I do agree taking care of my mother who walks with a cane i am living it right now. But for me at my age were to you want me to find someone. This is the big issue,. For my part i train and keep fit, have regular check up at my doctor and keep a healthy weight. I just don't see myself getting into a relationship (with life experience i have ) knowing its not for me and i will be miserable only to have someone with me. There are services you can use sometimes my mother needs to go to her doctor or dentist etc, i am at work i cannot take her she does not drive anymore, there is a service she uses that does that, someone will drive you to your appointment etc, service is free still my mother gives the person a good tip for time etc.
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Yeah, more men need to start actually caring about the people in their life. Women have friends while men often have "buddies", if that makes sense. What I mean by that is that women tend to support each other and care for each other in ways that men don't - I can call my girl friends crying about something but know very few men who can say the same about their guy friends, and I think that's quite sad. I wish more nen developed relationships that aren't just surface level and I wish they felt more comfortable with expressing feelings that aren't happy, horny or angry (so their support system could actually be there for them when needed, because it isn't good to bottle everything up).
Let me preface your statement if I may with "not all men". But yes, oh god yes, for the love of god dudes. Try what she's saying, I have my original bros from grade 7 and up and at this age (40), I can come to them with anything. I let them know I'm here, I care and I'll do anything to make their time on earth a little bit better.
Wonderfully said Julia xox
When you're a men you learn pretty fast that no one really gives a fuck about your problems. Might sound harsh and out of synch with the current messaging but that's the way it is. Doesn't mean we don't have people we can have deep conversations with or that we don't support each other when the need arises. Just that wasting hours crying on the phone is pointless.
I'm also not sure I agree with the generalizations that some have made about women having better social circles. In my very limited experience, women have a lot of intense short-lived friendly friendships whereas men have more longer, stable friendships. Its anecdotal, but one of my female coworkers made the remark that men are more loyal in friendship than women when I told her I was going camping for a week with my best friend from high school. I certainly have a better network of friends than my ex.
Most of my inner circle is composed of friends I've had since high school or CEGEP. Lost a few along the way but that's life. I'd say our issue is more about letting new people in after a while, but I think this is something everybody experiences as they get older.
This, also a lot of women don't support each other either they are great actors who pretend to care and backstab each other in the back. I have seen this so many times, from men and women.
At one point I was very active on facebook and had a lot of so called friends people from high school, college, people i used to hang out with, a lot of them came to me for help when they had issues with there computer, they never paid me, and all i did was free of course because having a computer is a luxury and no one should pay for repairs.
At some point i was layed off at a job, a lot of those people that I help worked in good companies Montreal and around and yet no one offer me hey send me your CV i can help you or I will talk to HR see if i can get you in.
All I got were sad replies sorry that sucks. Then I started to see the big picture each time we took my car to go out in Montreal because those people did not want to take there's. I got a parking ticket because i listen to one of those idiots and park meter would cost less money, he never offered to pay half, gas money never. Hey buy you a drink.
Now I am not saying there are no good people out there, I rebuild my circle of fiends, those people we can trust and are good people, but if I look back at my younger years the people there were shit.
I learn that in life you are alone, and you can't count on anyone, when the time comes you will see who your true friends are. When I started to charge for support in IT 70$/h i lost a lot of people around me yet a reasonable price if i need to reinstall the whole pc.
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