Je respecte ceux qui décide de ne pas parler de ce hobby a haute voix, car notre société n'est pas prête pour comprendre ce hobby, Je travaille depuis plus de 20 ans dans un vice bien plus dommageable pour la société que celui du sexe, et je me dit qu'on a tous un squelette dans notre placard, le bien a juste un beau petit derrière de spinner.
Have you ever openly discussed your hobby with none hobbyist?
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Amen
However, I have a few times. Once in a while my intuition tells me someone I know may be a hobbyist and I will throw out a hint. Once, I met a co-worker in South America. I was asking him about the local language. I said a few words that only a hobbyist would know about during our travels. He pointed it out to me and said no one would know this outside of Rio De Janeiro. Turns out he used to take part in the hobby before marriage. He took me to all his favorite old stomping grounds. The next time back we would check out clubs when we traveled around Brazil. It was awesome. I'm so glad I mentioned this.
It takes one to know one.
I've told many folks from my real life. Most of them had already guessed something was going on given the number of trips to Montreal. That being said, a couple of friends I told in England literally kneeled and bowed at my feet, chanting "Oh Great One", as they never had the nerve to do it themselves....LOL. Told a friend of mine in the last few months and not only does he want to plan a trip, but he's offerred to pay my way....LOL....no really. Most of your male friends have only had dreams about what we've done. You'd also be amazed at how females accept the lifestyle and are even curious. Hell, I even told my little sister and she didn't blink an eye. Would I publish it to the entire world, no. But then you don't tell everyone your business anyways.
I'll be honest in that I was not nearly as agressive telling people in my real life until a real low life Montreal scum bag (whose name Fred Zed has prohibited me from mentioning) had one of my business associates threatened right near my business location. After that I just figured that I'd beat that piece of s__t to the punch and essentially innoculate myself with open disclosure. Turned out just fine.
I'll be honest in that I was not nearly as agressive telling people in my real life until a real low life Montreal scum bag (whose name Fred Zed has prohibited me from mentioning) had one of my business associates threatened right near my business location. After that I just figured that I'd beat that piece of s__t to the punch and essentially innoculate myself with open disclosure. Turned out just fine.
Same for me - no one knows about my parallel life. Both are enjoyable though.
Note that I do appreciate the sharing through this Board. Thanks to all for your input, advice and warnings. Always appreciated!
Note that I do appreciate the sharing through this Board. Thanks to all for your input, advice and warnings. Always appreciated!
L
Lily from Montreal
SylvainP...c'est vrai qu'il faut savoir a qui le dire mais parfois on crois connaitre les gens et penser qu'ils sont ouverts mais finalement c'était juste une illusion...
It is true that you should know who to tell but sometime you think someone is open but when you tell them it turn out to be false...
I told only once to a friend that I was a sp (that was when I started as indy) and since she was a masseuse I thought she would be the most understanding,no...she freaked,as if because her she used only her hands for the happy ending it was fine but not ok for me to do the deed...
I decided then never to tell another person beside the hobby...
It is true that you should know who to tell but sometime you think someone is open but when you tell them it turn out to be false...
I told only once to a friend that I was a sp (that was when I started as indy) and since she was a masseuse I thought she would be the most understanding,no...she freaked,as if because her she used only her hands for the happy ending it was fine but not ok for me to do the deed...
I decided then never to tell another person beside the hobby...
never, she is not ready for that, she prefers meeting regular people... but thats very hard because her standards are high lol
Well it’s not my special little secret anymore.
I came out to one my closest friends yesterday, there was an opportunity in the conversation so I took took advantage of it and slowly eased it in. I knew he wouldn’t judge me but I didn’t expect the reaction I received.
While I was talking to him and telling him my when I started, the reasons why, how this ‘hobby’ has helped me and what a good experience it has been he started tearing up. I know it sounds weird, him tearing up, but he was by my side while I was going through a really rough time for the last 2 years and he'd always check up on me to see if I was doing ok, especially after everything was over.
He was just so genuinely happy for me, guess to him it meant that I was doing ok :smile:
I came out to one my closest friends yesterday, there was an opportunity in the conversation so I took took advantage of it and slowly eased it in. I knew he wouldn’t judge me but I didn’t expect the reaction I received.
While I was talking to him and telling him my when I started, the reasons why, how this ‘hobby’ has helped me and what a good experience it has been he started tearing up. I know it sounds weird, him tearing up, but he was by my side while I was going through a really rough time for the last 2 years and he'd always check up on me to see if I was doing ok, especially after everything was over.
