Asking an escort to go out?
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jeff jones said:The bottom line is you already paid her for sex, so she sees you as a John. Even if you did take her out she will always see you as a John first. Your chances of changing that image are about the same odds as winning the main prize in back to back lotto 6/49 draws, so my advice to you is to forget it
That's also the way I see things.
there is a huge step between being a client and being involved in a relationship with that same person...
jeff jones said:The bottom line is you already paid her for sex, so she sees you as a John. Even if you did take her out she will always see you as a John first. Your chances of changing that image are about the same odds as winning the main prize in back to back lotto 6/49 draws, so my advice to you is to forget it
Not to mention that this winning 6/49 ticket would be a group ticket!!!!!
Wow : Cynical crowd
She's is a woman who is human who may very well be the right woman for you (and vice-versa).
If she's hot and a good actress though it may be quite easy to get caught up in this. Keep seeing her for now, if it's just sex that you enjoy you will most likely tire of it, if you are REALLY compatible with her then she may even ask YOU out! It's worth a shot but my advice is not to rush it and be aware of the issues everyone has raised, notably:
A girl in this biz may be more money-hungry than average, among other issues. Can you accept her still working / replace the income she'd have
to give up to be exclusive with you? Have you tried going after normal women instead? There are many out there and if you have the looks/charm/size (of wallet that is) to snag an escort then maybe try hitting on a waitress/barmaid/salesgirl or use a dating site for that matter!
My other advice is to make sure time on a "real date" is really off the clock, dinner fine but no big gift requests or anything. If you are going to be a sugar daddy and be with someone who clearly values you only for your wallet then you aren't going to find the emotional sustenance you crave and are better off with the fun and excitement of a variety of escorts.
Reminder : to be her exclusive sugar daddy, you will have to be able to replace all her current johns in terms of $... you gotta be SERIOUSLY loaded.
wimbledon said:
She's is a woman who is human who may very well be the right woman for you (and vice-versa).
If she's hot and a good actress though it may be quite easy to get caught up in this. Keep seeing her for now, if it's just sex that you enjoy you will most likely tire of it, if you are REALLY compatible with her then she may even ask YOU out! It's worth a shot but my advice is not to rush it and be aware of the issues everyone has raised, notably:
A girl in this biz may be more money-hungry than average, among other issues. Can you accept her still working / replace the income she'd have
to give up to be exclusive with you? Have you tried going after normal women instead? There are many out there and if you have the looks/charm/size (of wallet that is) to snag an escort then maybe try hitting on a waitress/barmaid/salesgirl or use a dating site for that matter!
My other advice is to make sure time on a "real date" is really off the clock, dinner fine but no big gift requests or anything. If you are going to be a sugar daddy and be with someone who clearly values you only for your wallet then you aren't going to find the emotional sustenance you crave and are better off with the fun and excitement of a variety of escorts.
Reminder : to be her exclusive sugar daddy, you will have to be able to replace all her current johns in terms of $... you gotta be SERIOUSLY loaded.
Hi all again,
I really appreciate all giving me valuable insights and advices.
honestly, i havent really thought of the relationship becoming romantic...i was just hoping to start as friendship type...since she seems to be a pleasant person to talk with...so i was thinking why not becoming friends...
you are right...i guess i will just ask her for a casual outing in a friendly manner....but as you all mention...maybe i should take it slowly... not wanting to scare her off or giving her wrong impression...
i think trying hitting on waitress/barmaid/saleslady are hard..well, at least for me....my friends always tell me just go try it..but i dunno...i just couldnt get over my shyness...
i dont think i am very loaded....i have a decent job, i guess if she needs helps, i guess i could help her from a friend perspective...but i dont think i will be able to replace all her income....^^;;;
just curious...so if escort has a bf, typically do they quit as SP and find jobs in non-sex business environment?
Thanks again to all merb members for the advices and thanks to ms ariane valmont, kimthesexystripper, Sexy_BBW_Véro and thebitchelor for the insights from a girl perspective.
I really appreciate all giving me valuable insights and advices.
honestly, i havent really thought of the relationship becoming romantic...i was just hoping to start as friendship type...since she seems to be a pleasant person to talk with...so i was thinking why not becoming friends...
you are right...i guess i will just ask her for a casual outing in a friendly manner....but as you all mention...maybe i should take it slowly... not wanting to scare her off or giving her wrong impression...
Dr Edgar Who said:
i think trying hitting on waitress/barmaid/saleslady are hard..well, at least for me....my friends always tell me just go try it..but i dunno...i just couldnt get over my shyness...
i dont think i am very loaded....i have a decent job, i guess if she needs helps, i guess i could help her from a friend perspective...but i dont think i will be able to replace all her income....^^;;;
just curious...so if escort has a bf, typically do they quit as SP and find jobs in non-sex business environment?
Thanks again to all merb members for the advices and thanks to ms ariane valmont, kimthesexystripper, Sexy_BBW_Véro and thebitchelor for the insights from a girl perspective.
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happyguy said:
Search your feelings Luke, are you really interested in this girl for friendship not romance and sex? Personally, I'm skeptical.
Friends with benefits
Pleazzzze! lolll
Woman and Man = 2 completely differents way to express/understand their feelings.
Pleazzzze! lolll
Woman and Man = 2 completely differents way to express/understand their feelings.
happyguy said:
I don't think you were clumsy at all.
