Ask us anything part 3

[LeDodo]

My head on your shoulder, our hands on thighs, exchanging a look and a laugh when a funny scene comes up, discussing of the movie afterwards, whispering a few dirty things during the movie; watching a movie for me is always a shared experience. I bet you never had a good movie companion :- )

If you bring me to a scary movie I will need somewhere to hide and put my head

 

[Giselle Montreal]

If you bring me to a scary movie I will need somewhere to hide and put my head

Sorry, I am not the right girl for a scary movie, I just can't watch those!

 

[PatHibulaire]

My head on your shoulder, our hands on thighs, exchanging a look and a laugh when a funny scene comes up, discussing of the movie afterwards, whispering a few dirty things during the movie; watching a movie for me is always a shared experience. I bet you never had a good movie companion :- )

Merci Gisele, I always liked to read your comments during my 2 weeks of reading this thread. I certainly see your point. Let me assure you that I had very pleasing movie watching experience lol. Again judging by the answers I got it may not be a very good idea to propose a personal date like that. Merci pour m'avoir partagé ton opinion. Je pense que c'est a ça que sert ce thread.

 

[LeDodo]

Sorry, I am not the right girl for a scary movie, I just can't watch those!

Your head on my chest, your hands holding tightly my arm, exchanging few screams but never looking at the screen, telling ourselves afterwards we will never watch it again, hiding under the blanket the whole night because we have post traumatic images of the movie, that's a good dating night idea

 

[LeDodo]

I actually recently had this thought about scary movies. Somehow the women that I like like scary movies ...
I was telling myself that watching a scary movie is one of the silly things I would do just to be close to her ...

Any silly things you did or you will do just to be close to someone? Or for someone to like you?

 

[LC18]

Thanks for your answer. Certainly don't want to start an argument here, I see your point but I don't believe that going to watch a show after having a 4 hrs dinner date in a nice restaurant compares to working a full day for free. I'm not asking for a free GFE date. But again I asked your for your feelings and I understand for you it's a no-no. Thank you.

I pray for the day you guys will start realizing that spending time with you is our job. Doesn’t matter what we do:

Cooking
Fucking
Sleeping
Counting ants
Riding a Uber

I don’t care. It’s time that I have decided to spend with you when I could be doing something at home for myself.

You guys would hate it if your employer decided to not pay you because you are drinking coffee and not working. It’s still within the hours of your work shift and you deserve to be paid for that just like we do when we decide to go have a coffee with you

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I'm a fairly new member of MERB and I just finished reading this long, very informative and addictive thread. Thank you Lena for starting it. Often in life, there is more to be learned about the person who is asking the question than about the answer itself!.

My first question for the lady's is as follows :

If a regular client that you appreciate and see for 2 hrs dates and 4 hrs dinnerdates regularly asked you if you would consider accompanying him to watch a movie or a show free of charge following one of your regular 4 hrs dinnerdate at regular price, how would you feel?

I'm asking because I respect what SW's do for society and for me in particular and would never want to offend a person I truly appreciate by asking her a freebie either for an intimate date or a social date in a bar or restaurant. That said, I would never pay hundreds of dollars just to have a person to sit next to me during a show knowing full well that nothing will happen except maybe holding hands.

Thank you ladies for taking time to answer this question.

I understand why you're asking this question and while I get why you don't want to pay a lot of money if you can't touch the SP, some of us have a social rate. I've allowed clients I already knew to hold my hand during a movie but they still paid for social time.. but generally social time doesn't involve any kind of physical affection.

I think 2h and 4h dates are very generous etc and I think some SP might accept it but many of us wouldn't.. personally I probably wouldn't because I often don't have the time and energy, unless it was a special occasion. It shouldn't be taken personally that the SP can't do this...

You're paying for the person's time. If I'm going to see a movie, I will go alone or with a friend on my own time.. I hope this helps

 

[Fradi]

This will do nothing in answering my original question, but I will make a poll asking merb clients to self-rate their physical attractiveness, once my current poll on friendship ends. Should be interesting.

There is one large factor that you are missing.
Like most men it is not that I can’t attract women at all that I see escorts the problem is that I am not attracted to the ones that I can easily attract.
In my younger days it would never have entered my mind to see escorts as I could pretty much find as many as I wanted.

