Ask us anything part 3

[Workingman]

If I try and think about every interaction I've had that I would describe as memorable, and the main part is the level of intimacy. The highlights are the end cuddling and talking. Having her fingers playing in my hair or gently roaming as we're holding each other tight.

The sexual act is way less meaningful without the build and landing. To me that's what makes a memorable GFE.

 

[urquell]

I deeply disagree. You might not get anything else besides sexual relief when you see an escort, it might be a fleeting moment, but for some others, the sex part is a need among others. Because some thought women never liked them, women would never touch them, women would never look at them, I have seen some men change and become socially active and more engaging as it helped them gain confidence and believe that they have something to offer to women, and women could be interested in them. We're not therapists, but you can work your things on your end, and our encounters can help you reflect (just like a friend would), with the help of what we have to offer; physical touch, intimacy and complicity.

Basically, any human interaction can help you grow.

It's not true that only psychotherapists help other people. Friends, family, a teacher, everyone can have an impact on someone's life.

We'll have to agree to disagree, although truthfully you've misinterpreted some things I said that we already agree on. Any interaction, or action, or event can help you grow. The process of life teaches you to grow in different ways. Frankly, that's neither here nor there with respect to the point I was trying to make.. I've already said that the SP services are valuable, and I didn't refer to the sexual aspects at all, and the need you speak of is why I referred to it as something recurring at whatever interval is necessary. I never, ever said that only therapists can help people. Therapy is a process aimed at achieving a specific goal. Whether it succeeds or not is dependent on a bunch of different things, but it involves identifying a problem and acting to resolve that specific problem through whatever course of intervention is taken. SPs don't do that, so what they do isn't therapy. That is NOT to say that it isn't helpful.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I never, ever said that only therapists can help people.

I was not saying that * to you *. It was something I had to say for everyone to read.

 

[Workingman]

Therapy is a process aimed at achieving a specific goal.

This is one definition, but it isn't the only definition. It's the blind spot.

 

[Zero_Six]

The original question was "what do SP's bring to your life other than sexual gratification?"
And yes they probably can bring something else as @Giselle Montreal said (several times if i'm not mistaken. )
As i mentioned they have much more experience with clients than all of us combined.

Not exactly sure why this derailed into a "are SPs therapists?" discussion because they're not and i don't think they claim to be but yeah they bring confort to some and that's a pretty good thing, again we are not the same and obviously not looking for the same things which is quite reassuring i think.

Some people just want to argue it seems. Feels like each side isn't even talking about the same thing. One side says visiting SPs can be therapeutic, while the other side is saying it's not therapy. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't see anyone claiming that seeing SPs have cured them of their depression or anything. Not everything therapeutic is therapy.

 

[urquell]

This is one definition, but it isn't the only definition. It's the blind spot.

No, that pretty much literally is the definition, allowing for different word usage. Here's 3 dictionary definitions for you. 1) the treatment of disease or disorders, as by some remedial, rehabilitating, or curative process, 2) medical treatment of impairment, injury, disease, or disorder, 3) the treatment of a physical problem or an illness or the treatment of problems with somebody's mental health by talking with them

Now, how you choose to interpret the word "therapy" is up to you. You also really don't need to be in there defending the SPs though, because I'm not attacking them. It's not a "for" or "against" statement. It's a distinction between one type of beneficial procss and another one.

Since I don't intend to enter into a protracted and ultimately useless argument about semantics I'll leave it up to you guys to duke it out while I take myself elsewhere to other topics. Enjoy.

 

[DouMan]

Many interesting points have been put forward but aren't we waaaay overthinking this therapy thing? Let's not forget that we are talking about a pleasant encounter with a woman, a SP, in order to have a good time and, oh almost forgot studying for my psyxxx doctorate, maybe even sex. I don't really care what the definition of psy-this or psy-that is. We do not meet in order to re-write the theory of relativity, we meet to enjoy the moment and to leave feeling good.

 

[Workingman]

Since I don't intend to enter into a protracted and ultimately useless argument about semantics I'll leave it up to you guys to duke it out while I take myself elsewhere to other topics. Enjoy.

This proves nothing except you are unable to see a very basic concept.

 

[Workingman]

Many interesting points have been put forward but aren't we waaaay overthinking this therapy thing? Let's not forget that we are talking about a pleasant encounter with a woman, a SP, in order to have a good time and, oh almost forgot studying for my psyxxx doctorate, maybe even sex. I don't really care what the definition of psy-this or psy-that is. We do not meet in order to re-write the theory of relativity, we meet to enjoy the moment and to leave feeling good.

So easy to understand that it goes way over some people's heads.

