Glad to read someone saying this. I always made that argument in threads in which I was arguing that it is fine for young guys to see escorts, and I would always get blasted by others who would say that seeing escorts causes young guys to not work as hard at finding girls their own age for relationships.
Patron, you say this not having met some of the young guys who are posting here, as I have. I can think of two in particular who, because of their age and what they are really looking for, they should not be seeing escorts at this time of their lives. These are young early 30s guys who really want girlfriends, they want a soulmate. Seeing escorts is damaging them. I actually like the two guys a lot, and I care about them as persons- I would like to see them become solid grown men with fully developed social skills. In my judgment and opinion they should remove themselves from the game. One of them, from what he told me, did remove himself, but then he found a girlfriend and now he is hobbying part time. The other one, I think he should take a sabbatical for a few years and see where it goes. He can always come back when he gets older.
I am a little different than jalimon, as I am not totally out of the dating game. Back in the summer, I started seeing a very young lady on Seeking Arrangement. The first date I had with her, I paid her, and I am convinced the date would not have happened had I not made the offer. On our second date I offered her money and she refused. Much to my surprise, she rejected the cash, handed it back to me, and told me she has enjoyed herself and wanted to see where it went. i did continue to pay for her meals and buy her things like chocolates and typical gifts you buy young women. We dated until the end of the summer and then she left to go to her State of origin, telling me she had family issues and that she would return and when she did, she would be in touch. I did not think I would hear from her again but two months later she is back and texting me and we resume what so far is just a regular dating relationship with zero expectations on both sides. And all the while I have continued seeing escorts. I have not had sex with this particular SA girl- lots of kissing and we have discussed sex, but it has not happened yet and I am not pushing for it to happen. This girl has been a bit of a surprise, but I do not have any expectations of anything long term because she is very beautiful and very young and I think it's likely only a matter of time before she meets a guy her own age and I am headed to the bullpen. It's already happened to me once before. However, dating this girl keeps my social skills razor sharp and my shtick razor sharp. Plus, I really like her and we have a lot in common. But at the end of the day I look in the mirror and at our age difference and know we can't be anything more than what we are now, but that it's also OKAY and we are both okay with that, which is why we have worked out. Nobody is pushing to move things along, because we both know there is nothing to move along to beyond where we are, except possibly sex, which we have in fact discussed like two intelligent adults.
Getting back to the subject you brought up of young guys, 35 and under, seeing escorts. The majority, I would say, should not be doing it, and I say that having met some of these young men. But I never told them "hey! you need to get out of the game!!!" They are adults. They have to figure things out for themselves. That is the way the world works. But based on my life experience, having met them etc. I think they should be out of the game for another 10 years or so. If a guy is still single at 40 he likely will be for the rest of his life and maybe by design, and there is nothing wrong with that path, but once it is chosen you then become like me- a lifer in this. I enjoy it for what it is, I don't ever look at escort agencies as a dating service.