Obviously what I am talking about is that while I would have lived 2 lifetimes with my wife and she was just as gorgeous when she aged, that does not hold true for women that I am not head over heels in love with.
Women in my age bracket do not attract me at all even if they fall into being the most attractive for their age. Now attracting one half my age unfortunately does not work well even if you are decent looking for your age.

Then there is the other matter that most of these women come with a shit load of baggage, they have already managed to screw up their life maybe more than once and all they want is a financial benefactor plus who on earth wants to deal with their lunatic families and mine would have a real hard time accepting them after their mom.

It sometimes has nothing to do with how attractive you are that you see escorts, sometimes it is just way easier to have zero commitment and to see someone who is really gorgeous in your eyes and if you are lucky enough like me then you manage to find an escort who is not only gorgeous and kind but one that you become close friends with.

 

[Fradi]

I pray for the day you guys will start realizing that spending time with you is our job. Doesn’t matter what we do:

Cooking
Fucking
Sleeping
Counting ants
Riding a Uber

I don’t care. It’s time that I have decided to spend with you when I could be doing something at home for myself.

You guys would hate it if your employer decided to not pay you because you are drinking coffee and not working. It’s still within the hours of your work shift and you deserve to be paid for that just like we do when we decide to go have a coffee with you

I can cook
I can sleep
I can count ants
I don’t need an uber I have a car.

That leaves only one thing and for that luckily I have hundreds of choices.

 

[PatHibulaire]

I pray for the day you guys will start realizing that spending time with you is our job. Doesn’t matter what we do:

Cooking
Fucking
Sleeping
Counting ants
Riding a Uber

I don’t care. It’s time that I have decided to spend with you when I could be doing something at home for myself.

You guys would hate it if your employer decided to not pay you because you are drinking coffee and not working. It’s still within the hours of your work shift and you deserve to be paid for that just like we do when we decide to go have a coffee with you

I understand why you're asking this question and while I get why you don't want to pay a lot of money if you can't touch the SP, some of us have a social rate. I've allowed clients I already knew to hold my hand during a movie but they still paid for social time.. but generally social time doesn't involve any kind of physical affection.

I think 2h and 4h dates are very generous etc and I think some SP might accept it but many of us wouldn't.. personally I probably wouldn't because I often don't have the time and energy, unless it was a special occasion. It shouldn't be taken personally that the SP can't do this...

You're paying for the person's time. If I'm going to see a movie, I will go alone or with a friend on my own time.. I hope this helps

Thank you Lena, Luna and everybody who gave me their opinions. I get it now, time is time. What we are buying from S.P.'s is time, (everybody's most precious commodity) whether it is intimate, social or leisure. Asking for free leisure time is asking for a freebie. And the provider is free to do what she wants with her own time with whomever she chooses to spend it with. Also the S.P. might feel pressured to accept something for fear of damaging a good relationship with a regular. I for one don't want that. Finally I'm glad I asked and I certainly learned something today.

 

[philonius]

Here's a question: Are there times you consciously try not to cum, when with a client? I know everyone has different post-orgasm refractory periods so I'm wondering if there's scenarios where you deliberately hold out, like if the session is a long one or if it becomes too sensitive immediately following or you know your horniness might wane afterwards? I wonder genuinely bc I do this sometimes, mainly just to stay on the razors edge of climax, and I'm curious if there's more reasons to do it since continued/prolonged intimacy may be expected.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Thanks for your answer. Certainly don't want to start an argument here, I see your point but I don't believe that going to watch a show after having a 4 hrs dinner date in a nice restaurant compares to working a full day for free. I'm not asking for a free GFE date. But again I asked your for your feelings and I understand for you it's a no-no. Thank you.

Bottom line is you are nothing more than a John, no matter how much money you spent, it remains a transaction, never forget it.

 

[Rebaynia]

Here's a question: Are there times you consciously try not to cum, when with a client? I know everyone has different post-orgasm refractory periods so I'm wondering if there's scenarios where you deliberately hold out, like if the session is a long one or if it becomes too sensitive immediately following or you know your horniness might wane afterwards? I wonder genuinely bc I do this sometimes, mainly just to stay on the razors edge of climax, and I'm curious if there's more reasons to do it since continued/prolonged intimacy may be expected.

Not at all. After 1 they get easier, and they can keep coming. The more I get the more I want. If I try to hold out on purpose, it might not happen at all after.