Wow so I really feel like I have learned a lot in here!
It is so intriguing to me that many of you don't believe Amber when she says what she says. I can back up the fact that she is talking for many of us who don't post on the boards. I have been privy to many of those conversations. It seems odd that you are disputing the things she is saying with no proof, but asking her to provide proof (or, stranger, asking for proof from everyone Amber has ever talked to) for each thing she says.
The transmisogyny in this thread has been eye-opening to me, for example. For no real reason at all, you start discussing whether someones womanhood is legitimate based on your perception of her genitals, or presumptions about her prior genitals. Doesnt that seem kind of disrespectful of you? Especially in a thread where most of you seem to be trying to show me that yall are welcoming of the women you take visits with? Especially considering that, as Amber mentioned, these women are our friends, lovers, families? I'm pretty shocked and disappointed, really. Most of you in reviews say that if you arent attracted to a woman when you met her at the door, you won't take the meeting. Legitimate. Some of you also will post such opinions in the review boards so that other men will know you werent hyped. Usually that includes a description of specific things you found unattractive. How useful in that context, is speculation of a persons genitals now or ever? Why not just talk about what you know and leave people be?
I really want to take a moment to say how much respect I have for the women who have responded in this thread, and how much i appreciate your honesty. I also appreciate those few men who have had more to put forward than vague disbelief that we might not feel like we are supposed to treat the board like a place we are welcomed to with open arms.
Also, sexuality is just whomever tugs at your warm feelings. If you are attracted to women, you are probably gonna be attracted to some and not all, but very infrequently do most people actually have One Specific Type that they never deviate from. So the idea that a person can say "I'm attracted to women but not trans women" is like very silly because there is as much variety within trans women as women who arent, and there arent actually failsafe ways to draw a neat line between those categories, as much as you would like there to be. You could just deal with that, and continue to have sex with women you find attractive and not care so much. Like?
Also whats with the doublethink around "yeah, we totally want you guys to talk to us! But we are having all of these man conversations about man topics that you couldnt possibly relate to as women so i guess you just dont want to talk to us??" What are you actually trying to say, I'm confused? Like, I am glad for and appreciate those of you who have posted things you specifically would like women to weigh in on, but otherwise, how can you simultaneously claim to want to talk to us but not want to talk about anything you think we might be interested in?