Ok ! May I inquire to ?:lol:You're right BookerL, but some memories I enjoy keeping to myself
I get a lot of "why are you so happy?" lately from people though lol!
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Booker
Have you ever openly discussed your hobby with none hobbyist?
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Booker
NO! LOL!
Even though my best friend knows about my new lifestyle, I don't even tell him everything!
I bring back something special with every date I have. Let's just leave it at that :smile:
Do you think that in countries where it's legal like Germany, NZ, Australia, you could lose your job for visiting a legal brothel ?
An old co-worker of mine knows. He is also a hobbyist in the strangest kind mind you. The guy used to love visiting foot brothels. LOL. The dude paid $1,000 for a whole evening just ejaculating on girls' feet. If you are in NYC around early to mid-2000s you would heard of Foot Worship Palace. Met the pimp/owner. Very calm and zen like fellow. And no I wasn't stupid/insane enough to partake.
I had a big talk about it this weekend with my dad haha! He thinks I should start a mouvement with the governement to build some sort of subventions program for handicap people like me who doesnt have the budget to see some SPs... Like there is in some Europe country... Ill think about that haha, that could even be a big positive boom for the industry...
Yes Grenouilleforever - civilians are thinking when you told them this, How awful, this is not a good man and I disapprove. You are only a good man if you make yourself a doormat for the opposite sex. That is what a good man does. He gets married and becomes a virtual slave. If she gets tired of you you kiss her ass and pay a big divorce settlement. Then once you heal, you find another woman to serve. it is her turn to use you. This is what civilians think. Fuck this! I am a hobbyist to the core!
Several weeks ago, some friends and I were out riding when one of them, a woman in her late 30s, asked me if I was dating one of the others, also a friend. When I said "No, I have other outlets," she asked if I was referring to fuckbuddies. I laughed and then told her everything. She was thrilled that I trusted her and thrilled that I'm having so much fun. And then she told me that she once worked as a stripper in Ontario while an undergraduate and made $10 K in six weeks.
Quite a few people from my "real" life know what I do, including my brothers and several of my employees, including one young woman who asks me on a near daily basis if I have any new tales to tell.
If I were embarrassed or ashamed of what I do, I wouldn't be doing it.
Quite a few people from my "real" life know what I do, including my brothers and several of my employees, including one young woman who asks me on a near daily basis if I have any new tales to tell.
If I were embarrassed or ashamed of what I do, I wouldn't be doing it.
Hello all,
If you tell people be careful to distinguish between those who are comfortable and approve of it, and those who are taking some kind of mocking, sneering, and sometimes malicious enjoyment in it at our expense.
I think it's great when anyone can live in complete comfort about this lifestyle, and everyone around them seems to accept it as is without any negative moralistic attitudes. But I've seen many many instances of outsiders not only looking at lesser situations as if someone just stepped on their beloved kitty but also making the kind of trouble that interferes with lives and alters them. If anyone can live openly about all of this without worry or fear and be supporting by friends and associates that's quite an achievement because many out would and have made a great deal of trouble over such lifestyles choices. In this case we know there are very dark preconceptions and even if they are largely misguided it doesn't change the risks "coming out" creates, especially when one lives where there is far less tolerance than in Montreal. I don't know of anyone who has come out as a "hobbyist" locally and when I hear the kind of mockery and ridicule and ugliness attached the this subject by people who have very liberal attitudes about many other freestyle entertainment activities it's extremely fortunate for those who can live freely in comfort and approval with pursuing this hobby.
No I'm not saying anyone should feel embarrassed or ashamed about this business. The attitudes of others don't change what this business is or what we should feel, but I would never risk telling. That's not because how others feel but because some make a lot of effort to do real damage about this kind of thing.
Good luck,
Merlot
If you tell people be careful to distinguish between those who are comfortable and approve of it, and those who are taking some kind of mocking, sneering, and sometimes malicious enjoyment in it at our expense.
