Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

Hi everyone! Thanks for putting this thread together and taking the time to answer our questions
I’ve heard differing answers from various providers but wanted to set the tale straight- when is the “low season” for business in Canada/Montreal? I have a busy work schedule and am trying to find the best time to take a more extended break to visit some of my favorite providers in the area. Was thinking perhaps late fall or winter would be best, but it is amazing seeing gorgeous ladies in their summer minidresses, heels, and sandals!

It's only my third year in the industry but I've noticed a drop in inquiries around november, however, last winter I didn't really spend a long time without working. Obviously it's less busy, but it's definitely a good time to plan long bookings. A lot of providers go back to school in the fall and are less available tho.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I always do CBJ, but I'm getting tempted to go with BBBJ or CIM if it's offered. I know it's a YMMV thing, but I just wanted to ask because it seems like a good space here.

SPs, have you ever had someone skeptical about going for it? Did they cite health reasons, or playing it safe for a potential partner?

I've had clients ask me for CBJ and I'm always glad because they are taking care of their health and playing it safe. I've never had an STI, and personally I prefer offering bbbj for my own personal enjoyment, but in terms of health risks it's not ideal and initially I didn't want to offer that service because I was scared. I'm not sure if there is more of a risk with CIM than just bbbj alone but I have heard that it's a bit more risky, which is why I'm currently charging it as an extra (but that may change in the future)

I will never personally get offended if somebody asks for CBJ.

 

[LC18]

Hi everyone! Thanks for putting this thread together and taking the time to answer our questions
I’ve heard differing answers from various providers but wanted to set the tale straight- when is the “low season” for business in Canada/Montreal? I have a busy work schedule and am trying to find the best time to take a more extended break to visit some of my favorite providers in the area. Was thinking perhaps late fall or winter would be best, but it is amazing seeing gorgeous ladies in their summer minidresses, heels, and sandals!

It’s different for everyone. Some of my peers had a rough January and that was my best month of the year.

Winter is a bit rough for some because there’s a lot of family holidays and vacations so clients that are partnered up cannot really sneak out so easily.

 

[LC18]

I always do CBJ, but I'm getting tempted to go with BBBJ or CIM if it's offered.

You can do CIM safely if the receiver has their mouth wide open and the giver just tries to shoot with as much precision as possible.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Do you think escorting should be completely legalized and regulated?

The main argument I hear against this is from women that say sex work is exploitative and no women do it of their own free will and that legalizing it will only help sex traffickers. I asked this on another forum and I got some pretty angry responses. I would like to hear your opinions on this.

No. Sex work should be decriminalized, not legalized, it's completely different.

We don't want the government to be regulating and controlling sex work. Most sex workers choose this path because it allows them a better quality of life, a lot of sex workers can't work a 9 to 5 jobs for health reasons, don't have their immigration papers yet, are in school and don't want to work long shifts while focusing on their studies.. etc etc. Also, in this situation we can hide what we do from the rest of society, which wouldn't be the case if the government was controlling it. I'm face out but I know providers whose friends and even partners don't know that they're doing this work.

However, a lot of studies have actually indicated that criminalizing sex workers and their clients actually make sex trafficking cases higher because it pushes the whole network underground.

 

[Skym]

Get attracted to your clients?

 

[RockytheSnail]

A question for gents :

Does it bother you when providers talk about their job during the booking? I'm not talking about describing experiences with clients, more like chatting about our daily lives as an escort. Many clients like to ask questions about it, so I got used to talking about it very candidly, and I realized that maybe it's a turn off or impolite..

I guess a broader question would be.. are there subjects you don't like providers to talk about during bookings?

Maybe I’m in the weird minority but I actually find it a huge turn on when providers talk about their “dirty details” during dates, including past encounters or their "favorite moments." I wouldn't say I'm a voyeur type, but its incredible to hear about the breadth of sexual experiences in your lives and the kinks you've helped fulfill, as well as the things that gave you the best experiences during sex! Fun to get the juxtaposition between that and the (broad strokes) of what your "outside life" as regular workers or students are...

 

[LC18]

You can do CIM safely if the receiver has their mouth wide open and the giver just tries to shoot with as much precision as possible.

Just to be clear, this is only safe for the giver. Received is still at risk of catching STIs

 

[LC18]

Get attracted to your clients?

Yes?

 

[DouMan]

Just to be clear, this is only safe for the giver. Received is still at risk of catching STIs

or flies

 

[someoneany]

Do you think escorting should be completely legalized and regulated?

The main argument I hear against this is from women that say sex work is exploitative and no women do it of their own free will and that legalizing it will only help sex traffickers. I asked this on another forum and I got some pretty angry responses. I would like to hear your opinions on this.

You will pay for the service + GST/QST

 

[LC18]

You will pay for the service + GST/QST

You already do, we just combine it to our service so that you don’t yell at us.

We pay it when we do our taxes so we definitely charge it.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

You will pay for the service + GST/QST

Not all escort is registered to pay GST/QST, some make less than 30K a year. But some are. I wish I could charge my rates + tx, but an all-inclusive rate is expected. And I won't mention "taxes included" for privacy purposes. It's not because you don't see something that it doesn't exist!

 

[someoneany]

Not all escort is registered to pay GST/QST, some make less than 30K a year. But some are. I wish I could charge my rates + tx, but an all-inclusive rate is expected. And I won't mention "taxes included" for privacy purposes. It's not because you don't see something that it doesn't exist!

It is cash income. we all know how it works upon tax declaration

 

[Giselle Montreal]

It is cash income. we all know how it works upon tax declaration

Does it mean we don't declare money? It is necessary to pay taxes, and sales taxes past a certain point, to pay substantial expenses, save and have at least a bit of a retirement fund. Anyone working in cash industries should declare a minimum of their earnings, and some are smart and treat it as a legitimate business.

 

[someoneany]

Does it mean we don't declare money? It is necessary to pay taxes, and sales taxes past a certain point, to pay substantial expenses, save and have at least a bit of a retirement fund. Anyone working in cash industries should declare a minimum of their earnings, and some are smart and treat it as a legitimate business.

If you don't believe I do invoices, voluntarily deposit my cash in my bank accounts and pay my taxes instalments quarterly, I don't care.

Maybe you do but not everyone. It is exactly like anyone working for cash, they declare the amount they want

 

[LC18]

Only irresponsible people or people that don’t think about the future and consequences go their whole life without paying taxes.

I know it sucks but it’s in your best interest.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Get attracted to your clients?

Yes some. I feel like it's not a super relevant question to ask, tho. I don't give special favours to clients I think are cute.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

About the relationship question. I am an artist and I kinda live in the margins of society, I have good friends and a lot of acquaintances and I don't keep what I do a secret, which is why I'm face out. A lot of people in my friend group have done some type of sex work before, whether it's dancing, escorting, sugaring, camming or onlyfans. I do feel judged by my peers sometimes, but I don't think it's as stigmatized in my social circles as it is elsewhere. I was in a serious relationship for almost a year and my partner knew I was a SP. I'm not super excited about dating lately, but if I entered a relationship with someone they would know what I do for work right away. I don't like secrets. I've also dated other SP's before I became one and it wasn't an issue with me.

 

[Nachoy]

Indies.
Would you work with agencies again ? Or you prefer to be independent?