Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

That's the issue, there is no standard, and the terms can mean different things to different people. Maybe best to specify services you provide and what your restrictions are, rather than generalize with GFE/PSE, as that can lead to varying expectations from client to client.

i agree! that's why i think sometimes these terms can be a bit misleading. i do think that for a lot of clients, gfe involves a certain level of emotional intimacy and a ''softer'' vibe.

 

[Sylar]

For me GFE / PSE also depends on the look and vibe of the person. I would have a hard time booking a SP for GFE who has that cliche stripper look. I know that this is my personal bias, but yeah... The other way around is more feasible.

 

[curly]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

 

[LC18]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

Very vague. Not everyone will spend it the same way, the same could be said about clients.

 

[Rebaynia]

How often do you get a client from the states that pays you in USD at a 1:1 ratio instead of CAD? Does it ever happen or rarely?

I have accepted usd about 3 times in 2 years. And was because they didn't mention they only had usd, or I would have asked them to make the exchange. And only accepted it because they didn't ask for a conversion rate on the dollar. Any time they did the math for conversion, and ask to pay the direct exchange amount, I refuse to see them.
It is inconvenient for me to need to make the exchange, that inconvenience is charged to the client for not wanting to be inconvenienced himself.

 

[Sean007]

question for clients.

what are your expectations for a gfe service, and what are your expectations for a pse service?
earlier i got a request from a member of the forum asking me for pse, although it's not on my ad lol.. there are reasons why i don't offer pse (one thing is that greek seems to be expected) but sometimes i'm not entirely sure what it even means.

I am generally looking for some level of emotional connection and intimacy. So it would involve some cuddling, soft massaging, caressing, and kissing and french kissing (dlnt like the LFK DFK distinction. French kissing involves tongue action.). Soft kissing everywhere on the body…. There is also BJ, DATY, 69, FS in a number of positions. I like the lady to enjoy herself as much as I do, which is also part of the GFE experience as far as i am concerned.

 

[Rebaynia]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

For me personally, my christmas eve, will be working at my civi job, and available after I am done that. Then Christmas my morning I am available. Then am unavailable for brunch with my family and a best friend, and then off to home to cook a christmas dinner for my children and myself. Then will be available for work again after christmas dinner.

As a kid I always hated opening up gifts you dream of having, then a day too busy to play with any of them. I like letting my kids have time to stay home and enjoy their new entertainment.

 

[LC18]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

How do SP spend Christmas? I know this must be personal, but are there trends? I'm family? With friends? Alone and quiet? With a client (I would understand, I worked so much at Christmas when I was a musician, it's a day where most celebrate and some others work).

Why would we spend christmas in a different way than other people? I am seeing a client tomorrow, I'm also going to stop by and see my family today and tomorrow and tonight I'm seeing a friend

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

If I won the lotto I'd definitely book SP's to hang out with (not sex) because I feel like most SP's I've met were more intelligent and insightful than therapists lol But I don't think I could tolerate being around another human being I'm not like in love with for more than a day or two

 

[themonk83]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

couple of thousands wouldn't change my spending habits so I wouldn't necessarily talk about it.

In the hundreds, yes to somewhere we dreamed of.

The jackpot? If say over 20 millions, I'd be looking at exclusive arrangements with a few (maybe) and probably get them a house too (like a plex) so to the question, yes with a few somewhere for weeks

 

[LC18]

couple of thousands wouldn't change my spending habits so I wouldn't necessarily talk about it.

I should have specified that you’d win a prize that’s significant enough that booking a week wouldn’t make a hole in your budget

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

 

[Fradi]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

I would do much more than that. She would be one lucky lady.
It would be my way of paying her back for all her kindness for so many years.

 

[Fradi]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

Well the first obvious thing is that they didn’t sleep with anyone else.
Even with SP they are very different.
One is an elegant sensual fashionista who looks like someone out of a fashion magazine always, everything natural no tattoos, piercings enhancements. Very independent, ambitious, smart, always had a nice stable civi career.
The other is more like a wild rock star, tattoos piercings, artistic, lives for the moment.
Where they are very similar is that they are both kind, thoughtful, and total sweethearts and a pleasure to be with.

Women I used to date were gorgeous, very family oriented, the kind that you would be happy to settle down with and spend a lifetime with sex was not really my priority when I was dating, if it happened great but I was never the pushy type, never really needed to be.

 

[Nachoy]

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone who participated in this thread.
I’ll try to stay nice and not so naughty this season

 

[Sylar]

Anyone

If you won the lotto, would you book a SP for a few days? Maybe for a vacation or maybe a staycation.

No. The financial factor is not the main reason I don't do this. Even with millions to spare, I can think of better ways to to spend my money.

 

[Sylar]

Are the SP's you see and the women you date different types of people, and how so? (I'm talking about looks and personality, not the profession they have)

Absolutely. The women I date (and I don't mean casual hookups) have to match my optical preference, personality type and have at least some common interests. That is not a strict criteria with an SP that I potential only see once in my life. It leave the door open for exploration.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Well the first obvious thing is that they didn’t sleep with anyone else.
Even with SP they are very different.
One is an elegant sensual fashionista who looks like someone out of a fashion magazine always, everything natural no tattoos, piercings enhancements. Very independent, ambitious, smart, always had a nice stable civi career.
The other is more like a wild rock star, tattoos piercings, artistic, lives for the moment.
Where they are very similar is that they are both kind, thoughtful, and total sweethearts and a pleasure to be with.

Women I used to date were gorgeous, very family oriented, the kind that you would be happy to settle down with and spend a lifetime with sex was not really my priority when I was dating, if it happened great but I was never the pushy type, never really needed to be.

Sex is not my priority when dating either

 

[blow20102010]

Questions for clients : when SP's offer promos or discounts, does this make you only want to wait until they do so to book them? and if you do this, why do you ask for discounts when it's no longer being announced?

I've noticed that when I offer discounts, barely anybody takes up the offer, but I often get asked for discounts another time, which is something I find very rude.. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth offering them. I get asked sometimes for a 100$ discount LOL. Obviously I say no, but I wonder why this client had the nerve to ask in the first place.. Any idea? A month or two ago, a client I saw 2 years ago begged me to ''see him every week'' for half of my hourly rate. Do they think we don't have bookings and that we are desperate?

Another unrelated question.. this has to do with 15 minute appointments. I'm not sure if agencies offer those, but I know MP's do. However, for an independent provider, getting ready just for 15 minutes can feel like a waste of time.. It's also riskier to take 15 minute appointments, because it can appear suspicious to incall neighbors. Why try to get 15 minute bookings from indy's? I used to offer them, and I stopped, but I still from time to time get asked for them... However it could be easy to drive to a MP and get a 15 minute booking... When I worked at MP's, I was fine with doing 15 minutes, because I was already there and I didn't have to get ready again every single time.

(sorry if that seemed like a rant lol.. i'm just really trying to understand the psychology behind a lot of this)

Me personally when an SP offer discount, it definitely tempted me. But it is totally rude to ask, but one discount I truly appreciate is for disable people.