No i just left and she message me not too long ago that she could not understand she was not finding what she wanted. LOL That is the main issue they don't see the reflection in the mirror, she will realize one day and stay single or find a weak men who wants to raise her kids since she as them full time. I am just glade i dodge a bullet on this one and am done going on dates.
Staying single for the rest of your life?
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I was in the same position and she brought her kid who was sick! She told me her ex drank and gambled ! So what was i doing there as Im a healthy person so go find another drinker honey!
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It is quit beyond me that you can have kids in this world and just forget about them, i know that if i would have had children they would have been my top priority. Yet I have spoken (not met) so many single moms who have full time kids and its not like the boyfriend or husband died and they are widow, they left.
I do no know what goes into there minds of those women, they want to date but don't seem to understand they have baggage, lots of men used to date single mother and they learn that its a very bad idea, because kids come first right, so you will always ben on the last row, and never her priority so how can you build a strong relationship with this.
Every man that i talk to who is 40 and up and goes on date is the same thing, they usually get rejected because the women wants a male model and honest no man looks like a male model and sadly they bring nothing to the table.
A guy at my job who is younger went on a few dates online and was discourage one night we were at work with nothing much to do so i said you want to see online dating what it truly is check this out.
I created another account on POF, saw this women 2 kids piercing tattoos, short curly hair, she wrote in her profile can you please forget about our appearance for the time being and learn to know each other. So she knew deep down inside what she looked like and was she had to offer this was a cry for the white knight in shining armour to save her.
I went online and got a picture of a man that was her opposite in looks, balding chubby some tattoos like hers, put in the description that he was 5 foot 8 etc. I sent her a message hey i read your profile i found you interesting i would like to know more about you.
She replied no you are really not my type of man. There you have it.
Correction alot dont care about looks as i see many that dont even look like me but they are rich! I once met a woman who gave me a long hug and when she found out that I rent and do not have a house that was it! Remember, if you have alot of money and get tide to someone they are tide to your money!
Well seeing the price of housing today not sure people can afford houses anymore, and the price of renting is insane to so. Anyways for my part I will be single for the rest of my life. For the rest I guess those women have the right to ask or want what they want, its not my problem, I am off market so they can do what ever they want, its not going to affect me.
Its just insane to see what social media, reality shows Instagram, influencers have done to humanity, with false hope and false dream.
I went to breakfast with my mother yesterday and was looking at people, pretty much everyone is ordinary and close to below average in looks, there are no model looking men or women its a dream world.
Its not you its this place! My brother just came back from the States and was talking to so many friendly girls!
I don't know i seen some youtube video from the stats and its pretty similar to here, not sure were he went. Not saying women are not friendly but if you want a real relationship mmm.
He felt so alive there then was very depressed coming back! California has good vibes!
Hey there! I really appreciate this thread; it offers such varied perspectives. From my viewpoint, particularly in response to your post, it’s true that many people in their 40s and 50s choose to remain single. Over time, they often begin to enjoy the solitude that comes with it, finding peace and, ultimately, a deeper love for themselves.
Solitude can be quite addictive. Once you embrace that feeling, it can change your outlook on relationships, making them seem less appealing. In fact, this newfound self contentment often leads to personal growth, and interestingly, potential partners may appear unexpectedly when you’re not actively seeking them out.
It’s fascinating how solitude can transform your life. Instead of focusing on loving someone else, you learn to prioritize self love and self care, which can be a refreshing change from the dynamics of a relationship. You don’t even need to go out in search of companionship; as I’ve mentioned before, when you’re not looking, opportunities seem to come naturally.
Also, I’ve pointed out that sometimes engaging with a service provider can be cheaper than going on traditional dates. Wishing you the best on your new journey as a single person, exploring the beauty of solitude might just turn out to be more fulfilling than you expect!
To have opportunities at 40 plus age, I just don't see it unless you have a huge circle of friends, who know people who can introduce you. Forget online dating at least for me I found nothing good on there.
