Ask us anything part 2

[DouMan]

It might be a good idea to make a separate thread for Montreal Vacationing/Visiting information and recommendations.

Fully agree even though the title may have led to think that the subjects may be more general for those now dropping in.

Although the questions are interesting, they are getting further and further from the subject of the OP which was basically concerning questions asked to the ladies and generously and very openly answered by them concerning our hobby.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

It is a bit misleading as the first post doesn't mention anything, and "us" could refer to the MERB community, the first thread being locked and long gone! The title could define "us", which refers to providers.

 

[lovethaifood]

It is a bit misleading as the first post doesn't mention anything, and "us" could refer to the MERB community, the first thread being locked and long gone! The title could define "us", which refers to providers.

I apologize for asking tourists questions, I didn't realize when I read the topic ask us anything. I will keep posts here SW/Client centric from now on.

 

[LC18]

I asked to lock the first thread but it’s still available here

 

[LC18]

Clients:

Do you book SPs that don’t have any face pics? Or do you avoid blurred out ladies?

 

[lovethaifood]

Clients:

Do you book SPs that don’t have any face pics? Or do you avoid blurred out ladies?

When they have a body like yours it doesn't matter!!!

 

[DouMan]

Clients:

Do you book SPs that don’t have any face pics? Or do you avoid blurred out ladies?

I don't have any problem with not seeing the face as long as description is honest and photos we do see are recent and not outrageously photoshopped.

The choice to show or not your face is personal and is to be respected and not challenged.

A little side note ... some that do not show their face may use this as an extra screening item. If the John keeps asking for a face pic it is a good indicator that he is too ignorant to respect the lady's limits, therefore "next".

 

[LC18]

A little side note ... some that do not show their face may use this as an extra screening item. If the John keeps asking for a face pic it is a good indicator that he is too ignorant to respect the lady's limits, therefore "next".

I haven’t been asked that in a long time, I even forgot it was a thing.

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

This leads me to another question.
Is there a high and low season when it comes to clients? Does that differ from SP to SP depending on the clientele or is it mostly the same for all SPs?

For this winter being my second winter in the industry as being an independent I do Think winter can be slower in general for most SP.
Less people are willing to go out and spend money after Christmas and new year; it’s dark too soon; too cold; snow; people are depressed; more emotional etc.
Even though I have been on hiatus half of the month of December and January I have been really busy compared to last year : longer appointments so more money regardless of my rate increase. I have come to a place in my journey were I’m prioritizing being a low volume provider to actually have a real connection with my clients and prioritize semi exclusive arrangements.
For sure in the winter time I get less inquiries either real ones or just time wasters than in the summer time.
But I heard that for some; winter is the best time for them. I guess because they are mainly in hotter climates anyway (Miami for example)!

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

Questions for providers:

1. What are your thoughts on tips/tipping? (Didn't see anything in search, apologies if this was already asked)

2. Do you have clients you look forward to seeing, forged a connection both ways?

I know it's something I've always been interested in, difficult to know if a provider is genuinely into you or just really good at their job. The thought that they look forward to the visits as well is a major turn on.

1- I do really appreciate tips especially after the meeting because it makes me feel like I did a great job and it makes more excited to see you the next time. But it’s not mandatory at all. I have a few clients that have never tipped me money but will always brings me little things or will be simply so amazing with me that it compensates for the tip.

2- OMG yes! I do generally get along well with my clients but there are clients with who I clicked so much that I will literally be over super excited to see them again. And sometimes I tend to reach out to them for a quick hi. But lately I stopped because I wasn’t sure if they were interested in me reaching out especially if we have met only once. At the end of the day I don’t want to sound pushy or thirsty.
It rarely happens to me that I have met someone once and decided not to see them again. Most of the times it’s because it’s always a draining process to book the new appointment regardless how many times we have met and sometimes some boundaries pushing when they get too comfortable.

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

What do you think is the ideal number of hours for a date?

Is it dependent on familiarity with the client?

Also do you limit the number of clients you see in a day or week and do you like to have a period of rest in between appointments? I think this is probably different for agency girls incall versus outcall and completely different for Indys although maybe not. Maybe there are some Indys that do a high volume if they have an assistant handling calls and flow.

I will say for a first appointment 90-120min is the best or even 4h cozy diner date at home to have time to discuss and relax.

Yes and no : I have had some clients who booked me for overnights or booked a FMTY or sponsored a tour without meeting me. I think all depends on how safe each other feels in the situation and for sure if things go well the familiarity may bring the client to extend or book a longer date for next time.