 

[Johnny test]

Another question would be quite welcome at this point

 

[WAZZAP1]

Quel est votre rapport / vos réactions / vos attentes lorsqu'un couple HF vous sollicite pour vous joindre à eux? Et est-ce que vos tarifs diffèrent en ce sens?

Merci, mesdames.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Quel est votre rapport / vos réactions / vos attentes lorsqu'un couple HF vous sollicite pour vous joindre à eux? Et est-ce que vos tarifs diffèrent en ce sens?

Merci, mesdames.

Je charge 100$ d'extra par heure parce que le service est plus complexe et demande plus de préparations.. j'ai eu une bonne experience avec un couple! Mais je m'attends a parler aux deux personnes et à ce que les attentes soient clairement definies.. j'ai entendu que souvent un des membres du couple mets de la pression pour avoir une expérience avec une TDS et c'est une situation qui me rendrait extrèmement inconfortable.. si c'est un couple HF je préfère donner plus de mon attention à la femme car souvent le but de ces rencontres est de permettre aux femmes d'expérimenter avec la bisexualité

 

[Nachoy]

For me the 2 ladies I see most often have become dear friends. They are amazing young ladies who are not only gorgeous but kind, funny, and just fabulous young women.
They have made my life so much better, it eases the passing of my wife somewhat and I will always be grateful for them being in my life.
Especially with my ATF we talk often and I think the relationship is much more than just sexual gratification.
I would be more than happy to drive them to Costco or anywhere lol

When you are having sex with your ATF or any SPs , do you ever think about your wife?
Like is there something similar that new partner does that reminds you of having sex with your wife?

 

[DouMan]

When you are having sex with your ATF or any SPs , do you ever think about your wife?
Like is there something similar that new partner does that reminds you of having sex with your wife?

Yah, if she farts.

 

[Nachoy]

Yah, if she farts.

Is that during doggy and DATY ?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When you are having sex with your ATF or any SPs , do you ever think about your wife?
Like is there something similar that new partner does that reminds you of having sex with your wife?

I think you should play video games or do crossword puzzles

 

[Nachoy]

Fradi is a sweet man. He thinks of his wife as a comparison for the companionship that SP’s give him. I’m just wondering if the sexual gratification with SPs is just as good/better and also a reminder of his sex life of his wife
There are a lot of other men that are married that have sex outside their marriage as pure sexual gratification that they can’t receive in their marriage. They don’t care deeply for Sps like Fradi and it’s just a purely transaction sex relationship. The question was direct to a decent man like Fradi if the sex was comparable

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Fradi is a sweet man. He thinks of his wife as a comparison for the companionship that SP’s give him. I’m just wondering if the sexual gratification with SPs is just as good/better and also a reminder of his sex life of his wife
There are a lot of other men that are married that have sex outside their marriage as pure sexual gratification that they can’t receive in their marriage. They don’t care deeply for Sps like Fradi and it’s just a purely transaction sex relationship. The question was direct to a decent man like Fradi if the sex was comparable

I wish there was a bigger choice of emojis we could use here lol

 

[Zero_Six]

Fradi is a sweet man. He thinks of his wife as a comparison for the companionship that SP’s give him. I’m just wondering if the sexual gratification with SPs is just as good/better and also a reminder of his sex life of his wife
There are a lot of other men that are married that have sex outside their marriage as pure sexual gratification that they can’t receive in their marriage. They don’t care deeply for Sps like Fradi and it’s just a purely transaction sex relationship. The question was direct to a decent man like Fradi if the sex was comparable

I really don't know if this is sarcastic or.... perhaps love is in the air?

 

[Fradi]

Fradi is a sweet man. He thinks of his wife as a comparison for the companionship that SP’s give him. I’m just wondering if the sexual gratification with SPs is just as good/better and also a reminder of his sex life of his wife
There are a lot of other men that are married that have sex outside their marriage as pure sexual gratification that they can’t receive in their marriage. They don’t care deeply for Sps like Fradi and it’s just a purely transaction sex relationship. The question was direct to a decent man like Fradi if the sex was comparable

I don’t know what you are talking about. I think you completely misunderstood.
There will never be an SP that will remotely compare to my wife
She was the person I loved the most in this world or ever will.
SP are a nice fantasy but you can never compare them to your wife the mother of your children.
People need to live in the real world how on earth can you compare a paid for sex fantasy to someone you share your life and love with.

SP if you are lucky enough to form a friendship with are amazing to spend time with, but it is a paid for transaction, a job and income for them and a fantasy for you. They are not in love with you and hopefully you don’t make the mistake of falling in love with them other than loving them as a friend.