Why so some SP's not like DFK or its restriction?

[Toto beefcake]

Well first off id imagine just the way some people talk about dfk and going into detail like dissecting an animal. I can understand why some providers dont offer. Also some wanna keep it for their partner or someone intimate For me personally dont care much about it. I think its intimate and should be shared with someone intimate. When its been done with 2 or 3 before you whats the point? At least the way i see it

When it comes to agencies ive been told the providers kind of dont have a choice. Same with bbbj . Some wanna do cbj but they cant per agency rules. Theres exceptions yes but for the most part is what it is

 

[Sylar]

This might be controversial but I think that SP's should have the right to not want to do DFK with a specific client even if they generally offer it. DFK requires a deeper level of chemistry in my opinion, and very often clients (and other people) don't know how to do it. It also often doesn't happen during my bookings, which isn't a result of me pushing away the client but LFK seems more natural for both of us. I think a lot of people don't know the difference which is why many of us have the impression that DFK is supposedly included in GFE.

I fall into the category of people who doesn’t really know the difference between LFK and DFK. Having said that, I never had a SP refuse it either.

The way some of you are describing DFK sounds like an experience I had when I woke up too late to feed my dog. Let’s just say there was indeed a lot of drool involved and I did not expect such a long tongue being shoved inside my mouth. I’ll discuss the rest with my therapist.

 

[Pablo1234]

So far only 1 has refused me. I still enjoyed the CBJ tho. After talking with her in the end before I left she said: yeah I hate it! In the past a guy was sucking on my tongue!

 

[CLOUD 500]

Maybe terms like GFE and PSE need to be standardized because to me GFE never included DFK.

I do it with some but not with everyone and sometimes I may start doing it and realize I don’t like it with that person and vice versa.

As some of the girls mentioned, GFE is the girlfriend experience. If kissing is romantic then it is makes sense that this is what GFE is. Either you want to feel like lovers or a client with an escort to get jerked off and onto the next. Saying GFE and not doing DFK kind of defeats the purpose of the term. A lot of SPs are using the term as a marketing tool to get customers. It better to state you are YMMV. Based on what you said you would be YMMV to me. My two cents.

 

[LC18]

As some of the girls mentioned, GFE is the girlfriend experience. If kissing is romantic then it is makes sense that this is what GFE is. Either you want to feel like lovers or a client with an escort to get jerked off and onto the next. Saying GFE and not doing DFK kind of defeats the purpose of the term. A lot of SPs are using the term as a marketing tool to get customers. It better to state you are YMMV. Based on what you said you would be YMMV to me. My two cents.

A lot of people don’t deep French kiss their real life partners…

 

[lapadict]

I will never forget my first DFK with a provider. She was a monthly regular way back in the early 90's. It was strictly boob play and CBJ for over a year then out of nowhere she started to slowly get closer to my face and kissed me lightly. Then the kissing went a little further and longer and then LFK. 3-4 minutes later it was a super sensual DFK that progressed to an all out slobber fest. And I noticed that during this kiss fest she was frantically getting herself off and I think for multiple climaxes. On the next visits the DFK would be initiated from her straight away. She always worked herself to orgasms. I guese that she found the guy who could turn her on. Needless to say that our encounters became weekly and two or three times a week in the summer because of her perfect beach bikini body. I miss those three years.

So DFK is my big need when seeing an SP. I am always respectful of the provider and take a measure of the limits. I find that on half of the visits with DFK on the menu, it really is nothing close to it from the onset. I never make a big deal but it rarely leads to a repeat. Stunningly, some of my best DRK experiences have been during Lap dances. I only ever asked for it once at a strip club and it was one of the best. The ten or so other times I had it were all incredible and memorable.

I like all DFK/LFK but I'm still searching for one experience that I have probably come close to with my fav from back in the day. That is the Brazillian style DFK that we see often online. Specifically Penelope Pink who has many girl on girl mouth humping clips. Just insane.

 

[Valentina]

To answer OP @Pablo1234

I used to offer it and I hated it. I thought I HAD to. Some men really don’t know how to kiss either, let alone PECK.

I like to reserve it for my private life. It’s way too personal for me.