The only time I limit myself meeting clients is when I’m in my period because I take that week off or I’m in Montréal and lazy to take a same day appointment or emotionally drained or I simply can’t fit it into my schedule.
I don’t refuse good business when it comes at me and if I can « squeeze them in ». I always try to accommodate my time for my clients.
Being low or high volume is so personal to each other (for some having two appointments a day it’s like too much and for some they need at least 5 appointments per day to actually consider it busy).
I take as much breaks I feel like taking to resource myself because of the emotional part of this job. It’s for my mental health. It’s not meeting the exhausting part for me; it’s all the work and the back and forth we have to do to be able to successfully get a booking confirmed.

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

Have you ever heard of the pair-bonding statement that if a woman has more than 5 -8 sexual encounters/partners , it erodes her chances of pair bonding successfully with a serious partner long term?
Also , in certain spirituality there is talk of a supposed “ energy field “ ( considering atoms are mostly empty space ) surrounding each of us and that with each sexual encounter , we exchange part of that energy with our sexual partner. Does any of this have any significance for you? Do you have any type of spirituality and does it conflict with your profession? Or how do you make it work?

I’m a spiritual person and sometimes people are surprised of how traditional I think.

But I think that the soul ties stuff is not necessarily true. We all bond differently with each other and some people do have such a deeper connection and the sex makes it more difficult to detach themselves. That’s why some people stays in bad relationships for so long. Do we call it emotional attachment or soul ties? It’s up to you!

But the exchange of energy can definitely be a thing. When accounting someone new just by the first few messages or the first minutes I can feel if they are going to suck all my energy or this exchange is going to be mutual. I can’t explain it correctly but I do know you can transfer bad energy to someone (Just my opinion)

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

I’ll check into it a bit deeper. It’s presented as more a female thing because males can just have sex without intimacy whereas the majority of females seek intimacy in a relationship ( because of emotional attachment/investment). But I guess guys can get deep into it as well…

Of course it’s presented as a female thing because who designed society? Men!
Who designed society thinking it was okay for a man to cheat but not okay for a woman to do the same? Men ! And they will try to use the Bible or anything religious to back them up.

All I know is that as well as women exchange energy, men does too if not more than women. They are simply not as connected to their bodies as women do.

 

[Sylar]

Clients:

Do you book SPs that don’t have any face pics? Or do you avoid blurred out ladies?

I read the reviews more carefully and try to get an idea of the facial features when the face is blurred out. If there is no information to find I will avoid any lady with a blurred out face.
EDIT: I should add that I am pretty good with "computers" and most of the time can unblur the face.

 

[LC18]

EDIT: I should add that I am pretty good with "computers" and most of the time can unblur the face.

I knew that’s how some people were getting caught at the border but I didn’t realize civilians could do it too. This makes me want to only take photos from my shoulders to my toes.

 

[Sylar]

it’s all the work and the back and forth we have to do to be able to successfully get a booking confirmed.

When booking with a new client for the first time what's the average time to set it up i.e. how many email / text exchanges? What is the success rate of a first booking, as in you actually ending up to see the client.

 

[Julia Sky]

EDIT: I should add that I am pretty good with "computers" and most of the time can unblur the face.

Damn, this sent chills down my spine. I'm very aware that some people can do that but you mentioning it like this made it too real lol

 

[Giselle Montreal]

EDIT: I should add that I am pretty good with "computers" and most of the time can unblur the face.

Not only that but girls these days are showing their faces WAY more than they think! The blur is getting ridiculously thin, covering only the nose even, and they are showing the mouth, their smile, and sometimes their eyes in other pictures. Thanks to social media for the narcissistic temptation to show yourself. Blur is getting useless, and I expect it to continue to fade in popularity.

 

[Sylar]

A tip I can give is to not use blur on the original photo. Instead add a patch of blur (from another picture) onto the photo and create a new file. Hopefully this makes sense.

 

[Alisha Cantaloupe]

When booking with a new client for the first time what's the average time to set it up i.e. how many email / text exchanges? What is the success rate of a first booking, as in you actually ending up to see the client.

I will say if schedules are not an issue usually between 5 emails or messages (10 back and forth in total) it’s all done. That’s why it’s important for the client to know what he wants and be straightforward and respectful right with the first email.
When it starts to ask many questions especially too sexual (ex: do you get really wet? Or what’s your best position? You really sure you are going to suck my dick and moan at the same time etc); not ready to confirm the appointment with a method I can trust etc; not too sure when they want to book me but they reaching out to chat first; 80% it never ends in an actual booking. It personally turned me off and give me time waster vibe if someone keeps reaching out really last minute for their first appointment with me and it never happens but they keep the conversation really really too sexual. (Makes me think they are masturbating and waiting for me to answer something naughty back).
I know some are genuinely anxious about the meeting (I have met a few really amazing people that if I had a really strict policy I wouldn’t have met them); that’s why I try to answer as kindly and professional possible and I even refer them to ways to find themselves a way to verify me until it doesn’t work and I tell them I’m no longer interested in meeting them.