Ask us anything part 3

[LC18]

“Do you know who I am? I’ve written multiple reviews on merb. I can write a bad one about you”

It’s giving “do you know who I am? I am [insert celebrity name]” except we don’t care

 

[LeDodo]

“Do you know who I am? I’ve written multiple reviews on merb. I can write a bad one about you”

It’s giving “do you know who I am? I am [insert celebrity name]” except we don’t care

We don't want to see "influencers" thinking they are entitled to lot of things because they are "famous".

Your point is good as to keep a certain neutrality and avoid any slipping.

The entitled influencer lol

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's pretty obvious who that is

I can guess who you're alluding to but when I started having reviews as Luna and advertising here, several guys introduced themselves that way to me. I refused to see a lot of them because I found the way they wrote reviews dehumanizing. Some of them just promised a booking without a date and ghosted.

 

[Fradi]

Today I can’t say that I have more than one or two reviewers that I would trust or would influence me.
I used to trust guys like Hungry101 or SOL T NUTZ and a few others who were honest and said it the way they saw it good or bad.

I don think I have seen more than 12-13 different women in the 10 years I have been around and I haven’t written many or a single negative review simply because I have never had a bad enough experience to warrant affecting someone’s reputation negatively.
The ladies I see regularly one is no longer active and the other has enough positive reviews that she doesn’t need mine to bolster her business.

I don’t need any kind of incentives or discounts nor am I influenced by anything, luckily I can afford to see whoever I want to see when ever I want.
That is the only privilege I have which I worked for and am not ashamed to have.

 

[anatomy]

I totally agree with you on this. Many of our clients don’t want to leave reviews (even "famous" members). Some don’t even want to be on the platform anymore. That’s why I’m always a bit amused when people act shocked that the girls can be fully booked without any reviews. To me, that says a lot. And no, we definitely don’t post fake girls, despite what some might think..

I also want to point out that, whatever our personal opinions, we end up losing incredible talent because some ladies get too much performance anxiety just knowing Merb exists. Even though I love the platform (and as I’ve said before) I wish the overall vibe felt more like a positive community of people who simply enjoy meeting other people. That includes also agencies supporting the other agencies instead of trying to look the best. I personally want everyone to enjoy themselves. But hey, maybe that’s just me living in my own little Lala Land.

If "girls can be fully booked without any reviews" is it all word of mouth, your reccommendation or what? I find that hard to believe. There was this phenomenon a few months ago of a new SP at XXXclusive who became so wildly popular through her MERB reviews that they held a
lottery for bookings! Never underestimate the power of advertising.

 

[MCTJ]

"girls can be fully booked without any reviews" is it all word of mouth, your reccommendation or what? I find that hard to believe.

Potential clients can easily find escort agencies through Google without even knowing that merb exists. I assume that's the case with many tourists.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yes girls can become hugely popular due to positive reviews, but that doesn't mean that other girls who don't have reviews or barely have any aren't. A lot of indies barely have reviews or a NRP and since they've been around for a while they still have success.

People can easily find out if a SP is legit and can fulfill their needs by looking at her website, social media presence and by discussing what boundaries and expectation are. Not all clients come to this experience with apprehensions and negative expectations, and a lot of them do know what Merb is but choose to not look at it or look at it only rarely.

I can tell a lot of people don't want to book me because the reviews I have aren't graphic enough or by popular enough members, however. And I still get business, so it is what it is.

 

[ForeverEscorts]

If "girls can be fully booked without any reviews" is it all word of mouth, your reccommendation or what? I find that hard to believe. There was this phenomenon a few months ago of a new SP at XXXclusive who became so wildly popular through her MERB reviews that they held a
lottery for bookings! Never underestimate the power of advertising.

Totally agree that reviews are powerful! And yes as I said some clients don't want to review and some are simply not on the platform (ex. we are on Google and Twitter), so if the girl is fully booked, she is (reviews or not).

 

[philonius]

Potential clients can easily find escort agencies through Google without even knowing that merb exists. I assume that's the case with many tourists.

100%. I didn't even know about this place until someone I'd seen had asked about a review and I had to look it up.

 

[philonius]

I don think I have seen more than 12-13 different women in the 10 years I have been around and I haven’t written many or a single negative review simply because I have never had a bad enough experience to warrant affecting someone’s reputation negatively.
The ladies I see regularly one is no longer active and the other has enough positive reviews that she doesn’t need mine to bolster her business.

Same. I haven't had any cautionary tales and write reviews for myself mainly and only if I had a great time. I'm also fortunate to not have to worry about money so much so I can see who I want at my discretion, as opposed to having to take a chance on someone specifically bc they're at a lower price point.

 

[piecurious]

Like anything, this platform has its good and its bad sides. In my opinion, if it’s to remain neutral and true to its purpose, privileges should have no place here. I often receive requests from clients asking if they can get discounts in exchange for good reviews (which I decline). The girls often hear clients calling themselves “valuable members” : whether it’s to reassure them or to convince them to offer better services (like BBFS) which I don’t think should happen. The worst I’ve seen is requests for free “samples” of extras in exchange for the potential of a future review. To me, this clearly sets the industry back. The goal should be genuine, authentic encounters, and all these attempts to gain privileges just make the interaction feel more mechanical and transactional. That’s my two cents.

Well said—I applaud your stance and appreciate your response. You’re absolutely right that SPs often encounter clients claiming the status of “valuable members,” and you’re also correct about why that happens. However, they sometimes hear that status reinforced by certain bookers (e.g., “big MERB client is up next—be your best” or “sorry he did that to you, but we can’t block him because he’s a prolific reviewer”). I think we can all agree that this puffing up of message board clients—tipping the power dynamic in their favor and using subtle forms of coercion, pressure, or manipulation to grant them special treatment or excuse misconduct—should not be enabled from the agency side. And if it is, I hope steps are being taken to put a stop to it. (This is a general comment to all agencies, not singling anyone out.)

