Ask us anything part 2

[Giselle Montreal]

And narcissistic temptation?…..
I heard some girls just do it to bring some curiosity to the clients. And also I heard it’s harder for the boarder to arrest black girls because the system is less efficient on us so some will play around with the blur by blurring just their nose lol.
I personally know the system will work on me. I have so many distinguished features. Even a few weeks ago a client recognize me from my hairstyle and body at a party lolll (scary)!

I was mostly comparing today with ten-years ago. I have seen a major change in the blur between when I first started in 2014, and the last few years with the growing popularity of social media. Blurs were thicker and more covering, I don't remember seeing only a nose blurred or a thin blur where the facial expressions could be seen.

But our family would recognize us easily despite the blur, especially with the kind of blur I see these days, family and friends know us beyond our facial features.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

But I’m getting a little concerned now that I know it’s so easy to un blur my face. I have no chance with the boarder… will drop my American dream

Many providers are showing their faces and are not stopped at the border. So it is definitely not the only variable for custom agents to cross-reference our ads with real-world information!

 

[ThunderLipps]

Yeah you are right!
sometimes I forget that I’m a baby SW. hihi
But I’m getting a little concerned now that I know it’s so easy to un blur my face. I have no chance with the boarder… will drop my American dream

Would the border actually have the means to use your ad picture to be able to know who you are when you cross?

 

[Jaxan]

It's interesting to hear some of the inner workings and thought process, you ladies have to work through on a daily basis.

I'll apologize in advance if this has been asked before (too many pages!), but what are the biggest pros/cons of working at an agency vs being an Indy? I know the obvious major difference is the pay, but the sacrifice is the additional time spent screening/scheduling/etc, with the caveat that you have more control over who are acceptable clients.

I know I have met some agency SP's who could easily be Indy's, but chose not to. And also some Indy's who are not well prepared to handle all that comes with being self employed/managed.

 

[ThunderLipps]

Edit : sometimes they go as far as finding old ads of 10years ago. Or if they don’t find anything to actually stop you they will still ban you because it’s too « suspicious » your traveling itinerary. They can ask to have access to your phone etc.

But you don't use your real names, just trying to get my head around as to how they would know it is you when you drive across the border.

 

[xooxxo]

But you don't use your real names, just trying to get my head around as to how they would know it is you when you drive across the border.

Facial recognition software

 

[Jaxan]

But you don't use your real names, just trying to get my head around as to how they would know it is you when you drive across the border.

I had a friend, who got into trouble with the law as a juvenile, and was turned away at the border. I assume the ppl who are most affected, are ones who have a record, or had their identity flagged with suspicious activities. This is also probably why SP's are afraid to report any criminal activities to the police.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

But you don't use your real names, just trying to get my head around as to how they would know it is you when you drive across the border.

We have to give our ID and real-world info to almost every advertisement platform we use. Travelling patterns, persons you travel with that are flagged already, advertising platforms collaborating, we're not sure but I think it's simply a blend of everything.

 

[UncleBuck]

Here’s a couple interesting ones

Does the industry have any go-to ‘operating’ solutions for Indy/Agency/MP?
I.E. organized/sharable schedule platform, client/payment/expense records, universal blacklist, etc. Or is everyone out here really just using excel sheets, WhatsApp groups, and their stock OS schedule app?

Also, for SWs who actually declare their high income — since cash businesses are the most likely to be audited, what are the more common ways it’s done to come out squeaky clean?

 

[ThunderLipps]

Facial recognition software

Did a search and they do have the ability but is only used if the border guard is suspicious of your entry, then you go to a secondary check point to increase their search.
Thanks for pointing that out, never expected that.

 

[LC18]

Here’s a couple interesting ones

Does the industry have any go-to ‘operating’ solutions for Indy/Agency/MP?
I.E. organized/sharable schedule platform, client/payment/expense records, universal blacklist, etc. Or is everyone out here really just using excel sheets, WhatsApp groups, and their stock OS schedule app?

Also, for SWs who actually declare their high income — since cash businesses are the most likely to be audited, what are the more common ways it’s done to come out squeaky clean?

Those are questions I’d personally only feel comfortable answering to a fellow SW. Maybe the others here have different feelings about it.

 

[LC18]

Did a search and they do have the ability but is only used if the border guard is suspicious of your entry, then you go to a secondary check point to increase their search.
Thanks for pointing that out, never expected that.

Yes, like Giselle mentioned, they will get suspicious if an attractive young woman travels alone often and wears expensive clothes.

They might not assume she’s a SW, they might think she is carrying d r u g s. They’ll flag her regardless and eventually when they have gather enough evidences they’ll question her at the borders. That’s when it gets complicated.

I always tell my friends to dress modestly and to have a good story for the reason they’re travelling.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Also, for SWs who actually declare their high income — since cash businesses are the most likely to be audited, what are the more common ways it’s done to come out squeaky clean?

Well, I would say the same for anyone who has a business and is self-employed: being financially responsible; paying your sales taxes, instalment payments and taxes on time; and not making mistakes and irregularities in your books are good ways to avoid drawing attention to yourself.

