Don't fall in love with your regular SP

[vanhamm]

I feel you!

But I do think that what is happening here is that you aren't a self-centered twat.
And when you aren't a self-centered twat, it is a hard realization that a vast majority of people actually are self-centered twats... certainly not just women. Easily 9 out of 10 people are self-centered twats...
Welcome to the non-self-centered twat minority!

this is why over the years i have become more of a lone wolf and only have a handful of friends.

 

[Glyscore]

I learned the HARD WAY

 

[bodick7]

By being broke you’ll end up being creative and eventually find ways to make more money to satisfy your carnal appetite.

I prefer being budget wise and let my pink piggy bank slowly refilled.
When done, it’s been a while so I’m horny like a raging bull.
Hum…tax reimbursement time is coming. Mouhahahahaha!!!

 

[Glyscore]

Without being blocked, can I simply ask if first initial of this SP was L?

LMFAO

 

[envelopes]

But she was always a selfish self centered twat.

I feel you!

But I do think that what is happening here is that you aren't a self-centered twat.
And when you aren't a self-centered twat, it is a hard realization that a vast majority of people actually are self-centered twats... certainly not just women. Easily 9 out of 10 people are self-centered twats...
Welcome to the non-self-centered twat minority!

This is funny because I'm starting to see this only now. Was blinded!

But yes, I thought maybe excess would solve the problem. It didn't. Only made it worse. Now I'm broke

Not only did it not work, but it's gotten so messy. After the whole booking issue, she came over for the night and stayed for 2 days. Since then, she just randomly shows up to my condo now... doesn't answer my texts but just randomly shows up at my door at night. So I'm falling even deeper for her, but I have no idea what she wants. Comes over, screws me, eats my food, then leaves. Ignores me when I ask her if she wants to go out. Messing with my feelings.

I have an appointment with another SP later to try to get over this. But now I feel guilty for seeing another SP........

 

[LC18]

This is funny because I'm starting to see this only now. Was blinded!


Not only did it not work, but it's gotten so messy. After the whole booking issue, she came over for the night and stayed for 2 days. Since then, she just randomly shows up to my condo now... doesn't answer my texts but just randomly shows up at my door at night. So I'm falling even deeper for her, but I have no idea what she wants. Comes over, screws me, eats my food, then leaves. Ignores me when I ask her if she wants to go out. Messing with my feelings.

I have an appointment with another SP later to try to get over this. But now I feel guilty for seeing another SP........

Hold on, she randomly shows up at your place? You’ve seen her 30 times in a month?

Man, I’ve been in a relationship with a man once and I wouldn’t even see him that much. Mind you we were supposed to be living together.


Definitely sounds like you two need a good and serious discussion

 

[envelopes]

Hold on, she randomly shows up at your place? You’ve seen her 30 times in a month?

Man, I’ve been in a relationship with a man once and I wouldn’t even see him that much. Mind you we were supposed to be living together.


Definitely sounds like you two need a good and serious discussion

Alright, I know I said "about 30 times in a month", but it was more like 5 days a week (during work breaks) for 3 weeks.

I have tried to talk to her. She just dismisses it and say "I don't know, we're just hanging out". I could just keep pushing it, but I keep telling myself "don't mess up the free sex, just shut up and stop having feelings".

This happened with another SP 2 years ago too. Same exact I don't know, we're just hanging out thing. I need to somehow get it into my head that this isn't dating, this is hobbying

I know damn well she is playing the game and since she been doing that as a side line for 13 years now she knows exactly what to say to keep her regulars coming back.

I wonder if she is doing this to me too

 

[Jordd]

This is funny because I'm starting to see this only now. Was blinded!


Not only did it not work, but it's gotten so messy. After the whole booking issue, she came over for the night and stayed for 2 days. Since then, she just randomly shows up to my condo now... doesn't answer my texts but just randomly shows up at my door at night. So I'm falling even deeper for her, but I have no idea what she wants. Comes over, screws me, eats my food, then leaves. Ignores me when I ask her if she wants to go out. Messing with my feelings.

I have an appointment with another SP later to try to get over this. But now I feel guilty for seeing another SP........

Sounds very toxic.
You need to take a break from this situation, or at the very least set some boundaries.
I’m sure it’s hard to push her away, because you have deep feelings for her, but she is not respecting you.

 

[envelopes]

Sounds very toxic.
You need to take a break from this situation, or at the very least set some boundaries.
I’m sure it’s hard to push her away, because you have deep feelings for her, but she is not respecting you.

Sometimes you forget a lot of SPs has some real issues.... I've had an intense week of drama

I saw 2 other SPs to try to help but it didn't help at all. Guess it's time to take a break from the hobby.

 

[Jordd]

Sometimes you forget a lot of SPs has some real issues.... I've had an intense week of drama

I saw 2 other SPs to try to help but it didn't help at all. Guess it's time to take a break from the hobby.

Very wise decision. Sorry you had a rough patch.
You will be stronger if/when you come back.

 

[Sylar]

Not only did it not work, but it's gotten so messy. After the whole booking issue, she came over for the night and stayed for 2 days. Since then, she just randomly shows up to my condo now... doesn't answer my texts but just randomly shows up at my door at night. So I'm falling even deeper for her, but I have no idea what she wants. Comes over, screws me, eats my food, then leaves. Ignores me when I ask her if she wants to go out. Messing with my feelings.

That's not an SP, that's a cellmate in prison and you are the one getting ****ed.

 

[2fast2slow]

ive been seeing the same sp weekly for over a year, so naturally i've developped feelings for her. To her i'm still just a client of course. A good, polite and likeable client, but no more.
But that's ok for me, I'm not lookinng to date her or anything. I just love fucking her, and i've grown to like her personality. Sweet, simple, no games.
I'm aware it's crossing the line, but i can't stop. That's all i have to say .

 

[LC18]

I just love fucking her,

I think I’ve heard someone say: “I fucking love you and I love fucking you”. Can’t remember where.

 

[Glyscore]

ive been seeing the same sp weekly for over a year, so naturally i've developped feelings for her. To her i'm still just a client of course. A good, polite and likeable client, but no more.
But that's ok for me, I'm not lookinng to date her or anything. I just love fucking her, and i've grown to like her personality. Sweet, simple, no games.
I'm aware it's crossing the line, but i can't stop. That's all i have to say .

The problem that I realised you endnup having with this mindset is that you prevent yourself from finding someone who likes you romanticaly for real. You dont build serious relationship with a woman and this will end up making you sick. Depending of your age it can affect your social life aswell. Its really important to try to block any feeling while fucking an SP. Trust me. I leanred the hard way. Now im doing better. Still looking here and there but also try to find someone in the real life. Someone I wont have to pay to fuck.

 

[Ducon]

The problem that I realised you endnup having with this mindset is that you prevent yourself from finding someone who likes you romanticaly for real. You dont build serious relationship with a woman and this will end up making you sick. Depending of your age it can affect your social life aswell. Its really important to try to block any feeling while fucking an SP. Trust me. I leanred the hard way. Now im doing better. Still looking here and there but also try to find someone in the real life. Someone I wont have to pay to fuck.

I also have regulars who I have a lot of affection for, but I know I'm only a client for them ( albeit a really good one ), so it's not stopping me from trying to date.
If anything, seeing them regularly puts me in a good mood. So I'm less depressed, horny and desperate in social situations.
A masseuse once told me "we can see it when a guy has blue balls and is desperate".