But maybe you are not 100% honest with yourself about your feelings. Just a thought.
anyway it's never the same thing after
when you tell I LOVE YOU
it's never the same thing after
for she you are the client
like you tell I love you a la personne a la caisse chez IGA
even if she est gentille avec toi
tu reste son client
but try
dans la vie qui essai rien na rien
une fois dit donne nous en des nouvelle
when you tell I LOVE YOU
it's never the same thing after
for she you are the client
like you tell I love you a la personne a la caisse chez IGA
even if she est gentille avec toi
tu reste son client
but try
dans la vie qui essai rien na rien
une fois dit donne nous en des nouvelle
10-4Roger said:- When things will go bad, she will remind you that you were a client.
- When things will go bad, you will remind her she was an escort.
and even if thing go good you're both gonna think about that possibility
I was reading this thread but nobody shared his / her own experience dating a professionnal. Been asked maybe 2 times by MPs but I think I said no before she even finished her sentence. One time I regretted though, so it's up for you... To me it looks like trouble.
casual outing in a friendly manner!
Well then, how about this? Date her, on your terms not hers. Let her fall in love with you. Hold back your feelings.
Keep it n your head that you will date her if that is what she is up for. Gauge her reaction. If after a romantic date she is phoning you but the reaction is more impersonal and demanding then you have your answer. If she has upped the process to more of an intimate nature then maybe just maybe you can take it to the next level. That's the part where you ask her to stop escorting and she comes up with 2 or more arguments why you don't understand that the sex really means nothing. Your move..............
Well then, how about this? Date her, on your terms not hers. Let her fall in love with you. Hold back your feelings.
Keep it n your head that you will date her if that is what she is up for. Gauge her reaction. If after a romantic date she is phoning you but the reaction is more impersonal and demanding then you have your answer. If she has upped the process to more of an intimate nature then maybe just maybe you can take it to the next level. That's the part where you ask her to stop escorting and she comes up with 2 or more arguments why you don't understand that the sex really means nothing. Your move..............
No dummies, those Merbites !
I'm a newly registered member yet longtime user of the reviews. Why did I finally register, apart from the obvious ?
Here goes, this tread witnessing among others, similar : it's the quality of the exchages, offered by people who have thought it out and are fairly clear about their own emotions, what they want in life and how they deal with it. There are serious lessons to be drawn from many of the postings.
Hence the intellectual level of many who post is above average for both sexes, and the discussions, often exceptional.
Whether happyguy is better or worse at this stage is a bit irrelevant. We are all ahead (no pun intended).
There are negative exceptions. They are identified and taken care of rapidly. Again a quality of this group.
Merbites are
I'm a newly registered member yet longtime user of the reviews. Why did I finally register, apart from the obvious ?
Here goes, this tread witnessing among others, similar : it's the quality of the exchages, offered by people who have thought it out and are fairly clear about their own emotions, what they want in life and how they deal with it. There are serious lessons to be drawn from many of the postings.
Hence the intellectual level of many who post is above average for both sexes, and the discussions, often exceptional.
Whether happyguy is better or worse at this stage is a bit irrelevant. We are all ahead (no pun intended).
There are negative exceptions. They are identified and taken care of rapidly. Again a quality of this group.
Merbites are
Dauphin said:I'm a newly registered member yet longtime user of the reviews. Why did I finally register, apart from the obvious ?
Here goes, this tread witnessing among others, similar : it's the quality of the exchages, offered by people who have thought it out and are fairly clear about their own emotions, what they want in life and how they deal with it. There are serious lessons to be drawn from many of the postings.
Hence the intellectual level of many who post is above average for both sexes, and the discussions, often exceptional.
Whether happyguy is better or worse at this stage is a bit irrelevant. We are all ahead (no pun intended).
There are negative exceptions. They are identified and taken care of rapidly. Again a quality of this group.
Merbites are
i agree! all those comments and insights are very well thought and valuable as well. I appreciate all your helps!
I have been thinking about all your comments the past couples day and be honest with my feeling. I think I have an answer or at least a direction where i want to go
Go ahead and ask. At worst you' ll sound like a cheapskate or someone on a tight budget. She'll just say no.
She may say yes and then stand you up with some off the wall reason.
SPs get asked all the time.
She may say yes and then stand you up with some off the wall reason.
SPs get asked all the time.
ok i have kept quiet on this subject since it was started, mainly because i just dont wanna get involved, but this last post made me wanna say to the original poster that, well, its prob true alot of the time, but im here to say thats not always the case, i have NOT seen many sp's in my short time in this "hobby", but, i have been asked out a few times,(please spare me the nonsense, yes i was asked out, big deal) and it can lead to a good friendship not based just on sex, but based on being a good friend when the sp needs "just" a friend...... sex? sure but with me it's not based on sex, but whats on the inside, just like with any of my other friends......
like the one poster said before, just dont fall in Love, if she says yes to a friendship "outside" her job, then have fun, SP's are human beings just like any other woman you meet
like the one poster said before, just dont fall in Love, if she says yes to a friendship "outside" her job, then have fun, SP's are human beings just like any other woman you meet
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that describes a good portion of MOST human beings, not just SP's, like i said, were all human, we all have faults and that will never change, what it comes down to is a SP is a person just like you and i, and just like you and i, there not perfect, and i for one would not expect them to be, just like i would not expect anyone else to be either
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