Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

For me personally, my christmas eve, will be working at my civi job, and available after I am done that. Then Christmas my morning I am available. Then am unavailable for brunch with my family and a best friend, and then off to home to cook a christmas dinner for my children and myself. Then will be available for work again after christmas dinner.

As a kid I always hated opening up gifts you dream of having, then a day too busy to play with any of them. I like letting my kids have time to stay home and enjoy their new entertainment.

 

[LC18]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

Why would we spend christmas in a different way than other people? I am seeing a client tomorrow, I'm also going to stop by and see my family today and tomorrow and tonight I'm seeing a friend

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

If I won the lotto I'd definitely book SP's to hang out with (not sex) because I feel like most SP's I've met were more intelligent and insightful than therapists lol But I don't think I could tolerate being around another human being I'm not like in love with for more than a day or two

 

[themonk83]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

couple of thousands wouldn't change my spending habits so I wouldn't necessarily talk about it.

In the hundreds, yes to somewhere we dreamed of.

The jackpot? If say over 20 millions, I'd be looking at exclusive arrangements with a few (maybe) and probably get them a house too (like a plex) so to the question, yes with a few somewhere for weeks

 

[LC18]

couple of thousands wouldn't change my spending habits so I wouldn't necessarily talk about it.

I should have specified that you’d win a prize that’s significant enough that booking a week wouldn’t make a hole in your budget

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

 

[Fradi]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

I would do much more than that. She would be one lucky lady.
It would be my way of paying her back for all her kindness for so many years.

 

[Fradi]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

Well the first obvious thing is that they didn’t sleep with anyone else.
Even with SP they are very different.
One is an elegant sensual fashionista who looks like someone out of a fashion magazine always, everything natural no tattoos, piercings enhancements. Very independent, ambitious, smart, always had a nice stable civi career.
The other is more like a wild rock star, tattoos piercings, artistic, lives for the moment.
Where they are very similar is that they are both kind, thoughtful, and total sweethearts and a pleasure to be with.

Women I used to date were gorgeous, very family oriented, the kind that you would be happy to settle down with and spend a lifetime with sex was not really my priority when I was dating, if it happened great but I was never the pushy type, never really needed to be.

 

[Nachoy]

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone who participated in this thread.
I’ll try to stay nice and not so naughty this season

 

[Sylar]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

No. The financial factor is not the main reason I don't do this. Even with millions to spare, I can think of better ways to to spend my money.

 

[Sylar]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

Absolutely. The women I date (and I don't mean casual hookups) have to match my optical preference, personality type and have at least some common interests. That is not a strict criteria with an SP that I potential only see once in my life. It leave the door open for exploration.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Well the first obvious thing is that they didn’t sleep with anyone else.
Even with SP they are very different.
One is an elegant sensual fashionista who looks like someone out of a fashion magazine always, everything natural no tattoos, piercings enhancements. Very independent, ambitious, smart, always had a nice stable civi career.
The other is more like a wild rock star, tattoos piercings, artistic, lives for the moment.
Where they are very similar is that they are both kind, thoughtful, and total sweethearts and a pleasure to be with.

Women I used to date were gorgeous, very family oriented, the kind that you would be happy to settle down with and spend a lifetime with sex was not really my priority when I was dating, if it happened great but I was never the pushy type, never really needed to be.

Sex is not my priority when dating either

 

[blow20102010]

Questions for clients : when SP's offer promos or discounts, does this make you only want to wait until they do so to book them? and if you do this, why do you ask for discounts when it's no longer being announced?

I've noticed that when I offer discounts, barely anybody takes up the offer, but I often get asked for discounts another time, which is something I find very rude.. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth offering them. I get asked sometimes for a 100$ discount LOL. Obviously I say no, but I wonder why this client had the nerve to ask in the first place.. Any idea? A month or two ago, a client I saw 2 years ago begged me to ''see him every week'' for half of my hourly rate. Do they think we don't have bookings and that we are desperate?

Another unrelated question.. this has to do with 15 minute appointments. I'm not sure if agencies offer those, but I know MP's do. However, for an independent provider, getting ready just for 15 minutes can feel like a waste of time.. It's also riskier to take 15 minute appointments, because it can appear suspicious to incall neighbors. Why try to get 15 minute bookings from indy's? I used to offer them, and I stopped, but I still from time to time get asked for them... However it could be easy to drive to a MP and get a 15 minute booking... When I worked at MP's, I was fine with doing 15 minutes, because I was already there and I didn't have to get ready again every single time.

(sorry if that seemed like a rant lol.. i'm just really trying to understand the psychology behind a lot of this)

Me personally when an SP offer discount, it definitely tempted me. But it is totally rude to ask, but one discount I truly appreciate is for disable people.

 

[Nachoy]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

Absolutely maybe a week somewhere warm anmd sunny and I want you to invite a good friend to come along as well. But you would be paid more.Just don’t tell your friend you are making more

 

[curly]

Why would we spend christmas in a different way than other people?

Because you are part of the 10% to 15% of the population that has a job where you work nights, week-ends or hollidays. That's different than the 85% of the rest of the people. I was just curious

 

[LC18]

Because you are part of the 10% to 15% of the population that has a job where you work nights, week-ends or hollidays. That's different than the 85% of the rest of the people. I was just curious

I don’t work at night, I rarely work on the weekend. Most of the time I would say I am doing a 11-7. Not quite the 9-5 but very close to

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Me personally when an SP offer discount, it definitely tempted me. But it is totally rude to ask, but one discount I truly appreciate is for disable people.

Discounts for disabled people are lovely, but I think it's rude for a disabled person to ask for a discount, even if I do have a lot of empathy for people who have disabilities.. If my rates were higher I would offer disabled people a discount for sure. But I think it's entitled no matter what to ask for a discount...

A lot of SP's are also disabled even if they don't necessarily have visible disabilities. A lot of people forget about this.

Because you are part of the 10% to 15% of the population that has a job where you work nights, week-ends or hollidays. That's different than the 85% of the rest of the people. I was just curious

Not all SP's work nights, week ends or holidays. I don't work past 11pm personally, 12am at the very latest. When I had a girlfriend, I didn't work during the weekends because I prioritized seeing her instead. A lot of SP's are away for the holidays with their families..

 

[Hemme]

Cg vs rcg: you feel a difference? Which one you enjoy more if not both.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Cg vs rcg: you feel a difference? Which one you enjoy more if not both.

cute girl vs relatively cute girl? what is this esoteric language you're speaking?