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Ask us anything part 3
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Best topic/question in quite a while, makes me rethink a few assumptions
It's very difficult to answer questions in all honesty here because really often sincere answers are interpreted as attacks by some people or as "fantasy killers" (I don't know how else to word that) so it's nice to hear that occasionally some ppl appreciate our responses 
Don't want to generalize too much (even if we do a lot of that here ) but i was taught to think about my partner's pleasure first and, i think, for some of us at least we put some pressure on ourselves because of that.
Meeting with you ladies is a different paradigm because yes, there's a notion of service, client oriented; but there's also a chemistry involved considering the intimacy of said "service" (really not a fan of the word.)
I mean you can dislike your dentist but if he's good you don't give a damn about connection, but if there's no connection with an SP or a client there's a good chance there won't be a second session.
That being said, being in this state of mind, i tend to try to think about my partner first but for many reasons mentioned before it may or may not be possible and it shouldn't be a problem.
That's what i need to take into account in my future encounters and, of course, it's not a rule as it can depend on many things.
) but i was taught to think about my partner's pleasure first and, i think, for some of us at least we put some pressure on ourselves because of that.Meeting with you ladies is a different paradigm because yes, there's a notion of service, client oriented; but there's also a chemistry involved considering the intimacy of said "service" (really not a fan of the word.)
I mean you can dislike your dentist but if he's good you don't give a damn about connection, but if there's no connection with an SP or a client there's a good chance there won't be a second session.
That being said, being in this state of mind, i tend to try to think about my partner first but for many reasons mentioned before it may or may not be possible and it shouldn't be a problem.
That's what i need to take into account in my future encounters and, of course, it's not a rule as it can depend on many things.
I also want to note something you guys might not like hearing..
While yes, some SP do orgasm during bookings, many also see it as part of their job and part of the performance to fake orgasms. I have never faked an orgasm but I can perfectly see why some would.. if you don't have an orgasm a client can take it personally, it can hurt his ego.
Strangely in my personal life I've never experienced that much pressure from any partner at all to climax .. I think it's because a lot of clients are themselves really orgasm focused and they want to forget that they are paying by making sure there is "chemistry" or "a connection" which in their minds leads to an explosive orgasm... Lol... If you reach out to any sexologist you'll know that for most women it can be more complicated to reach orgasm, for many factors, including cultural ones.
The truth is that the way you experience sexuality is just different depending on your gender, what's in between your legs, your sexual orientation, your personality type etc
While yes, some SP do orgasm during bookings, many also see it as part of their job and part of the performance to fake orgasms. I have never faked an orgasm but I can perfectly see why some would.. if you don't have an orgasm a client can take it personally, it can hurt his ego.
Strangely in my personal life I've never experienced that much pressure from any partner at all to climax .. I think it's because a lot of clients are themselves really orgasm focused and they want to forget that they are paying by making sure there is "chemistry" or "a connection" which in their minds leads to an explosive orgasm... Lol... If you reach out to any sexologist you'll know that for most women it can be more complicated to reach orgasm, for many factors, including cultural ones.
Sure it's a different paradigm but it's not because the lady doesn't cum that she doesn't like you and doesn't get along with you. I've had surprise orgasms with clients I actually felt really uncomfortable with. (Don't worry this doesn't involve anyone who is reading this) You can have an orgasm or feel physical pleasure while getting sexually assaulted or even molested as a child. It's complex. Meanwhile a lot of people have really fulfilling sexualities and aren't obsessed with reaching orgasm..Don't want to generalize too much (even if we do a lot of that here
Meeting with you ladies is a different paradigm because yes, there's a notion of service, client oriented; but there's also a chemistry involved considering the intimacy of said "service" (really not a fan of the word.)
I mean you can dislike your dentist but if he's good you don't give a damn about connection, but if there's no connection with an SP or a client there's a good chance there won't be a second session.
That being said, being in this state of mind, i tend to try to think about my partner first but for many reasons mentioned before it may or may not be possible and it shouldn't be a problem.
