Don't fall in love with your regular SP

[Obvio-0bvio]

Holy shit. I hadn't read this till now. You definitely should not have told me to roll with the punches when a similar situation came up for me lol.

This incident happened 13-14 years ago that left a lasting impression. However, it is important to remember that this isolated event should not overshadow the entire service provider industry. It would be unfair to generalize and form judgments based on the actions of a few individuals.

In regard to my own perspective, I was specifically referring to my preference as a single lifestyle and the satisfaction it brings me currently in my life.

 

[Jordd]

I have to support my kids, so when finances are low sometimes we have to do things we don't like. But at least the majority of people who I meet I actually do like. Its like 2-3 total over an entire year, that even though I'm not keen on will try to convince me to see them.

That’s not a bad number over one year.

When I am dealing with emotional lows it is often harder, but they apparently seem to enjoy anyways, as they keep calling back. As many here say there's a lot of women out there. I personally don't get why those ones I admitted to not enjoying time with, keep calling, 1 even outright telling him our personalities don't click. I don't get it. But it is their choice to contact who they want.

I don’t get that either.

 

[NatashaSnow]

There are many forms of love it doesn’t have to be the kind of love for a wife or life partner.
I am totally in love with my ATF.
I love how gorgeous she is how kind and thoughtful she is and the way she treats me. I love the friendship we have.
Now if I was anywhere near her age I would probably fall in love with her in the traditional way also.
I think maybe SP sometimes miss interpret this, some of us are realistic and know full well that the SP is not in love with us ( yes they will undoubtedly have their favourites be it for looks or kindness or whatever and I hope I fall into one of those categories ).
Anyway even if I was her age the only way I could ever really fall in love with any woman be it SP or civilian is if she wasn’t seeing anyone else, I don’t share the people I love, with that I am not open minded at all.

maaannnn, Everytime I read something I love that makes me do a double take to see who wrote it, it’s you.

 

[Jordd]

maaannnn, Everytime I read something I love that makes me do a double take to see who wrote it, it’s you.

Get a room you two! Just kidding
Do you know each other?

 

[vanhamm]

I honestly don't know how people can still fall in love... i dated from 18 to 41 and i was always a faithful man, never cheated on my girlfriends, and i did everything for them (i know i know), if they were sick i was there to take care of them, when i got older and got a paying job, when my girlfriend would lose her job i would take care of her financially.

My 2 long term relationships i was with an obese women who saw me as a trophy since i was lifting weights and during this time in tip top shape, i made the mistake of buying a house she was so damn lazy could not take care of a dog did not cook i did everything in the house, and yet she wanted kids.

My second long term was 9 years long, once again i got screwed, she was cold as ice self centered, and she gave me bad sex, yet i stayed with her even if i was miserable, she cheated on me with a guy at her job her soul mate as she called him.

Afte 41 went online and met a bunch of obese single moms with dead end job on depression pills i called it quit on dating.

I been single for 11 years now and those are the best years of my life, i got my SP on the side, that i see a few times a month but that love thing is complete bull.

Love is a feeling like being hungry, its something that will eventually go away, love is not real. After my last date 8 years ago and seeing were this was all going that women was atrocious looking she smelled bad. 2 kids full time in between job, she told me she was fit, and those furry forearms disgusting yet she manage to insult me saying her ex was hotter than me and look younger than me. I looked old because i shaved my head. Go figure. To get insulted by such an atrocity did it for me, i got home order pizza put on the PS3 game medal of honor and enjoyed the company of my 3 cats.

Now that i understand the world its hard for me to imagine someone falling in love.

 

[TheJames101]

My 2 long term relationships i was with an obese women who saw me as a trophy since i was lifting weights and during this time in tip top shape, i made the mistake of buying a house she was so damn lazy could not take care of a dog did not cook i did everything in the house, and yet she wanted kids.

Afte 41 went online and met a bunch of obese single moms with dead end job on depression pills i called it quit on dating.

No offence, but maybe you should have broadened your dating range. Lots of obese people work hard and do well in life, but they will almost always have a set of baggage that comes along with their physical condition. I have noticed that very often this causes difficulties in their primary relationships. Unless they are obese for a physical reason completely out of their control, they are obese and stay obese for reasons which are often complicated.

