Patron,
I am a middle aged attorney who was at one time a young attorney working those kinds of hours and not having much of a social life. So I can speak with some experience and know that many of the things you say are true.
However, one thing that has changed especially for attorneys is that romance has gone online. One of the attorneys I work with is now on his 3rd marriage and marriage #3 seems to be the charm. After the divorce from wife #2 he started using dating websites. He met myriad women on those websites, and some were quite attractive. I will never forget when we were both working late one night and he invited me into his office where he showed me on his computer how one of the websites worked. I forget the name of the website, but basically it was a pay site and you fed into the computer the age, weight, height, race, hair color, tit size, educational credentials etc., of the woman you were looking for, and the site spat out candidates. And he showed me all his candidates and asked me to help him choose. Which was kind of funny because he was asking me what I would go for, and what I go for and what he goes for are 2 different things. He met many attractive women using that dating website.
Ultimately, after dating many women, he met wife #3 on one of those websites. What wife #3 had going for her that the 1st two wives did not was (1) a very high educational level (she had a Master's Degree) and (2) a certain independent mindedness. She was also a lot younger (14 years younger, I believe) and from another country originally. She had gone through school and gotten a good job but she was looking for a stable professional man. It seems like a good match and they have now been married about 10 years with 2 young children.
Anyway, right after his divorce from wife #2, this particular attorney and I used to go to bars. He is a major league schmoozer. He even talked one woman he met at a bar into asking me on a date, although I politely declined, because I was not attracted to her and after talking to her for a while I realized she was a mental case. He just realized he did not have enough time to schmooze, as there are only 24 hours in a day. He was looking for a wife, not to get laid randomly. Had he wanted to get laid randomly, he could have.
The point is that the young attorney has Internet dating choices available that did not exist in years past. There are also assorted Sugar Daddy websites which some attorney friends I know have used. They are basically populated by college girls looking to pay education getting laid by older professional guys. You do not have to pay as much for such arrangements as you think. These girls are kind of semi-pros, they are not really professional escorts but college type girls who have financial issues and are looking for one guy they can see on a semi-regular basis and provide sexual favors to in exchange for money. In some cases, from what I hear, guys using these websites are paying the same amount as what we spend on escorts. Yet the girls on these websites do not really thing of themselves as escorts but as a "friend who gives benefits." To them it is not prostitution at all. Which is kind of odd because it is a form of prostitution for sure.
I am a middle aged attorney who was at one time a young attorney working those kinds of hours and not having much of a social life. So I can speak with some experience and know that many of the things you say are true.
However, one thing that has changed especially for attorneys is that romance has gone online. One of the attorneys I work with is now on his 3rd marriage and marriage #3 seems to be the charm. After the divorce from wife #2 he started using dating websites. He met myriad women on those websites, and some were quite attractive. I will never forget when we were both working late one night and he invited me into his office where he showed me on his computer how one of the websites worked. I forget the name of the website, but basically it was a pay site and you fed into the computer the age, weight, height, race, hair color, tit size, educational credentials etc., of the woman you were looking for, and the site spat out candidates. And he showed me all his candidates and asked me to help him choose. Which was kind of funny because he was asking me what I would go for, and what I go for and what he goes for are 2 different things. He met many attractive women using that dating website.
Ultimately, after dating many women, he met wife #3 on one of those websites. What wife #3 had going for her that the 1st two wives did not was (1) a very high educational level (she had a Master's Degree) and (2) a certain independent mindedness. She was also a lot younger (14 years younger, I believe) and from another country originally. She had gone through school and gotten a good job but she was looking for a stable professional man. It seems like a good match and they have now been married about 10 years with 2 young children.
Anyway, right after his divorce from wife #2, this particular attorney and I used to go to bars. He is a major league schmoozer. He even talked one woman he met at a bar into asking me on a date, although I politely declined, because I was not attracted to her and after talking to her for a while I realized she was a mental case. He just realized he did not have enough time to schmooze, as there are only 24 hours in a day. He was looking for a wife, not to get laid randomly. Had he wanted to get laid randomly, he could have.
The point is that the young attorney has Internet dating choices available that did not exist in years past. There are also assorted Sugar Daddy websites which some attorney friends I know have used. They are basically populated by college girls looking to pay education getting laid by older professional guys. You do not have to pay as much for such arrangements as you think. These girls are kind of semi-pros, they are not really professional escorts but college type girls who have financial issues and are looking for one guy they can see on a semi-regular basis and provide sexual favors to in exchange for money. In some cases, from what I hear, guys using these websites are paying the same amount as what we spend on escorts. Yet the girls on these websites do not really thing of themselves as escorts but as a "friend who gives benefits." To them it is not prostitution at all. Which is kind of odd because it is a form of prostitution for sure.
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