Oh for the love of... Can we please not get into these awful discussions again?
Here's the thing, and this is kind of exactly my point, none of you realize or think that the things you're doing and saying are disrespectful, but you're also not the one it's about so you guys don't get to decide what's disrespectful and what isn't.
Some female providers have felt very disrespected by the tone and wording used on a lot of these threads by a lot of these posters, and so that's kind of the end of it. If you would like to know what it is they're finding to be that way, that's perfectly reasonable, but it's not okay to say "well I never felt anything written here was disrespectful to women sooo, I guess it wasn't!".
And here is why I got so upset at the last thread on trans women, and why I will absolutely lose my shit if this starts again, but the words you guys use to talk about them is so problematic and degrading and rude.
"Natural woman vs transgender" nope sorry, a trans women is a natural women too, who was also born a women. The term you should be using is AFAB - assigned female at birth. Gender is a social construct and not the same as a person's sex.
I can understand not knowing how the small words we think are meaningless actually have very loaded meaning behind it, but the thing is that many of our friends, lovers, partners, co workers, and even advertisers on here who are trans, and we get upset seeing the things written about them.
It's true, there's a bit of a blurred line between the lounge and reviews. Reviews themselves for the most part do serve several purposes, but the lounge is where people end up showing a lot of their views and opinions, both good and bad, but a fair amount of providers feel strongly about several topics discussed on the lounge and feel it's better to remain silent then to join in and get heated.