Ask us anything part 3

[Jazzman1218]

I am conscious of that and it's not just in this industry that people have tried to take advantage. It's very annoying when it happens, and very draining, and I just shut it down. I haven't accepted anything that went against my boundaries and I think I've made it clear on my social media what my boundaries were and what I find acceptable or not. Yes, there have been several members of this board who have taken advantage of me before I started advertising here. There are still members who try now, and I just shut it down or find clever ways to push them away. I'm capable of seeing it, and it's annoying. I wish there was more of a culture of consent and respect in spaces like this.

Be yourself and never apologize for the experience you provide - just like you'd never apologize for your art. Set your boundaries and make them clear to your clients. Any clients you lose are ones you don't want anyway. There are plenty of respectable gentlemen out there who would love to share time with you. Build up a clientele of repeat gentlemen, and you'll be just fine.

 

[Jazzman1218]

It's not that easy to get repeat clients.. and as I was mentioning in DMs with someone, yes I do have regulars and repeat clients, but they don't always stay for a long time. When the summer began, a lot of regular clients and repeat clients stopped seeing me. A lot of the clients I saw in 2023 didn't continue seeing me in 2024, and I gained a new clientele. The industry is always fluctuating I guess

Good points. It must be difficult too because Montreal provides so many options for men. There are so many beautiful women, like yourself, there.

 

[Jazzman1218]

That's one of the reasons. One reason is that my rates used to be lower than average for an indy and that attracted a lot of new clients who had never seen a SP before and clients who usually see agency girls. I didn't make more money at the time.. the agency clientele is not for me, and the "new clients" just wanted to try something different and move on with their lives.

Another reason is that a lot of my favorite clients don't live in Montreal and can't always be here, so I only got to see them 1 to 3 times.

I also think there's an effect of idealization that occurs when a client meets a new SP who isn't part of the norm. A lot of clients tell me they like that I'm different from most SP's and that can be positive but it creates certain expectations. Some of them end up deciding that seeing SP's is not for them or they end up going back to what they're used to because they don't want to get emotionally attached or they are afraid that the spell will be broken.

Another large part of my clients is men who are heart broken, going through a divorce or a period of celibacy after a break up. A lot of them are lonely and I provide warmth and comfort for them, but of course once they get out of that phase they stop seeing me, and that's perfectly normal

It's complicated for sure. Sometimes all you can do is what Bob Dylan sang just "keep on keeping on". Hang on and hang in there.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's complicated for sure. Sometimes all you can do is what Bob Dylan sang just "keep on keeping on". Hang on and hang in there.

For sure! I'm complaining and stressing a lot, but despite all of this, I'm really lucky. I had bookings all summer and the past few weeks have been fully booked for me.
I think it's time to practice a little bit of gratitude right now.

 

[MCTJ]

I think it's time to practice a little bit of gratitude right now.

As the say on Facebook: Merci la vie!

 

[Nachoy]

For your clients.
Would you prefer all regulars or have mix of both new with regulars?

 

[Julia Sky]

For your clients.
Would you prefer all regulars or have mix of both new with regulars?

A mix of both, because having sex with a total stranger for the first time turns me on.

But in my ideal world I would only see new clients in contexts that include social time outside, and reserve the rest of my schedule to my favorite regulars.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

A mix of both, because having sex with a total stranger for the first time turns me on.

But in my ideal world I would only see new clients in contexts that include social time outside, and reserve the rest of my schedule to my favorite regulars.

I feel the same way about meeting new clients in contexts that include social time!

 

[zob1234]

The two first threads were starting to be very long but here there are:
Ask us anything part 1
Ask us anything part 2


Here’s your chance to ask anything related to the industry whether you’re a client a curious about providers or a provider asking clients. Please respect those simple rules:

• do not ask about trauma related questions such as “what was your worst experience?” “Have you ever been attacked?” “how often are you scared to be r**ed?” “I’ve you ever been beat up by someone’s p**mp?” Those type of questions could be triggering to some.

• be respectful

• it’s impossible at this point to not repeat a question that’s been asked in part 1 or 2 but try not to ask the same questions again and again.

is it ok to go see an sp as a 19y/o
and will most of them decline me?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

is it ok to go see an sp as a 19y/o
and will most of them decline me?

It depends. Personally I would because I'm 31 and I would feel creepy but some SP's are your age and would be glad to see a client who's young

 

[LC18]

is it ok to go see an sp as a 19y/o
and will most of them decline me?