I think it's great when anyone can live in complete comfort about this lifestyle, and everyone around them seems to accept it as is without any negative moralistic attitudes. But I've seen many many instances of outsiders not only looking at lesser situations as if someone just stepped on their beloved kitty but also making the kind of trouble that interferes with lives and alters them. If anyone can live openly about all of this without worry or fear and be supporting by friends and associates that's quite an achievement because many out would and have made a great deal of trouble over such lifestyles choices. In this case we know there are very dark preconceptions and even if they are largely misguided it doesn't change the risks "coming out" creates, especially when one lives where there is far less tolerance than in Montreal. I don't know of anyone who has come out as a "hobbyist" locally and when I hear the kind of mockery and ridicule and ugliness attached the this subject by people who have very liberal attitudes about many other freestyle entertainment activities it's extremely fortunate for those who can live freely in comfort and approval with pursuing this hobby.
No I'm not saying anyone should feel embarrassed or ashamed about this business. The attitudes of others don't change what this business is or what we should feel, but I would never risk telling. That's not because how others feel but because some make a lot of effort to do real damage about this kind of thing.
Good luck,
Merlot
Greetings all
Well in my case ,I do frequently discuss with non hobbyist ,never had a bad experience yet ,But the ones I do, already knew of my career in Adult entertainment,needless to say ,they don't really see any differences !Lol
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Booker
Well in my case ,I do frequently discuss with non hobbyist ,never had a bad experience yet ,But the ones I do, already knew of my career in Adult entertainment,needless to say ,they don't really see any differences !Lol
Cheers
Booker
In a sense you are dating these girls. I'm sorry but to me there is nothing to be gained by sharing your private life with civilians even if they act amused. I would have just said I am seeing a few young girls in Montreal but nothing serious and that is what I prefer. If they would have probed I would of said they girls I am seeing are just dating material and probably far too young for anything serious. Then they will leave you alone and you are not lyeing.
It's like the Matrix. Most of these civilians are still hooked up to these self-righteous delusional gelatinous vats. They think it is better to waste time dating and going no where pursuing relationships with people who are half assed interested in you and they are sticking around because they are afraid to be alone. ACK!
Also that old co-worker of mine looked at me with disgust and questioned my Montreal hobbying when he was spending $1,000 an evening whacking off to women's feet.
After that it is best to let things be and not disclosing why I visit Montreal and sometimes Toronto when I do. Ah hell compared to many looking back my life is many times more satisfying and fulfilling because I discovered this hobby. I am not stuck in some crappy relationship or at worst being some girlie man door mat like many bros that I see.
Also that old co-worker of mine looked at me with disgust and questioned my Montreal hobbying when he was spending $1,000 an evening whacking off to women's feet.
After that it is best to let things be and not disclosing why I visit Montreal and sometimes Toronto when I do. Ah hell compared to many looking back my life is many times more satisfying and fulfilling because I discovered this hobby. I am not stuck in some crappy relationship or at worst being some girlie man door mat like many bros that I see.
Last week
I spoke about it to a civilian girl that I have met in a Tim Horton's ,she didn't really mind ,but she was only 23 years old
She even wanted to see me again !Lol
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Booker
I spoke about it to a civilian girl that I have met in a Tim Horton's ,she didn't really mind ,but she was only 23 years old
She even wanted to see me again !Lol
Cheers
Booker
Hello all
It is surprising to see people that we know that have had contact with the sex industry .
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Booker
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jonathankeeves
I recently discussed about hobbying with one of my best friend. I booked for him two girls at XO.
First Adriana XO - He experienced a gfe session for the first time and couldn't control his happiness.
Second Jennifer XO - He called me right after the session and I had to ask him to calm down because he just couldn't believe what he experienced lol.
He was too happy with the fact that he could get to feel like a boyfriend with someone whom he had never met before.
First Adriana XO - He experienced a gfe session for the first time and couldn't control his happiness.
