Luna is so kind!Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.
What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.
I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.
Ask us anything part 3
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Luna you look sensational with the colour black on you
Serious question for SPs and Hobbyist
I haven’t seen a new SP for about 3 months now despite there being a few that match my interest a lot.
However I keep going back to the same SP, who at this point is my only (?!) repeat for the past 15 years. I guess I do have an ATF.
But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?
I haven’t seen a new SP for about 3 months now despite there being a few that match my interest a lot.
However I keep going back to the same SP, who at this point is my only (?!) repeat for the past 15 years. I guess I do have an ATF.
But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?
That is up to you. What do you want from the next steps of your life?
If you want a relationship, then aim for one, sounds like you have less addiction to the selection of SPs that others here seem to suffer from.
Or if you have been happy with life at the status quo, it's up to you if you want to find a new favorite.
What you should do, is up to you, and what you see as your goal in the next 5 years, since apparently you stick with things that work for a long time
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Thank you for the thoughtful answer. The only constant in my life is constant change which makes a relationship very difficult. I guess this SP brings a bit of routine and status quo in my life, however it’s fully compartmentalized to the bedroom. We share private matters but there are clear boundaries which we both appreciate. I’ll give this additional thoughts and see where it will lead me.That is up to you. What do you want from the next steps of your life?
If you want a relationship, then aim for one, sounds like you have less addiction to the selection of SPs that others here seem to suffer from.
Or if you have been happy with life at the status quo, it's up to you if you want to find a new favorite.
What you should do, is up to you, and what you see as your goal in the next 5 years, since apparently you stick with things that work for a long time
I usually reach out by email to an sp, so it would not bother me if you message me by email as well.
Thanks for a candid answer. I find it, in some cases, hard to tell real from fake. Some just blow me away totally… others leave me flat (no pun intended).
I don’t think that question is appropriate. SPs are not gonna come here and give you ammunition to go around their screening or lie your way to them
Not an SP, but here's my take on read flags in general.
The thing about red flags is that they are built from experience as a protection layer against unwanted encounter. You look for behaviors that are potential signs of danger. Exposing them is like having a mine field with every mine clearly marked. Or using the best security system but with the blueprint on the front door. Giving the red flags away, is giving an opportunity to a predator to avoid scrutiny.
PS: damn, LC wrote an excellent answer while I was writing mine.
Some pointers I look for quickly, since I don't mind sharing, minor pointers, and comes even before other verifications.
-People who talk in complete sentences. I want to see people I can communicate comfortably with, if it feels like a chore to get them to share I have no interest, it will be just as hard to communicate in person.
People who are looking for an expierience beyond just the cold basics.
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This goes both ways. If I see messages or posts from an SP that makes me question if I had an aneurysm while reading it, I am not booking her no matter how hot she is. Hell, I’d rather book with someone who doesn’t even speak the same language as me.
Some people are dyslexic and have a hard time typing or expressing themselves through text, but this is a different issue. In person they could be completely fine. If someone is speaking in short sentences.. ''hey babe'' ''available'' etc it shows they are putting 0 effort into communicating, it's disrespectful.
I don't want to give away red flags or whatever ''yellow flags'' are.
But here are my green flags: the gentleman is polite and introduces himself fully, he accepts screening, he tells me exactly when he wants to see me or offers different options, he gives me his expectations, he doesn't ask for anything that isn't offered, he doesn't ask for questions he can answer himself by looking at my ads and website...
I don't want to give away red flags or whatever ''yellow flags'' are.
But here are my green flags: the gentleman is polite and introduces himself fully, he accepts screening, he tells me exactly when he wants to see me or offers different options, he gives me his expectations, he doesn't ask for anything that isn't offered, he doesn't ask for questions he can answer himself by looking at my ads and website...
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For incalls, does it matter what clients wear when showing up? I usually dress like I'm going out with friends since most of my appointments are early afternoon and I usually do go wander around after the rdv.
Also I've never been asked to shower for all my incalls, is that normal?
Also I've never been asked to shower for all my incalls, is that normal?
I am expecting a 3 pieces suit and a monocle for all of my clients sorry!
As long as your clothes are clean, come as you are and please freshen up if asked. Don’t argue, don’t try to convince the person that you’re clean. If no one asks you to shower then it’s all good
No it doesn't matter what clients wear, at least not to me.
I usually ask clients to shower before the booking or upon arrival, but some people are extremely polite and concerned with doing the right thing, so I assume they have already showered.. particularly if they booked me for over an hour. Maybe it's naive of me.
When I used to receive from home or when I worked from spas, I absolutely didn't trust my clients to shower so I reminded them or had them shower right away. It's very very rare that a client came with bad hygiene, which is great news.
It also depends on the weather honestly. If it's hot or humid outside even if I trust my client that he showered at home, I'm going to insist..
fair point about the humidity, I would probably even insist myselfNo it doesn't matter what clients wear, at least not to me.
I usually ask clients to shower before the booking or upon arrival, but some people are extremely polite and concerned with doing the right thing, so I assume they have already showered.. particularly if they booked me for over an hour. Maybe it's naive of me.
When I used to receive from home or when I worked from spas, I absolutely didn't trust my clients to shower so I reminded them or had them shower right away. It's very very rare that a client came with bad hygiene, which is great news.
It also depends on the weather honestly. If it's hot or humid outside even if I trust my client that he showered at home, I'm going to insist..
When clients book under an hour, and sometimes even an hour they are "stopping by", it's not the same as a client who has carefully planned the meeting and got ready for it.
In any case showering before entering the bedroom should be something clients think of automatically. A lot of clients don't understand that the shower is part of the time they booked, which can lead to annoying situations, particularly with short bookings...
Not worried that your neighbours will wonder why so many Monopoly guy are going in and out the building every week ?