 

[NatashaSnow]

My 2 long term relationships i was with an obese women who saw me as a trophy since i was lifting weights and during this time in tip top shape, i made the mistake of buying a house she was so damn lazy could not take care of a dog did not cook i did everything in the house, and yet she wanted kids. […]

I been single for 11 years now and those are the best years of my life, i got my SP on the side, that i see a few times a month but that love thing is complete bull.

Today’s daily reminder to take care of your husbands brought to you by @vanhamm

her soul mate as she called him.

I felt that one in my heart

Love is a feeling like being hungry, its something that will eventually go away, love is not real. After my last date 8 years ago and seeing were this was all going that women was atrocious looking she smelled bad. 2 kids full time in between job, she told me she was fit, and those furry forearms disgusting yet she manage to insult me saying her ex was hotter than me and look younger than me. I looked old because i shaved my head. Go figure. To get insulted by such an atrocity did it for me, i got home order pizza put on the PS3 game medal of honor and enjoyed the company of my 3 cats.

Honestly, go you! for having not only figured it out, but also how to make it work and acceptance toward it all

 

[Fradi]

I honestly don't know how people can still fall in love... i dated from 18 to 41 and i was always a faithful man, never cheated on my girlfriends, and i did everything for them (i know i know), if they were sick i was there to take care of them, when i got older and got a paying job, when my girlfriend would lose her job i would take care of her financially.

My 2 long term relationships i was with an obese women who saw me as a trophy since i was lifting weights and during this time in tip top shape, i made the mistake of buying a house she was so damn lazy could not take care of a dog did not cook i did everything in the house, and yet she wanted kids.

My second long term was 9 years long, once again i got screwed, she was cold as ice self centered, and she gave me bad sex, yet i stayed with her even if i was miserable, she cheated on me with a guy at her job her soul mate as she called him.

Afte 41 went online and met a bunch of obese single moms with dead end job on depression pills i called it quit on dating.

I been single for 11 years now and those are the best years of my life, i got my SP on the side, that i see a few times a month but that love thing is complete bull.

Love is a feeling like being hungry, its something that will eventually go away, love is not real. After my last date 8 years ago and seeing were this was all going that women was atrocious looking she smelled bad. 2 kids full time in between job, she told me she was fit, and those furry forearms disgusting yet she manage to insult me saying her ex was hotter than me and look younger than me. I looked old because i shaved my head. Go figure. To get insulted by such an atrocity did it for me, i got home order pizza put on the PS3 game medal of honor and enjoyed the company of my 3 cats.

Now that i understand the world its hard for me to imagine someone falling in love.

There is always another side to this.

I consider myself extremely lucky as I have an ATF who is not only gorgeous but treats me exceptionally well.
She is the kindest most thoughtful young lady I could ever hope for and it has evolved into a friendship to the point that I believe we both enjoy each others company but it is still a paid for arrangement which I am totally fine with. I will always be grateful to her and no amount of money can repay the kindness she has shown me for 6 years now.

I would however trade all the SP in the world for one day with the woman of my dreams who I spent over 35 years with and lost to cancer.
There is nothing in the world that compares to being in love with a woman who returns that love and sharing a life and raising a family with her.
I will always have my children and grandchild who I see every week and the memories of the life I shared with her.

 

[vanhamm]

Today’s daily reminder to take care of your husbands brought to you by @vanhamm


I felt that one in my heart



Honestly, go you! for having not only figured it out, but also how to make it work and acceptance toward it all

Because most women complain that men cheat on them and are not nice but when you are they treated you like crap. I guess there is so much abuse you can take and rejection from women that are below average who hide behind fake pictures or photoshopped.

Online dating is not the best example because most people who been on there will agree that its the last resort and after being on there they give up on dating.

To message someone with good intentions, and being nice that you read her profile and you would like to know more about her, and get a reply like yeah in your dreams honey, from a hairdresser who as one kid full time. Fast forward 3 weeks and she post real selfies of her at 41 she looks like a zombie from the apocalypse, some many wrinkles in her face that was insane, I just had to message her back and thank her.

I am sorry to feel the way i do but there is so much you can take from women like this and other that look like garbage and live i a dream world that think they can catch the fantasy island model looking man.

To talk to a women who is a nurse with purple hair, and a penguin nose, with glasses that make her look like a grand ma, telling you that even if she as been single for 5 years she will not lower her standards that are set very high, of course all this while have 2 kids full time. I guess she got my best reply ever, i ask her for her address, she ask me why and i simply told her to send her some rechargeable batteries for her vibrator cause she gonna be single for a long long time.