Also. I’d get sick c o n s t a n t l y .

Your mouth harbours lots of bacteria. Kissing a toilet bowl seat is less risqué. Although I wouldn’t advise of doing so.

 

[Toto beefcake]

To answer OP @Pablo1234

I used to offer it and I hated it. I thought I HAD to. Some men really don’t know how to kiss either, let alone PECK.

I like to reserve it for my private life. It’s way too personal for me.

Also. I’d get sick c o n s t a n t l y .

Your mouth harbours lots of bacteria. Kissing a toilet bowl seat is less risqué. Although I wouldn’t advise of doing so.

Ya but i was told mouthwash is the key to everything. ( my favorite line)

 

[Valentina]

Ya but i was told mouthwash is the key to everything. ( my favorite line)

LMFAOOOO I know I see you use it everytime it fkn kills me

 

[Rebaynia]

I'm curious what you mean by this, @Rebaynia. (I literally do not understand!)

I have had people specify while booking they didn't want kissing. And I told them to find someone else. That we weren't suited/compatible to see eachother. I've stated before I treat this like online dating, but am paid for my time. If I don't think I will enjoy my time with someone, I have no problem telling them, there are other providers they can choose from.
I can't play pretend, it just isn't in me to pretend to have a good time if I'm not. It is also my way of preventing, shutting down and hating myself and my life by being available to just anyone. Sure I struggle financially, but I prefer to struggle than see someone who kills my mood for sex, or other men. I am in this to enjoy my life more, not hate it.

 

[talkinghead]

I have had people specify while booking they didn't want kissing. And I told them to find someone else. That we weren't suited/compatible to see eachother. I've stated before I treat this like online dating, but am paid for my time. If I don't think I will enjoy my time with someone, I have no problem telling them, there are other providers they can choose from.
I can't play pretend, it just isn't in me to pretend to have a good time if I'm not. It is also my way of preventing, shutting down and hating myself and my life by being available to just anyone. Sure I struggle financially, but I prefer to struggle than see someone who kills my mood for sex, or other men. I am in this to enjoy my life more, not hate it.

Thank you for taking the time to respond, @Rebaynia. I doubt there are a lot of SPs who would turn down a date because the client wouldn't kiss. I think your attitude is amazing!

 

[DouMan]

I don't have any problem with a lady saying she does not DFK and I don't even expect a reason. As always limits and expectations must be discussed beforehand. However I do begin to cringe when told "it's too intimate". Seriously? I don't want to offend anyone but intercourse, anal, BBBJ, SW, COF etc etc are not considered as intimate?

 

[Workingman]

I don't have any problem with a lady saying she does not DFK and I don't even expect a reason. As always limits and expectations must be discussed beforehand. However I do begin to cringe when told "it's too intimate". Seriously? I don't want to offend anyone but intercourse, anal, BBBJ, SW, COF etc etc are not considered as intimate?

This and SPs saying they would never allow thier partner to see SPs. I remember the first time I was at an MP and she said she only offered hj/bj because she has a boyfriend. I don't remember how the conversation got there but she said she would leave him if she found out he went to an MP. I asked if he knew what she did for work and she said no! Lol!

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

because to me GFE never included DFK.

Well, to us, old members it ALWAYS implied DFK and bbbj.

 

[Workingman]

Well, to us, old members it ALWAYS implied DFK and bbbj.

I have always assume it did and I've never thought to ask if it was included.

 

[LC18]

Well, to us, old members it ALWAYS implied DFK and bbbj.

And that’s why you shouldn’t assume and just ask to avoid disappointment

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

And that’s why you shouldn’t assume and just ask to avoid disappointment

I dont assume anything since SPs have decided to change the meaning of everything now! Lol

I stick to girls who offers what I’m looking for with a smile and a genuine attitude.

 

[Workingman]

And that’s why you shouldn’t assume and just ask to avoid disappointment

I think it should be advertised tbh, or at least made clear during booking at least.

 

[Mandouke]

I do not consider it to be a GFE if there is no DFK.

May as well remove the GF and just leave the E. That is what it would be.

 

[Aloha001]

Personally for me too, "GFE — girlfriend experience" must naturally include DFK otherwise it's not really GFE