I had a women at work give me all the signs long glance eye contact smile but turned out she was talking to me and 5 other men at the same time, its good that she met a guy now because we work together but that shows you how the world is today.
All I see around me is people separated or divorce, so yeah i think i will pass my turn in this lifetime and stay away from the myth called love
With all due respect, my friend, adopting a negative outlook isn’t beneficial. I understand that your experiences with relationships and women haven't been very kind, but it’s ultimately your responsibility to shift that mindset and transform your attitude towards yourself and your beliefs about women and relationships. When you cultivate a positive mindset, the process of connecting with others becomes much smoother.
I’m not suggesting you dive into a relationship immediately, but by learning to love yourself, you’ll find that everything feels less overwhelming and more manageable. I used to share your perspective, but once I embraced the beauty of solitude, my experiences with dating and women improved significantly. I used to think negatively, telling myself that all women were untrustworthy and that I was better off alone. But let’s be honest, do you really want to be alone at 60?
It’s time to shift your perspective, establish structure and discipline in your life, and watch how everything can change for the better.
It’s way better to be single than someone tied to your money then taking you to court! So many stories and also men being scared to divorce cause of their money!
I know of this person who is with the same woman for 40 years spending insane amounts of money on her and every time I see him he is always paying! Got her a Mercedes different houses and tons of vacations ! The point is that he bought her it’s fake not love! He is also a Narcissistic! Their daughters now are no better! They got involved for material things not for the actual person
I got back into fitness last year training with a young lad at my job sadly he is leaving for another job. I change my physique for my age i look moderately good, i have no issue about loving myself and also not being a narcissist either i dont look like a male model.
Fear of being alone at 60, but when you lack options or have no options at all what can you do, were do you go to meet women, clubbing years are far behind me, I saw a women online dating and a guy at my job knows her she is best friend with is wife, he showed me 20 pictures of her in is cell then started laughing and left. What an asshole, after I help him with a few personal things the least he could have done is hey i will introduce you.
Sorry if i don't share your positive views on life and lost all hope of meeting someone, because i was not like that before. I have read books i have watch videos on youtube etc, and after failing and seeing what was left i rather cultivate my passions, take care of my pets that i just adopted, and just be happy in life. I have no hope that a women will magically appear in my life because I change my views and am more positive. Sorry this is wishful thinking.
Like I said all i see are separation divorce cheating, one last example there is a young man at my job who is 21 he moved in with is girlfriend 1y ago, he was paying everything for her and when she finish school they had plans to travel and visit Europe, he was talking about this a lot. I gave him a fair warning about paying everything for is girlfriend, I know so many that did and got fucked in the end.
Guess what happen, she finish school met another guy and broke up with him no thank you nothing.... were is the positive in that sorry.
With all due respect, I think most people would agree that women are at the peak of their physical attractiveness in their mid-20s and all else being equal are less physically desirable after 30. I didn't mean to imply a woman's worth is solely a function of her appearance as I don't believe that to be the case (I did mention the need for a connection) or that there aren't exceptions as we all know a few. However, for whatever reason known only to God or mother nature, it is generally true and has significant implications for dating later in life. Again, not meant to be toxic or hostile, just giving my perspective which seems to be consistent with most people's.
From this stand point no women ever dated me for money because i was always the type of guy to live pay by pay but i do admit that a lot do this. I was online dating and sent a message to this women 41 2 kids she replied that she was not attracted to me. For some odd reason she pop in my facebook account people you might know, she left her wall unprotected, she wrote and i quote hey girls this weekend i scored by, driving in a Mercedes of the year, the guy paid for everything and in the end i gave him nothing. Yeah you know i am out.
It’s not toxic it’s about real situations that I know of! Paying someone on an everyday basis to be with you it not a healthy thing and you are being used!
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Always a stupid sucker paying ! If he is rich she will take his money not very smart
Agreed. I'm a very infrequent member of the hobby these days for that reasons. I focus on building healthy connections. Unfortunately, I haven't had much success on the romance front.
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