Second Jennifer XO - He called me right after the session and I had to ask him to calm down because he just couldn't believe what he experienced lol.
He was too happy with the fact that he could get to feel like a boyfriend with someone whom he had never met before.
I find myself talking more and more about the business to non-hobbyist acquaintances of mine as i get older and hobbying less & less. Recently i've got closer to my father and told him about some of my past experiences, including a couple of affairs i've had over the years with people involved with the business. I even told him about my possible plans to move to Mtl and possibly run my own agency (or work for one) once i retired in the not-to-distant future. Of course, he probably didn't believe half of what i told him, which is alright. I've also spoke about the business to acquaintances, friends and colleagues of mine. Often i left out the $$-exchange part when i talked about some of the great girls i met over the years. Other times i did not since many of those people are smart and could read between the lines.
I've met many women over the years who wound up feeling guilty about what they were doing to earn extra $$ and others who no longer were in the biz but regretted ever being in it because they realized it wasn't accepted by society and it made being in relationships difficult. Some chose to tell their new mates about their past and it wound up blowing up in their faces and their relationships were never the same after this. Others chose not to and found it to be a huge burden in keeping that secret to themselves and not sharing it with their mates. I try to tell them that just because society hasn't accepted it didn't mean that it was necessarily wrong. Society is against a lot of good things and we've seen this through history. More often than not society's views have reversed themselves over decades, if not centuries. I try to make the ladies understand that they shouldn't feel guilty about it and look at the positives. This would help relieve the burden they have by maintaining their 'secret'. I also warn them about the risks involved if they ever chose to tell their new mates about their past. Many will accept it and possibly understand, but most won't unless they've already been involved with the business. Deep down, it's all about trust. You trust someone until you learn they were once an escort. You trust someone until you learn they used to see escorts. It sucks and it should be irrelevant, but it is what it is. Would i be open about my post to a future mate whom i see potential with? Probably not. Unless i'm already aware that she's been in the business and understands what it's all about, that is. Would i be able to trust her knowing that she was an escort? I'm sure i would. But i've always been described as being somewhat different or a bit of an oddball, which i proudly am.
I've met many women over the years who wound up feeling guilty about what they were doing to earn extra $$ and others who no longer were in the biz but regretted ever being in it because they realized it wasn't accepted by society and it made being in relationships difficult. Some chose to tell their new mates about their past and it wound up blowing up in their faces and their relationships were never the same after this. Others chose not to and found it to be a huge burden in keeping that secret to themselves and not sharing it with their mates. I try to tell them that just because society hasn't accepted it didn't mean that it was necessarily wrong. Society is against a lot of good things and we've seen this through history. More often than not society's views have reversed themselves over decades, if not centuries. I try to make the ladies understand that they shouldn't feel guilty about it and look at the positives. This would help relieve the burden they have by maintaining their 'secret'. I also warn them about the risks involved if they ever chose to tell their new mates about their past. Many will accept it and possibly understand, but most won't unless they've already been involved with the business. Deep down, it's all about trust. You trust someone until you learn they were once an escort. You trust someone until you learn they used to see escorts. It sucks and it should be irrelevant, but it is what it is. Would i be open about my post to a future mate whom i see potential with? Probably not. Unless i'm already aware that she's been in the business and understands what it's all about, that is. Would i be able to trust her knowing that she was an escort? I'm sure i would. But i've always been described as being somewhat different or a bit of an oddball, which i proudly am.
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jonathankeeves
Some people would lose their jobs over this. Some employers have a code of conduct you are obligated to follow, and you may have to sign some form of it.
A nice pension, benefits, security, all gone because someone cannot keep a secret. The buddy you confide in today could be your rival next week, or he could be a disgruntled subordinate with a grudge against you.
I do not tell anyone.
A nice pension, benefits, security, all gone because someone cannot keep a secret. The buddy you confide in today could be your rival next week, or he could be a disgruntled subordinate with a grudge against you.
I do not tell anyone.
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