Yesterday I learnt a horrible truth that my girlfriend for 5 years had
been sexually abused while she was a little kid. She is now 22,
however throughout when she was 14 to 16 the bother of her step
father, who was then around 38-40, had touched her sexually around her
intimate parts and had her perform oral sex on him several times. She
had kept this in secret for all this years and finally told me
yesterday. She doesnt want to tell anybody else because she doesnt
want to cause any pain or remorse on her mom and relatives for not noticing or not being able to help her.
The guy in question was recently question by the police due to the
fact that he had paid to see child pornography on the internet, he has
2 little kids ( girls ) aged 12 -13 and while my girlfriend doesnt
think he does the same thing to them Im afraid that he does it to
their friends or thier babysitters.
However my main concern is as a boyfriend what should I do? I know
this has caused her a lot of pain throughout the time it happened
which was multiple times, and up until now. Should I encourage her to
tell her mom ? I would love for her to visit a psychiatrist to help
her overcome any damage that he may have done, but I dont know where
to look or to start.
I would appreciate any advise that you can give me