My brief story on how i became a hobbyist.....and why i'm still a hobbyist
I was 34 & single for 2 years. I was still a 'player' around the club scene, but got fed up with the usual one-night stand thing, mostly because several of the women i'd wind up with for the one-night would get all dramatic on me when they realized i had no intention of getting into a relationship with them after a night of intense sex. What could i say? I was horny & willing to go, and when i'd find an attractive partner who felt the same way i did, off we went! However, once the deed was over & done with, i no longer had any interest whatsoever in my part-time lover since at the time, a relathionship was the last thing i wanted after spending over a decade in various long-term relationships that eventually failed.
So while i decided to cool down my night life, i discovered the internet & it led to websites & forums dedicated to the sex industry. At first, sites dedicated to stripclubs caught my interest, which led to reading reviews about escorts. I realized that maybe this was the ultimate 'no-strings attached' sex that i had been looking for. Sure, there was a cost involved, but without the drama. So curiosity got the best of me later that year & during a trip to Montreal to watch the Leafs/Habs in their opener, i saw my first escort, who was named Monica. No doubt her name was chosen after Monica Lewinski, and she was a lot of fun!
I then got back in the dating scene, and every 6 months or so i'd make a trip to Montreal to watch either hockey, the Expos or a music concert. I love live music as much as i love sports! Along the way, i met a couple of sps i liked named Andrea & Racquel, who became a regular during every visit. A year later, Racquel recommended a couple of other girls that i should see, and i began to experiment. Eventually i began to befriend some of the girls i'd meet, which only encouraged me to visit Montreal more often.
The next thing you know, i was becoming more & more involved with the business. I now had my own website (Doc Holliday's Saloon, which later became Rick's Cafe Americain) and at one time i had over 800 members which consisted of hobbyists, sps & a couple of agency owners who would be weekly guests in my chatroom. It's through these two sites that i met several hobbyists who later became very good friends of mine. It was also through my posts on a couple of popular boards at the time (plus my site) that some sps got into contact with me and wanted to meet up.
I was barely past my mid-30's and was by then way over my head with the business. It felt like i was living two separate lives: my 'Doc Holliday' life when i'd be in Mtl, and my personal life away from Mtl. It came a point where i began to struggle between the two. I was visiting Mtl more & more frequently, and for longer periods. I also began to see more & more girls. During one trip, i counted 10 different girls & a couple of them were repeats. I also realized that i saw many of the girls not because i was horny or needed to be with a woman, but because i had the urge to write a review. Indeed, i was hooked!!
At the time, i also felt i had no business seeing escorts at my age. Especially when i didn't really have difficultly finding willing 'sex partners' whenever i'd go out & put my mind to it. However, what this 'hobby' also did was to make me lazy socially. I'd go out & didn't feel like putting an effort in trying to hook up with somebody anymore, since i realized all i had to do was take a trip to Montreal, pick up the phone & order an sp. I could actually chose who i wanted to be with, from hair color, eye color, body type, height, weight, services offered, etc. It was so damn easy!!
However, as the years went by, my life changed for the better & i got a good grip on my life. I was in my early forties by then & realized that i'd wind up going broke if i didn't put the brakes on my wild lifestyle, which included calling for an sp whenever i'd get the urge or needed some company. Although i still felt that i was still too young to see sps, i realized that if i didn't get things under control, i'd wind up being a john for life, which at the time turned me off. I didn't want to be in my 60's & probably having to work simply to maintain a habit. My plan all along was to retire in my mid-50's and enjoy life, and unless i cut down on my many trips to Mtl & hobbyied moderately, it wasn't going to happen.
For the past few years, i mostly travel to Montreal during the summer months, and usually only see a few girls that i've seen in the past & know for sure i'll have a good time with. Girls sometimes ask me why i see escorts, and i explain to them that my reasons have changed several times over the years. Today, i tell them that when i happen to be in Montreal, why shouldn't i see escorts? I tell them that for me, it's fun & that life is short, so i like to make the most out of the opportunities offered to me.
All in moderation, of course.
