that’s not what my rate is for.

I based my rates off time not activities.
Hence why it is more expensive if you choose to do PSE or greek, because it takes me more time to get ready. It also takes me less time to get ready for a social date so it’s cheaper.

I am solely speaking for myself, maybe you could ask another provider. I’m sure they would have very different opinions ❤️

 

[RamenNoodles]

They're just trying to make conversation. I'd say it's a pretty normal thing to ask

 

[charmer_]

Wow, you thumbed me up. I take it that you're interested in me.

The way you say it sounds so nasty. Like he put a thumb up your ass or something, lol.

The expression is better worded as: "you gave me the thumbs up". Just a fyi

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

We are paid for our time. You are requesting some of our time when you ask us out for a drink. It’s not too far fetched to expect to be compensated.

I'm gonna leave this here as my last comment about paying for someone's social time... or not.

Considering you, providers, all agree with having clients paying you for your precious social time. How do you explain that so many SWs have asked me, in the most serious way, for my professional time...for free! I'm talking at least a dozen of them. Is this what we call double standards?

Btw, I never accepted.

 

[LC18]

I'm gonna leave this here as my last comment about paying for someone's social time... or not.

Considering you, providers, all agree with having clients paying you for your precious social time. How do you explain that so many SWs have asked me, in the most serious way, for my professional time...for free! I'm talking at least a dozen of them. Is this what we call double standards?

Btw, I never accepted.

I cannot speak for others so I cannot answer your question, I’m sorry.

 

[Anna Bijou]

How do you explain that so many SWs have asked me, in the most serious way, for my professional time...for free! I'm talking at least a dozen of them. Is this what we call double standards?

SW expecting someone's time and labour without compensation isn't really a double standard because no one claimed it was only one group in one kind of situation doing this. All types of people do this outside of SW. Some people don't consider others time as valuable and some people don't even realize what they're expecting. It's just people, not any specific type of occupation.

Also, it's m possible that some SW do intend to offer an exchange of services/time as fair compensation. Which would be an entirely different situation.

 

[agecaius]

So I rarely get involved in this Forum but this subject got my attention. I've seen quite a few Providers over the years and you always feel when you click with someone. After seeing one popular provider a few time, she asked me if I had any plans that afternoon and invited me to diner. We then went to her place and I slept over. We dated for a few months... You never know what can happen.

 

[MtlGuyNow]

Wow, you thumbed me up. I take it that you're interested in me.

What celebrity do you resemble ?

 

[charmer_]

I think if you are paying for her time on a date, you are definately "buying" fake chemistry AND fake frienship, as well as we all are buying "fake" sextime when meeting them to fuck, but at least we get some fun sex back!

Not really...the only way you get to know someone is by spending time with them. And the more time, the better. Also...some ppl might maybe want to take a coffee with a SP first just to see if there's any chemistry between them and a given SP. Better chemistry leads to a better session, imho.

Nobody's looking for friendship, love, etc. It's a business transaction, pure and simple. But even in business, you want to get along with the people you interact with. And the ones that I do get along with, I tend to repeat with. The ones I don't is usually a "one and done" deal.

 

[cloudsurf]

I`d rather an escort ask tons of questions than stay shy and not talk.
BTW even though we don`t expect friendship or "feelings" it sometimes happens....we are social beings .

 

[Fradi]

Not really...the only way you get to know someone is by spending time with them. And the more time, the better. Also...some ppl might maybe want to take a coffee with a SP first just to see if there's any chemistry between them and a given SP. Better chemistry leads to a better session, imho.

Nobody's looking for friendship, love, etc. It's a business transaction, pure and simple. But even in business, you want to get along with the people you interact with. And the ones that I do get along with, I tend to repeat with. The ones I don't is usually a "one and done" deal.

This is exactly it, my expectation is not friendship but a fun adventure with a gorgeous woman.
On rare occasions when you see someone many times it turns into friendship also where you do enjoy having a lunch or dinner together or if they need a ride somewhere or just had a bad day and need someone to listen. Here is when you need to be aware and not take advantage and destroy the client/ SP relationship.
I don’t have a problem with this at all and enjoy the ladies company because she is having lunch or dinner because she wants to be there and is a friend.
This is what I have been trying to explain perhaps without success.
The other scenario of paying an SP to have dinner with me or for social time just doesn’t make sense to me and I have zero interest in it, I do however understand it from an SP point of view to her it is a job and she wants to be compensated for her time, nothing wrong with that.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

I ask about what you gonna do after to know if I can steal your soul real quick discreet ninja style without any suspicion. Because I'm a vampire succubus


I'm so sorry guys but those questions ... hahaha smh

 

[masmasak]

We are paid for our time. You are requesting some of our time when you ask us out for a drink. It’s not too far fetched to expect to be compensated.

Would you do unpaid overtime?

Come off!that is the lowest of the low an ethic for living,

 

[hob12]

I'm new to the hobby was kinda surprised at that question too.

Too bad I had nothing interesting to say haha.