There’s nothing wrong with it but I would think you are too young for me

 

[Rebaynia]

For your clients.
Would you prefer all regulars or have mix of both new with regulars?

I prefer regulars, as I am very weary about meeting new people. It's almost an anxiety thing when meeting someone for the first time.
But every regular, was once a new person too. So now it is on the new client to make me feel comfortable with meeting them. I look to alleviate my fears in our discussion before I agree to meet them.

 

[Rebaynia]

is it ok to go see an sp as a 19y/o
and will most of them decline me?

LoL I may be more like the men on this form than I like to admit sometimes.

Fresh meat lol. I have no problem with being a cugar, as long as he is legal. Often men under 25 who have a milf fantasy, who aren't trying to be dominant, can be so sweet and cute. Some are rude and need to be put in their place (which seems to add to their milf fantasy), being disrespectful, but some are so much more respectful than the average visit as well. I like good boys.
I'm not looking to be in a relationship with them, and it's quite an ego boost when someone half my age is telling me how hot they find me.
Besides in many of these cases I don't know how old the person is I am seeing is. I often don't know if they are half my age, or double my age unless they volunteer that information while texting.

 

[Nachoy]

LoL I may be more like the men on this form than I like to admit sometimes.

Fresh meat lol. I have no problem with being a cugar, as long as he is legal. Often men under 25 who have a milf fantasy, who aren't trying to be dominant, can be so sweet and cute. Some are rude and need to be put in their place (which seems to add to their milf fantasy), being disrespectful, but some are so much more respectful than the average visit as well. I like good boys.
I'm not looking to be in a relationship with them, and it's quite an ego boost when someone half my age is telling me how hot they find me.
Besides in many of these cases I don't know how old the person is I am seeing is. I often don't know if they are half my age, or double my age unless they volunteer that information while texting.

I like my partners to be younger than me Usually I like to take the lead if they are inexperienced.
When I was young I remember being with a SP cougar and it felt like she just wanted to get it over with and collect her money. While the young ones still want to to try and experiment new things. Maybe I’m jaded but I prefer 20 yo rather then. Milfs. I acknowledge that there are exceptions to my experience but I’m just relating my feelings

 

[Julia Sky]

Because I'm not a 20 year old submissive anal PSE freak Barbie with huge tits and long hair and a bubble butt and a tiny waist and the face of a 14 year old I'm not a good match for a lot of people here LOL (I'm creating this image based on the information I'm gathering reading posts and reviews)

Just saw this post!

I agree with some of the things you mentionned, tiny waist and young looking mainly. BUT! Idk why you keep bringing up huge tits, from experience and from reading this board for many years I feel like the majority of active merb users don't care much about big boobs, they prefer real boobs at any size. Yours are perfect the way they are. YOU are perfect the way you are, it just takes time to build a big clientele. None of this has anything to do with the way you look and your best clients are the ones who see you for you and not just your body <3

 

[Julia Sky]

Clients

How do you deal with a situation where you book someone and upon arriving she isn't your type? Do you just leave? Pay her cancellation fee? Pay something but not her cancellation fee?

 

[Sylar]

Clients

How do you deal with a situation where you book someone and upon arriving she isn't your type? Do you just leave? Pay her cancellation fee? Pay something but not her cancellation fee?

What do you mean by "isnt your type"?
If it's a bait and switch, I am leaving and I am not paying. (Actually never happened before)

 

[bodick7]

Clients

How do you deal with a situation where you book someone and upon arriving she isn't your type? Do you just leave? Pay her cancellation fee? Pay something but not her cancellation fee?

It happen once. It took way too much time before engaging action and the meantime turned me totally off.
I left what was on table...it wasn't there anymore anyway and I didn't care about getting it back. I just wanted to leave.

 

[Julia Sky]

What do you mean by "isnt your type"?
If it's a bait and switch, I am leaving and I am not paying. (Actually never happened before)

No! Like, real pictures, but you don't like her face

 

[Julia Sky]

First off I sincerely apologize and explain that I sense the chemistry is not there and that I have to cancel the meeting. Then if there is a cancellation fee and I have previously agreed to it, then I pay that amount. If there is no cancellation fee, I cover the transportation costs with a generous amount.

This brought another question! Lol

When you say "a cancellation fee I have previously agreed to", does that include when it's written on her website even if you didn't explicitly state agreeing to it? I've had men book through my website contact form but somehow say they didn't know I had a cancellation fee (it's written on the same website) when cancelling, so I'm curious