That's what i need to take into account in my future encounters and, of course, it's not a rule as it can depend on many things.
The truth is that the way you experience sexuality is just different depending on your gender, what's in between your legs, your sexual orientation, your personality type etc
Bon je vais écrire en Français parce que j'ai envie d'une part et que ça permet de mieux nuancer mes propos dans ma langue maternelle.
Effectivement l'orgasme peut être simulé, je n'ai aucune illusion là dessus, c'est aussi potentiellement valable pour les hommes d'ailleurs éjaculation ne signifiant pas systématiquement orgasme.
En ce qui me concerne en tout cas, je ne fais aucun lien d'aucune nature entre la chimie et l'orgasme, ce que j'entends par chimie seraient plutôt les affinités; en bref pouvoir avoir des échanges d'idées sans que la session soit remplie de silences génants.
Donc il s'agit plus de synergie intellectuelle que de performance physique; c'est un peu plus difficile à simuler.
De plus, dans la même logique, je ne fais pas de relations entre ladite synergie et l'orgasme puisqu'elle ne sont pas de même nature.
En fait l'élément de réflexion que je ressortais mais qui est très perso et ne concerne peut être que moi est que je ne devrais pas avoir les mêmes attentes des différentes rencontres que je fais pour de multiples paramètres, ce n'est pas la révélation du siècle j'en conviens, disons que je pensais à voix haute
Effectivement l'orgasme peut être simulé, je n'ai aucune illusion là dessus, c'est aussi potentiellement valable pour les hommes d'ailleurs éjaculation ne signifiant pas systématiquement orgasme.
En ce qui me concerne en tout cas, je ne fais aucun lien d'aucune nature entre la chimie et l'orgasme, ce que j'entends par chimie seraient plutôt les affinités; en bref pouvoir avoir des échanges d'idées sans que la session soit remplie de silences génants.
Donc il s'agit plus de synergie intellectuelle que de performance physique; c'est un peu plus difficile à simuler.
De plus, dans la même logique, je ne fais pas de relations entre ladite synergie et l'orgasme puisqu'elle ne sont pas de même nature.
En fait l'élément de réflexion que je ressortais mais qui est très perso et ne concerne peut être que moi est que je ne devrais pas avoir les mêmes attentes des différentes rencontres que je fais pour de multiples paramètres, ce n'est pas la révélation du siècle j'en conviens, disons que je pensais à voix haute
Non effectivement c'est tout à fait normal de vouloir établir une connexion avec une TDS.Bon je vais écrire en Français parce que j'ai envie d'une part et que ça permet de mieux nuancer mes propos dans ma langue maternelle.
Effectivement l'orgasme peut être simulé, je n'ai aucune illusion là dessus, c'est aussi potentiellement valable pour les hommes d'ailleurs éjaculation ne signifiant pas systématiquement orgasme.
En ce qui me concerne en tout cas, je ne fais aucun lien d'aucune nature entre la chimie et l'orgasme, ce que j'entends par chimie seraient plutôt les affinités; en bref pouvoir avoir des échanges d'idées sans que la session soit remplie de silences génants.
Donc il s'agit plus de synergie intellectuelle que de performance physique; c'est un peu plus difficile à simuler.
De plus, dans la même logique, je ne fais pas de relations entre ladite synergie et l'orgasme puisqu'elle ne sont pas de même nature.
En fait l'élément de réflexion que je ressortais mais qui est très perso et ne concerne peut être que moi est que je ne devrais pas avoir les mêmes attentes des différentes rencontres que je fais pour de multiples paramètres, ce n'est pas la révélation du siècle j'en conviens, disons que je pensais à voix haute
Je réfléchis beaucoup à ces sujets là dernièrement et j'en ai beaucoup à dire, mais pour plusieurs raisons je préférerais le faire en message privé... ( Ou en personne
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So as I was reading others responses. I feel more normal, because looking online this question seems to be in the not really understood category.
