Hello all.
I think this is a very interesting thread, but a lot of you are confused. Sex is NEVER free! When you go on dates you pay for restaurants, drinks etc. You pay to her them talk about inane bullshit that's not even remotely interesting. (and even if it is, it gets old really quick, I'm not someone who enjoys small talk and i'm not gonna want to hear your problems). I don't get the you have all the time in the world at 25 thing. Maybe if you just finish high school and went straight to working, but if you study (for real that is) you have like 80 hres of workload and not much else left to do but unwind. Unless you are good looking by society's standards, you are not gonna score PERIOD! I don't care about the opinions of douchebags and pretty girls because they can't possibly comprehend what it is to be average or ugly. Also, if you don't like what most people like, you are not gonna connect with them. The older you get the worst it gets. And that maturity bullshit about having family and kids...get off your high horse! You are not special, you are doing exactly what society is telling you to do because you are brainwashed to think that is what every body must do. You are no different than the 8 billions others on this planet. It doesn't make you more mature than me. Get over yourselves.
So, when you don't fit in this pretty (illusion) picture, escorts are the way to go. I lost my virginity to one at 24 and never looked back.
what's good is i never had any problems with how to spend my money the way a relationship would make me. And i don't overspend ever. If it wrecks you financially you need to stop period. If you lack emotional connection (Something i never did need and no I'm not joking) than stop also because you will never find it here. We all have our crutch to fill the void in our lives (a void that will never be fully filled. It's human nature) so if to you, it becomes to be like gambling or hard drugs or whatever seek help.
Too many men get in a relationship and it might be great in the beginning, but it slowly turns into a rut. A routine. And SO many compromises. If your stuck with someone who isn't open-minded enough in terms of sexual fantasies, your shit out of luck. And even if its great in that department, you have the rest of everything to deal with (again, compromises). Why the fuck would I quit with all the accessibility of it all? Money? yes, of course If i'm in a slump I can't hobby as much I want to. But the good thing is, as i get older, My libido is decreasing (and thank god for that, 10 year ago It was off the charts!) so I don't spend much on it anymore.
Also, I cannot possibly be attracted to ordinary women , i just can't. The irony is, of course, I'm not much to look at either. But i can't force myself to find an average looking girl attractive. Even if she is smart enough to have a decent conversation with, I'm not gonna feel like trying to go any further. Mind you these days, most females think we owe them everything, are shallow materialistic bitches without common sense (just look at the profiles on dating sites, Prince charming doesn't exist morons!) and the older they get, the crazier they are (single or married). Too much baggage, too much whining like spoiled brats, Always about their needs. One way street compromises. Married men giving up in order not to get into an arguement even if it pisses them off...(sigh!)
And you castrated québécois males are enjoying being treated like dogs it seems! So many of you are dominated by your wifes and girlfriends it's unrreal! In other parts of the world, it's the exact opposite and it is brutal! (and many ways worse of course don't throw bricks at me yet!). An equilibrium has never been reached. Man/women relationships are a FUCK NO in my book. I also don't want children so there is another strike on my record. My interests do not blend with theirs, call me selfish all you want, but to force myself like so many of you to go so far off what really makes you happy just to get laid...PASS!
That's why the hobby is the best alternative. No hassles, you cut the middleman and you actually save money. but, I hear you say, what about love? Believing in love is like believing in santa claus, it's cute when you're a kid but you had better grow out of it quick. It is a social construct in order to get the human specie to reproduce and nothing else. Just like marriage is a religious institution created to keep the flock of sheeple in check. I believe in neither. Happiness? A concept nothing more. It differs from person to person. I've also never seen a relationship, marriage etc where I said " I wouldn't mind being in that one myself ". I am not miserable in the least. I have reach the point of no return. I'm now too old for the 20 something crowd and the 30,40's are not a viable option. I will hobby until my body disagrees with me or the ladies reject me for being too old.
I just wanted to share my perspective on the hobby as someone in the discussed age group.