Now how can you take any of that Sitt seriously, i guess looking at this and life itself i am a spectator in a theater, and looking at actors on stage, its funny until someone gets hurt after that its even funnier.

God damn Indiana Jones and the crystal skulls screwing with my emotions again, those darn aliens once more proven to be not alone in the universe and then some when will they start charging us for interplanetary exploration instead of adducting us to create all sort of experiments with our bodies.

 

[vanhamm]

There is always another side to this.

I consider myself extremely lucky as I have an ATF who is not only gorgeous but treats me exceptionally well.
She is the kindest most thoughtful young lady I could ever hope for and it has evolved into a friendship to the point that I believe we both enjoy each others company but it is still a paid for arrangement which I am totally fine with. I will always be grateful to her and no amount of money can repay the kindness she has shown me for 6 years now.

I would however trade all the SP in the world for one day with the woman of my dreams who I spent over 35 years with and lost to cancer.
There is nothing in the world that compares to being in love with a woman who returns that love and sharing a life and raising a family with her.
I will always have my children and grandchild who I see every week and the memories of the life I shared with her.

Yes of course if you were ones of the lucky one who did find a great person and she invested in you as much as you invest in her, i guess its possible.

But for me i was always the laughing stock, give give give and in the end being cheated on.

I feel for the young men today seeing how dating has become a joke and am surprise at how many of them rather stay home in front of there computer instead of going out and actually meeting women.

The only things i invest and love are my 4 cats who will be there all my life and bring me so much joy

Most men my age are divorced or unhappy married so this is what i have to work with i guess.

For my part i gave up after all please tell me what would dating a fat single mom on depression pills with 2 kids full time and a dead end job bring to my life.

 

[Fradi]

Yes of course if you were ones of the lucky one who did find a great person and she invested in you as much as you invest in her, i guess its possible.

But for me i was always the laughing stock, give give give and in the end being cheated on.

I feel for the young men today seeing how dating has become a joke and am surprise at how many of them rather stay home in front of there computer instead of going out and actually meeting women.

Most men my age are divorced or unhappy married so this is what i have to work with i guess.

For my part i gave up after all please tell me what would dating a fat single mom on depression pills with 2 kids full time and a dead end job bring to my life.

I feel bad for you but I understand.

I tried dating and yes the majority are unattractive( especially if you have been spoiled by some gorgeous SP) and come with a shit load of baggage and idiot kids who have already screwed up their life and want you only as their financial benefactor.

I did mange to find some gorgeous women about 10-15 years younger than me, some that I knew for many years who's husbands had died or they divorced but quickly found out that it would always be an unfair losing comparison for them and I was just wasting their time and mine.
I have had my shot at love and will never be able to come close to that again so seeing a gorgeous young SP who treats me with kindness will be it.
I am not looking for a commitment or lasting relationship. For now my ATF is perfect.

I have my family and friends and slowly life has improved somewhat.

 

[vanhamm]

I feel bad for you but I understand.

I tried dating and yes the majority are unattractive( especially if you have been spoiled by some gorgeous SP) and come with a shit load of baggage and idiot kids who have already screwed up their life and want you only as their financial benefactor.

I did mange to find some gorgeous women about 10-15 years younger than me, some that I knew for many years who's husbands had died or they divorced but quickly found out that it would always be an unfair losing comparison for them and I was just wasting their time and mine.
I have had my shot at love and will never be able to come close to that again so seeing a gorgeous young SP who treats me with kindness will be it.
I am not looking for a commitment or lasting relationship. For now my ATF is perfect.

I have my family and friends and slowly life has improved somewhat.

That's it, SP offer a service, some good SP will also make you feel good about yourself, for the younger women you are right, its a real puzzle.

for some odd reason you go out with friends and at 44 you get hit on by the waitress who is so much hotter then the online dating crowd and she is 23. You are tall are you in the army, do you have kids, i want to get to know you..... OUCH.

I guess there is a market for older men who want to date younger women.

Me and my SP were pillow talking the other day because a friend at work wants me to go on a date with is aunt who is coming to visit this summer, she is from Colombia, very beautiful women. My SP said ha you will surely fall in love with her. Guess she does not understand, that i don't have this feeling inside of me anymore, its very weird to talk about this because love can be a wonderful thing, but i guess when its gone its gone.