As you note in a later post, the link between reviews and an SP’s success isn’t exactly one-to-one, as evidenced by unreviewed SPs who are still consistently fully booked. And so, granting undue privileges or impunity for misconduct to a message board client is not only an unethical disservice to the SPs working for an agency—it may well be business-neutral at best and may even be more of a liability, as it risks higher turnover, increases STI spread risk (thinking of the repeat boundary-pushers here who are never blocked), and can damage future recruiting through reputational harm.

Thanks to all agency representatives and indies who have shared their perspectives on this matter. It’s encouraging to see broad agreement on practices that serve the best interests of the industry.

 

[Sean007]

I find that reviews are meant to reassure other members that a girl is genuine, likes what she is doing, offers typical GFE experience (that is what I’m looking for so that is what I share). Was she pleasant for me, is her hygiene good. The rest is between her and I. I know some reviewers are much more graphic, that is on them and it is fine. I like to keep what happened between me and a lady between her and I. I would never barter a review for free services or a bargain price.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Well said—I applaud your stance and appreciate your response. You’re right that SPs often hear clients describe themselves as “valuable members,” and you’re also right about the reasons why. However, they sometimes hear that same language reinforced by certain bookers (e.g., “big MERB client is up next—be your best” or “sorry he did that to you, but we can’t block him because he’s a prolific reviewer”). I think we can all agree that this puffing up of message board clients—tipping the power dynamic in their favor and using subtle forms of coercion, pressure, or manipulation to grant them special treatment or excuse misconduct—should not be happening on the agency side. And if it is, I hope active steps are being taken to put a stop to it. (This is a general comment to all agencies, not singling anyone out.)

As you note in a later post, the link between reviews and an SP’s success isn’t exactly one-to-one, as evidenced by unreviewed SPs who are still consistently fully booked. And so, affording undue privileges or granting impunity for misconduct to a message board client is not only a disservice to the SPs working for an agency—it may well be business-neutral at best and may even be a liability, as it risks higher turnover, increases STI spread risk (thinking of the repeat boundary-pushers here who are never blocked), and can damage future recruiting through reputational harm.

Thanks to all agency representatives and indies who have shared their perspectives on this matter. It’s encouraging to see broad agreement on practices that serve the best interests of the industry.

I honestly really hope that the owners of this board take this matter seriously, for everyone's sake, and keep the users accountable. It's not just about BBFs. In my opinion, anyone who does things that could be considered violent & boundary pushing to SP should be banned from the board. It makes things difficult for both clients and providers.

 

[Sean007]

I honestly really hope that the owners of this board take this matter seriously, for everyone's sake, and keep the users accountable. It's not just about BBFs. In my opinion, anyone who does things that could be considered violent & boundary pushing to SP should be banned from the board. It makes things difficult for both clients and providers.

Jerks searching for BBFS needs a serious reality Check and should be blacklisted by this forum and by the girls (i guess it is already the case that you ladies share the name(s)? of any jerk(s) trying to get BBFS.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Jerks searching for BBFS needs a serious reality Check and should be blacklisted by this forum and by the girls (i guess it is already the case that you laides share the name(s)? of any jerk(s) trying to get BBFS. I

Obviously they should. One issue is that some clients ask in person and not through text and now they know that some idiots use other member's handles to ask us so they can just give us their handles by text and not prove it. Verbal abuse, humiliation, other types of boundary pushing (non consensual acts, physical aggressiveness & violence) are also things multiple providers have had to deal with, including with certain merb users. It would be great if we could just report abusive members to the mods but I'm not sure if it's realistic..

 

[anatomy]

Obviously they should. One issue is that some clients ask in person and not through text and now they know that some idiots use other member's handles to ask us so they can just give us their handles by text and not prove it. Verbal abuse, humiliation, other types of boundary pushing (non consensual acts, physical aggressiveness & violence) are also things multiple providers have had to deal with, including with certain merb users. It would be great if we could just report abusive members to the mods but I'm not sure if it's realistic..

The problem with that is what you may consider abusive behavior and boundary pushing may not be for another SP.

 

[anatomy]

The problem with that is what you may consider abusive behavior and boundary pushing may not be for another SP.

Is there to be a uniform rules of conduct to govern all situations?

 

[LeDodo]

The problem with that is what you may consider abusive behavior and boundary pushing may not be for another SP.

No confusion when the SP stated in her information what is acceptable or not.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

The problem with that is what you may consider abusive behavior and boundary pushing may not be for another SP.

Obviously. That's why everyone has different boundaries, which are often stated in our ads and discussed during the booking process. That's why I always ask for people's expectations when they are booking me, because if they are looking for an experience I cannot provide I don't want anyone to be disappointed. (or on the contrary, they will be pleasantly surprised if I say that I can accommodate an experience!)

One example of this is a client, no idea if he is a merb user or not, who asked for a PSE service from someone and gave me her name as a reference. I explained several times that I'm GFE and what my limits are. When I was with him, he yanked my hair, choked me and spat all over my face. Some people enjoy this type of experience if it's been discussed beforehand, but it was not. To me that is abusive. I don't see how you can look at this any other way.

Not all SP have the same boundaries, and crossing that boundary is unacceptable. It's not really that hard to respect consent.

 

[MCTJ]

Is there to be a uniform rules of conduct to govern all situations?

Consent.