Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

Here's a question for clients. Aside from the obvious stuff like physical and verbal abuse, what would be a good reason for a provider not to want to see a client or for her to stop seeing him? What is a valid criticism you listened to, that made you change your behavior?

Question for providers : what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously? I have my own answers but I'm curious about yours

The reason why I'm asking is because sometimes I feel like clients are a bit clueless about how their own actions can be harmful, and it's good for them to be educated so they won't repeat the same mistakes

Since I started one of the issues I have had to fire clients for, were the ones who tried to push the client/relationship bounds. Like someone who wants daily attention, asking for personal information. When a client starts asking for the type of attention and conversations I have with my Master. I only have enough relationship social meter to entertain 1 person to a daily and intense degree. Otherwise I enjoy less intense temporary/momentary relationships with those I am in contact with.

 

[Vardhan945]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

 

[LC18]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

Read the room

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

Right? Why don’t we? Being detained and questioned for hours by custom agents before being sent home with a 10-year ban is very « win win ».

 

[Vardhan945]

Read the room

I searched "usa" in this thread didnt see an explanation like Giselle just provided.
So its not really in the room, metaphorically speaking

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

We talked about it often on this board, but it’s probably mixed with other topics.

 

[Vardhan945]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

 

[rightime1]

its so hard to feel good about spending any non-essential time in the USA. for work yes, see family, ok, but other than that, seriously, FUCK OFF.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

I think you forget we don’t work in offices? That we can’t work in the US especially not as a SP? My employer is not sending me to a conference in Las Vegas every three months darling.

 

[LC18]

I searched "usa" in this thread didnt see an explanation like Giselle just provided.
So its not really in the room, metaphorically speaking

Even without it being explicitly written here. You should know it’s illegal to do sex work in the US and you should know that the situation there right now is less than ideal

 

[Vardhan945]

Even without it being explicitly written here. You should know it’s illegal to do sex work in the US and you should know that the situation there right now is less than ideal

OK my bad

 

[rightime1]

and yeah, wishing for everyone here in MTL to be safe in their work and leisure activities

 

[Frozen]

..but the political situation is overblown.

I don't ordinarily comment on such things and not to pile on here but you're kidding right? I can't tell if you're being intentionally understated or being reductive about the current political climate.

 

[Vardhan945]

I don't think anyone wants a drawn-out political thread, but I'll say my final piece here:

MAGA is full of hot air and theatrical rhetoric. Most of the outlandish stuff they say doesn't pan out to anything materially impactful for most people - in this case, I'm skeptical that Trump's harsh rhetoric and trade war shenanigans will mean a whole lot Canadians crossing the border.

With that being said, another poster here informed me of harsh scrutiny and interrogations faced by SPs coming to the US, so fair enough. I was ignorant of the issues SPs faced specifically.

There are countries the U.S. has serious longstanding tensions or is almost at war with - Iran, China, Belarus.
I've traveled to both Iran and China. Transiting to and back from both countries was mostly fine (got held up and questioned for 2 hours coming back from Iran but it was more annoying than traumatic & I kinda expected it).

I guess I have a much higher risk threshold for changing what I do based on international political tensions.
The shit between the U.S./Canada is child's play compared to that...even though it may be making the news in Canada even most political people here barely think about it.

Hope that clears things up as to why my appraisal of the current political situation is different from everyone elses. Admittedly, I was dead wrong on expecting SPs to come here.

 

[Johnny test]

There is a political section here https://merb.cc/xenforo/forums/politics-religion-international-affairs.79/ just went there and had to wash my eyes.
the reason why there is one is we don't want/allow political discussions elsewhere

 

[LC18]

Regular people with regular jobs have been questioned at the borders and detained. It’s no longer a “suspicious travellers” thing

 

[urquell]

I don't think anyone wants a drawn-out political thread, but I'll say my final piece here:

MAGA is full of hot air and theatrical rhetoric. Most of the outlandish stuff they say doesn't pan out to anything materially impactful for most people - in this case, I'm skeptical that Trump's harsh rhetoric and trade war shenanigans will mean a whole lot Canadians crossing the border.

With that being said, another poster here informed me of harsh scrutiny and interrogations faced by SPs coming to the US, so fair enough. I was ignorant of the issues SPs faced specifically.

There are countries the U.S. has serious longstanding tensions or is almost at war with - Iran, China, Belarus.
I've traveled to both Iran and China. Transiting to and back from both countries was mostly fine (got held up and questioned for 2 hours coming back from Iran but it was more annoying than traumatic & I kinda expected it).

I guess I have a much higher risk threshold for changing what I do based on international political tensions.
The shit between the U.S./Canada is child's play compared to that...even though it may be making the news in Canada even most political people here barely think about it.

Hope that clears things up as to why my appraisal of the current political situation is different from everyone elses. Admittedly, I was dead wrong on expecting SPs to come here.

You keep referring to the risk, but what you're glossing over is the desire to go to the US. A vast number of Canadians simply don't want to go given the current climate, whether there would be any border issues or not. People are more angry than fearful, but yes, there's a segment of people that have understandable fears about crossing the border too, be it for work or anything else. It's probably a bear that doesn't need more poking here.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

If it was super easy to cross the border, I doubt any girl would work in Montreal. We would go to the USA every two weeks and we wouldn’t bother advertising in Montreal.

 

[Fradi]

You keep referring to the risk, but what you're glossing over is the desire to go to the US. A vast number of Canadians simply don't want to go given the current climate, whether there would be any border issues or not. People are more angry than fearful, but yes, there's a segment of people that have understandable fears about crossing the border too, be it for work or anything else. It's probably a bear that doesn't need more poking here.

I for one will not step foot in the US for at least 3 more years even though I have many relatives there ( told them to visit me here as they are dual citizens).
I can just as easily vacation in Europe in the summer in the Caribbean or Mexico in the winter where they will be more than happy to take my money.