Now i totally respect my SP, i treat her well, i bring her some small gift sometimes because i see her as a good friend confident, and when i see her i try that we both have fun together. But i do not get attached to her emotionally even if i deep french kiss her everytime we see each other.

 

[hob12]

Women don't really owe you anything my guy.

This thread reeks.

 

[Fradi]

I’m not a psy so I don’t know if misogynie is innate or acquired but you nailed it “this thread reeks.”. . I’m sorry for anyone reading this guy in the future, I’ll stop bumping it by replying.

I didn’t take it that way.
Yes he probably could have sugar coated his words but I think he was just being honest and describing how he feels and rejection is not a pleasant thing to deal with man or woman.
Actually I kind of feel sorry for him as he has tried to find love but sometimes it just doesn’t work out.
He is right that it is tough to find a decent looking woman who is not carrying a lot of baggage from former relationships in his age bracket.

This is a reality of life and with women of today being much more able to earn an above average lifestyle on their own without being dependant on a man , it just gets tougher.

Having said all this I don’t think anyone should ever give up on finding love if that is what they want because there is nothing that compares to sharing a life with a woman that returns your love and having a family with her.

Seeing SP is fun, enjoyable, maybe great for your ego, but it is not real, it is a fantasy that you are paying for and can never replace a true loving relationship.

 

[vanhamm]

I didn’t take it that way.
Yes he probably could have sugar coated his words but I think he was just being honest and describing how he feels and rejection is not a pleasant thing to deal with man or woman.
Actually I kind of feel sorry for him as he has tried to find love but sometimes it just doesn’t work out.
He is right that it is tough to find a decent looking woman who is not carrying a lot of baggage from former relationships in his age bracket.

This is a reality of life and with women of today being much more able to earn an above average lifestyle on their own without being dependant on a man , it just gets tougher.

Having said all this I don’t think anyone should ever give up on finding love if that is what they want because there is nothing that compares to sharing a life with a woman that returns your love and having a family with her.

Seeing SP is fun, enjoyable, maybe great for your ego, but it is not real, it is a fantasy that you are paying for and can never replace a true loving relationship.

Its sad but in today world you cannot say anything without being judge but people like that, i do not hate women, i have women friends.

The women i met i was never ever disrespectful to them, my last date when i saw her outside i found her horrible looking but i was nice, i am not a mean person, just have diner and i leave talk be nice. But looking like she did she insulted me.

This simp attitude by men who defend women at all cost show there weakness. If someone insults you, you insult them back.

I don't waste time with people like Bobby because i know he is weak i just add them to the ignore list.

I read a lot of post on here and if i am not interested i just don't reply nor write nothing. People like him who judge you without knowing what you been through should just ignore my post that simple. I know far to many white knights men like him i just set them aside.

 

[hob12]

I’m not a psy so I don’t know if misogynie is innate or acquired but you nailed it “this thread reeks.”. . I’m sorry for anyone reading this guy in the future, I’ll stop bumping it by replying.

Dude is just bitter, red pill avatar, calls people who tell him he's full of it "simps", openly says that he rages text women who refuse his advances.

It's sad really, I had bad experience with women too, more or less, but becoming bitter like that ensures that you will remain alone. They can probably see his red flags from miles.

 

[bodick7]

This simp attitude by men who defend women at all cost show there weakness. If someone insults you, you insult them back.

Pure Donald Trump style. Ha!Ha!

 

[vanhamm]

Pure Donald Trump style. Ha!Ha!

I did not mean this in a bad way but this woke society we live in needs to stop, you cannot say nor do anything without someone getting offended. And lots of them are mighty defender of women, like we can't have our opinion about anything, sorry but if a women offends me i will tell her off.

 

[hob12]

You just said you put people on ignore when they offend you though lol.

 

[nico61]

I think dating in this social media era, makes it more difficult to find someone. We have basically turned into a very disposable society. With the divorce rate at 50% leaves alot of people bitter and messed up. Everyone has some form of baggage. Finding real love is very hard. Consider yourself lucky if you were blessed to find it once. Finding it a second time? I’m on the fence with that one.
If you are over 50 or 60 makes it even more complicated. A lot of independent women when you are dating in that age bracket.
Do they really need a man?? Dating a woman
More than 10 years younger than you could be trouble down the line. Yes, it works sometimes. but I have witnessed some that ended up real messy. No doubt most men like to fuck younger women. It’s in their DNA to spread that seed to the most fertile woman.