He was just so genuinely happy for me, guess to him it meant that I was doing ok :smile:
My close friends know and a few come to Montreal in the summer but they are content with Le Gent and spending too much compared to a SP. None have taken the plunge yet but some of the F1 visitors may this year.
I felt the same way. So nice that I can actually talk to him about it.
You know you have a special friend when they are so supportive, and in my case didn't ask for any dirty details.
Well I guess I am Lucky my closest friends are ex bookers and/or hobbyist .
So I can speak freely no stress
Cheers
Booker
Why would you want to see your girlfriend fall? That's odd... partners in crime, or nothing at all, no?
Am I reading it right or is my comprehension of french shit?
All of my close friends are aware of my hobby. Some have joined (Picard you dirty bastard 
).
I am not a rapist and I have been a gentleman, as I am, in almost all of my encounters even when the Woman was not being a lady.
I have no shame. Shame is reserved, imo, for those that do harm unto others.
Unless you're a rapist, an asshole, or hurt people - why should it be held a secret? You go on dates. Everyone goes on dates!
I hobby because I do not have time for real relationships most of the time, is that criminal? Lock me up!
). I am not a rapist and I have been a gentleman, as I am, in almost all of my encounters even when the Woman was not being a lady.
I have no shame. Shame is reserved, imo, for those that do harm unto others.
Unless you're a rapist, an asshole, or hurt people - why should it be held a secret? You go on dates. Everyone goes on dates!
I hobby because I do not have time for real relationships most of the time, is that criminal? Lock me up!
I don't make special efforts to hide it. I don't tell the surviving parental unit because he probably wouldn't approve of the finances as opposed to the actions.
I knew one guy who busted my balls for it but considering he wasn't getting any I just kept busting his balls back until eventually he admitted that if he had the cash he would do the same thing.
I knew one guy who busted my balls for it but considering he wasn't getting any I just kept busting his balls back until eventually he admitted that if he had the cash he would do the same thing.
Recently to a friend in Vancouver I have explain to him that I was seing escorts on a regular basis .
Eve had him read a few reviews !Lol
He tough it was pretty cool and interesting he is just off a 10 years relationship and 2 young daughters from that relationship and no more nookie
Hummmmmm!
Cheers
Booker
Eve had him read a few reviews !Lol
He tough it was pretty cool and interesting he is just off a 10 years relationship and 2 young daughters from that relationship and no more nookie
Hummmmmm!
Cheers
Booker
Gents,
Actually these sound like the reasons critics would use to say you go into the hobby.
There are plenty of sensible reasons to be quiet about it since we all know society has not caught up to the prevailing standards of hobbyists. Just the practical side of preserving your career would be the most obvious reason. People lose jobs these days just for making poorly chosen comments on Facebook that aren't nearly as controversial as seeing escorts. If you are frequently reading Merb and start to think what we do is as acceptable as eating a hamburger and fries ( or poutine) just around and let it be openly known that you pay women for sex and see how it works out.
Don't even confuse what is legal with what is smart to advertise openly. There are a lot of things that are legal to do that could cost you.
Cheers,
Merlot
Actually these sound like the reasons critics would use to say you go into the hobby.
There are plenty of sensible reasons to be quiet about it since we all know society has not caught up to the prevailing standards of hobbyists. Just the practical side of preserving your career would be the most obvious reason. People lose jobs these days just for making poorly chosen comments on Facebook that aren't nearly as controversial as seeing escorts. If you are frequently reading Merb and start to think what we do is as acceptable as eating a hamburger and fries ( or poutine) just around and let it be openly known that you pay women for sex and see how it works out.
Don't even confuse what is legal with what is smart to advertise openly. There are a lot of things that are legal to do that could cost you.
Cheers,
Merlot
Hello Merlot
Excellent reasoning
However it doesn't always apply in my case my partners did not really care if a saw escorts off the clock as long they where not on our payroll
My best friend was a escort Booker he actually encourage me to meet more of his escorts 3somes 4somes even more unlimited fun .lol
However it not bE that great if a Premier or Prime Minister would confess to the hobby Lol
Each situation being different
Cheers
Booker
According to another thread there's more lying going on to hide the hobbying then open discussion about it .
Hummmm
Cheers
Booker
Hummmm
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Booker
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