 

[UncleBuck]

Those are questions I’d personally only feel comfortable answering to a fellow SW. Maybe the others here have different feelings about it.

I wasn’t expecting specifics, was just hoping for a yes or no as to wether actual tools did exist for these things, or if most just break their heads ‘Macgyver’ing their op solutions through it all.
I apologize if the inquiry came across as intrusive or made you uncomfortable.

Well, I would say the same for anyone who has a business and is self-employed: being financially responsible; paying your sales taxes, instalment payments and taxes on time; and not making mistakes and irregularities in your books are good ways to avoid drawing attention to yourself.

I was always under the impression they weren’t, but a fellow Merbite just filled me in on how Escort earnings in Canada are legal and can simply be reported using industry code 812900, rendering my original question totally baseless . Thanks for answering, though!

 

[Julia Sky]

I wasn’t expecting specifics, was just hoping for a yes or no as to wether actual tools did exist for these things

My answer to this would be : this is 2024.... Also, you're on a review board. Most clients fear being scammed and most sex workers fear being killed. Put two and two together and you can come to a logical, intelligent conclusion haha... I don't mean to sound dry but the question feels infantilizing at worse or naive at best.

I was always under the impression they weren’t, but a fellow Merbite just filled me in on how Escort earnings in Canada are legal and can simply be reported using industry code 812900, rendering my original question totally baseless . Thanks for answering, though!

Even if it wasn't legal we would have to declare income. Even criminals declare something! I know a lot of escorts who declare with another job title instead. Doesn't really matter what job you say you do as long as you pay your taxes.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I was always under the impression they weren’t, but a fellow Merbite just filled me in on how Escort earnings in Canada are legal and can simply be reported using industry code 812900, rendering my original question totally baseless . Thanks for answering, though!

I declare as an escort, yes.

 

[Wearethenight]

I have have travelled the border several times by plane and car as a permanent resident. Even after my report to the police after a non paying client tried to rip me off after not paying for service. I have shared my id info on another via advertising platform but stopped as now I only see regulars and book one or two appointments every two weeks. On long weekends I have gone to the state of New York, flew up to Florida several times Vermont etc and have not been flagged. Maybe it's because I am Israeli, my civilian job or they never assume a Jewish girl is crossing for nefarious reasons lol.

I have been asked this several times, what are you doing, where are you staying, what do I do for a living ( quote my civilian job) do you know anyone where I am staying etc my rule of thumb if you want to cross the border by plane or car is not to look obvious, I don't go dress to the nines, I remove my fake nails if I have any and I don't travel with luxury goods as they already know at my civilian job that I would be able to afford Gucci ,haha as I assume they already know my salary from glimpsing my Israeli passport or other key indicators. My rule of thumb Is be confident, do not dress expensively, just be as normal as possible and look like a ,"civilian". This could change however if Trump gets back into office. I don't work in the US but just travel for leisure. I had colleagues of mine stopped because of how they look and if you scream "sex worker" or have lots of visible tattoos the American border will judge harshly as as happened to some colleagues who had lifetime bans which is very unfair.

 

[SmokenPoke]

Question for SPs.

What are your thoughts/opinions on submissive males, request for you to be in charge?

For the most part I've been told its not a problem for them to be in control, but then they begin asking me what to do. And So I am confused.

 

[OHenry]

Of course it’s presented as a female thing because who designed society? Men!
Who designed society thinking it was okay for a man to cheat but not okay for a woman to do the same? Men ! And they will try to use the Bible or anything religious to back them up.

All I know is that as well as women exchange energy, men does too if not more than women. They are simply not as connected to their bodies as women do.

Yes Men mostly “ designed “ society and you have to agree that Women more or less benefit from it. No one is condoning cheating for men or women, but it is much easier for women to cheat than a man. I don’t care about the Bible or any other book and women can use the Bible to justify their actions as well.
I’m talking about the natural world where the male is biologically motivated to spread genetics but our social pressures discourage promiscuity , for both sexes. Men do not have wombs so the consequences of sex are much more serious for a women.

 

[Julia Sky]

Yes Men mostly “ designed “ society and you have to agree that Women more or less benefit from it.

Hum. This is such an oversimplification. The reason it isn't women who "designed" society is literally because for centuries we were seen as possessions and we didn't have rights, let alone the right to design anything that wasn't a household, a meal, and taking care of babies. We don't "benefit from the society men built" we just "finally have a right to exist as people alongside men in the society they were hoping to build mostly for themselves". Not to mention many things we have thanks to women of the past, on a much smaller scale because of the reasons I just cited, but it's still disingenuous to say that women benefit from the society that men built. We would probably benefit a lot more from a society that was built by both sexes equally.

our social pressures discourage promiscuity , for both sexes.

Mostly for women. Men are very often praised for having ("scoring") multiple partners but women are vilified for it. People often imply that a woman's value resides in her sexual past (or present)... Not saying it never happens to men but not nearly as often


EDIT : this is a thread for asking questions, I'm not sure why it turned into a thread about soul ties and patriarchy (again because you brought the subject back) tbh. My thought is that someone who believes sex tarnishes the soul probably shouldn't be on an escort review board. I can't believe this has to be said haha