Yes they are different orgasms, that tend to feel differently. Personally I might add I notice the release of the orgasms also come from different sources for me, resulting in different textures depending on the kind of release.
I can also add another lvl to this. For me an orgasm recieved while going anal tends to be a lot more powerful and all consuming than either of the other 2. One of the reasons it is reserved for my relationship is because of the degree of emotional attachment I feel in the afterglow/aftercare that follows it.
I told an SP Ive seen frequently "good thing I dont live in Mtl or id see you all the time and wouldnt be able to look at normal women the same way"
Would you be offended ?
Lol obviously I didnt mean SPs are abnormal people but hoping she interpreted it charitably
Would you be offended ?
Lol obviously I didnt mean SPs are abnormal people but hoping she interpreted it charitably
May indeed raise an eyebrow or two. You'll see next time you call her for an appointment ...
Quick question ... when you visit a SP, do you consider yourself as a "normal" person?
I'd brush it off, but I wouldn't like hearing it... I'm sure she is still going to see you but I think you realize you said something weird which is important.
Maybe the definition of 'normal women' implies she's a 'super' woman, so it's all complimentary lol.
I have the feeling that's not exactly what was implied lol. I'm definitely special
but it's not because I'm a SPWhat?! Isn't that what the S stands for?I have the feeling that's not exactly what was implied lol. I'm definitely special
It absolutely is. I'm a special princess.
I disagree,I have the feeling that's not exactly what was implied lol. I'm definitely special
It takes a very special kind of woman to be able to live the life of an SP.
Men can be attracted by a gorgeous woman, it is in their DNA, but I am sure the majority of your clientele are not exactly James Bond types and you wouldn’t give them the time of day if they weren’t paying you. I don’t know how you are able to do it, I couldn’t that is for sure.
Most guys are lucky to have SP that not only overlook your physical challenges but are kind and nice ladies as well.
I don’t envy the challenges and the lifestyle Sp live it can’t be easy and for me yes they are special.and the ones I have gotten to know for many years are amazing and I will always be grateful for being able to have them in my life.
How many times a week do you have sex with your partner?
lmao my phone corrected it for ‘parent’ instead of ‘partner’. Good thing I caught it before pressing send
lmao my phone corrected it for ‘parent’ instead of ‘partner’. Good thing I caught it before pressing send
I was actually joking. I just mean that being a SP doesn't define who I am. I was not born an escort and I will not die an escort. I am who I am.
You'd be surprised how attractive and interesting some of my clients are
but yes we have to see clients who are difficult. It doesn't bother me that someone has ''physical challenges'' as you put it, it's more a question of attitude and respect most of the time.It's true that a lot of sex workers I know are really interesting women, and you have to have certain qualities in order to succeed in this industry, particularly as an indy provider.. Not all providers are kind and open minded people.. but generally I would say that you need to be imaginative, inventive and adaptative.. It also takes a good dose of empathy and problem solving skills.
Ask anything?
I hope this is relatable or answerable:
I have been using viagra every time I see an escort, but only the last two times, I couldn’t climax. But in between, I couldn’t wait to see an SP, so relied on « self satisfaction ». Also to mention I have been seeing only 1 SP the last month, and was able to climax the first 5-6 times I saw her.
I don’t know if it has to do with the fact I have been infatuated with her and enjoy her company more than I do the sex part. Or is it that the self gratification has gotten in the way of climaxing thru intercourse.
Is this relatable or understandable?
Any thoughts?
Thanks,
Massagecentre
I hope this is relatable or answerable:
I have been using viagra every time I see an escort, but only the last two times, I couldn’t climax. But in between, I couldn’t wait to see an SP, so relied on « self satisfaction ». Also to mention I have been seeing only 1 SP the last month, and was able to climax the first 5-6 times I saw her.
I don’t know if it has to do with the fact I have been infatuated with her and enjoy her company more than I do the sex part. Or is it that the self gratification has gotten in the way of climaxing thru intercourse.
Is this relatable or understandable?
Any thoughts?
Thanks,
Massagecentre
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