Ask us anything part 2
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I'm curious about when you first heard about this job and what you thought about it back then. I found out about it from a movie when I was in 6th or 7th grade. Also, I'd like to know how old you were when you started working in this field. Did your thoughts about the job change from when you first heard about it until you started working?
I've done overnights on first dates a couple times, but I know this isn't the norm - most of my overnights are usually with clients I've known for a while. I don't mind either way but I typically fall asleep easier with people I know a little lol.
My thing is usually if we don't know each other, I suggest booking a few hours first (or maybe a dinner date) and then if the vibes are fun, we can add the difference for me to stay the night. That way, if we don't vibe all that well, I can just go back home after the first portion of the date, at no loss for the client.
Given that with modern medicine it is very well possible to completely prevent the spread of HIV by use of the appropriate prophylactics along with Prep, is it inappropriate to ask a provider if he/she is using Prep? Also, just out of curiosity, I see a lot of providers mention that they are vaccinated for COVID but no one seems to mention whether or not they take Prep. That seems like it would be a favorable thing to mention.
I don't believe in this argument, that one wants to pay the rate that was agreed to at the time of the booking. Because what happens if the provider lowers their rates or offers a promotion by the time you see her? Will you still insist on paying the highest rate that was agreed upon booking, or you will want to take advantage of the promotion or the current lower rate? Guys wants to pay the lowest rate, not the rate that was ongoing when booking.
So my advice would be to always pay the highest rates to stay in her good graces, and you'll stand out that way.
Thanks for the reply Alisha. It didn't even occur to me that someone might use information on use of Prep by a provider maliciously - definitely never thought of someone using it as a green light for assault. This is one of the reasons these message boards are so wonderful. It is important to understand the perspectives that others in the industry must have in order to remain safe. No doubt - Prep makes sense for a hobbyist concerned with contracting HIV. It's a very good insurance policy for accidents such as broken condoms, etc. I am a bit surprised that providers in Canada cannot get prep more readily if they want it regardless of whether or not they are practicing safely with the use of condoms. In theory it should be relatively easy and straight forward for a doctor to write for it with very few invasive questions. And, even though it is ridiculously expensive, it can be subsidized by the company that makes it to make it incredibly affordable.
Just an FYI for anyone interested, there are preventative measures for gonorrhea and syphilis as well - taking the appropriate antibiotic within a set time frame after initial contact for instance. A google search will lead to more info for anyone that is interested.
Once again - the reply was appreciated.
A depraved maniac will jump on any opportunity to get to his goal.
I didn't realize it was a job when a friend of mine joked about us getting into it when we were in sec 5. Then once i had to start adulting on my own, after a failed relationship with an alcoholic, and remembered my friend jokeing about being an escort.
Picked up the local paper for my area, and saw escort ads, i called 1 and an agency car picked me up that night. Back when i was 18.
Did it for 6 months and quit to lead a less judged profession, and life, wanting marriage and children in my life and not believing that would be in my future if i continued. But suffered the judgement for my youthful decision ever since, till i returned to it in my 40s.
When i started i didn't fully understand what it was, but i was horney and was tired of being played by guys and figured i might as well make bank, since men would treat a regular single woman looking for love and a relationship, worse than they treat women in this field some how.
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I think it is your choice to ask if a provider uses prep, but the only ones i would think to ask are the ones i would assume it is important for them to be... like the ones with the disease would want to ensure the provider is safe from them if anything happened.
Because no one really wants to handle medication side effects unless they have to, and not everyone can tolerate all medications. We get tested regularly and protect ourselves the best we can. But some measures are just too much to assume just because we see people we are protected every possible way.
Do you use it? just in case you might meet someone one day, and something happen that the meds are of use. And would you want to keep taking it if it makes you feel destabilized in some way from side effects?
It is safer to assume no one is taking it and treat all visits with safty in mind.
And medication coverage is often for treatment... anything preventative often comes out of our own pockets. Prep is too expensive for the off chance. And condoms are a much more affordable method of prevention... also adds to why asking for bb services is inappropriate as well.
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Aren't we due for a "ask us anything part 3" thread?
I respectfully disagree. The fee should be at the agreed upon rate when the arrangements were made, be it higher or lower.
The rate advertised when booking is good etiquette, and advantages the client. What I'm saying is that strangely when the rate is lower, or when there's a promotion at the time of the appointment, suddenly "good etiquette" is not on the card anymore since it's disadvantageous to them, they want the lowest rates. My point was that it's not the "agreed rate upon booking" that they want, but the lowest.
Expecting the lower rate would be wrong as well.
Let's look at it strictly from a business stand point. Baring unforeseen circumstances I am assuming a SP knows when she plans on increasing rates. Depending on how far out the date is I think the deposit should cover and protect from any price increase. If the price is lower at the time of the date then at the SP discretion to keep price or offer lower rate (might want to reward a loyal customer or try to encourage repeat business)
I like hearing dirty talk. But i am not good at it myself. Apparently it may happen, but i don't realize when it counts as dirty talk, and am pretty occuart.
What turns me on is reminders of my real life situation. I am not good with playing pretend, and when someone says something off to me, it is an uncontrolled reaction to correct which can kill a mood under the wrong circumstances.
So for me it is the reminder that they are enjoying my masters slave. And the words "my ... " is better used as "your master's ..." when someone uses my, i cant help but say "i am not yours, i am my masters." That or i love hearing how master is lucky to have me as his.
And what turns me off is someone insisting on anal dirty talk, as anal is not an option in my professional life, and it puts me on edge that they may try something I am not ok with. It snapps me out of the mood to try and enjoy myself and puts me in instant defensive mode ready to jump out of their grasp if they dare try what is coming out of their mouth.
It never happened that I knew when I wanted to increase my rates. I know some advertise it, but my experience is that most don't and do it when they feel like it. I would say it's true with most businesses, I never see one advertising a rate increase, or I never noticed.
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